Are You Beautiful or Cute?

One thing I have noticed is that people call me CUTE. I will go shopping and people will say, "Oh, your hair is so cute, or your outfit is so cute." I have never heard anyone say, "Oh, my gosh, you are so beautiful." When I was in my early 40's, I wondered why I was called CUTE and not beautiful and was there a difference?

The first definition of cute is appealing in a pretty or endearing way. I believe when women compliment me and call me cute, they find what I'm wearing and how I chose to put my outfit together along with the way I styled my hair - pretty. My fashion style is a little boho mixed with a little mischief or eccentricity. I like to wear something a little surprising. Whether that is the costume jewelry I choose, shoes, or purse I wear, I try to wear at least one thing a little eye catching, and even my hair may be the focal point. So, I guess CUTE may be the appropriate response.

But MEN always call me CUTE. They usually have a mischievous smile when they say I am CUTE which somehow always made/makes me blush and also have a mischievous smile. I could/can never understand what was going on with this type of exchange. That is until I saw the second definition for CUTE. The second definition for cute is sexually attractive. Wow! Now I'm even more perplexed. Men call me CUTE but never BEAUTIFUL. Why?

There is no shortage of beautiful people. There are the naturally beautiful people then there are the ASSISSTED beautiful people (cosmetic surgery). I did a blog post about beautiful people being winners. 

According to some research, people who are perceived as attractive may have an advantage in life. For example, attractive people may:

• Be more likely to get hired for jobs.
• Have stronger social skills.
• Be considered more dominant, sexually warm, mentally healthy, and intelligent.
• Be more likely to get elected to public office.
• Have an advantage in getting jobs, career advancement, salary, and tips.
• Receive more positive responses when dating.
• Have lower life pressures.

Beautiful people enjoy more perks than cute people. To be considered beautiful means you are pleasing to the senses or mind aesthetically or of a very high standard; excellent. So, being labeled as cute means I am not pleasing to the senses, yet I'm considered sexy. That's strange. Don't men want to have sex with a person who is pleasing to the senses?

The word CUTE definitely doesn't exude sex appeal on its own, but it's a positive word. Just because people associate the word with kids (My husband does hate when I call him cute) and small animals doesn't mean its degrading. Cute has two completely different meanings. A cute girl is not the same as a cute child. Therefore, if you're cute, you are attractive and desirable in your own way. Some boys find a cute girl attractive, fascinating, and possibly a sexual turn-on. They may also feel a sense of pride if a cute girl returns their interest and attention. They may be subconsciously anticipating that cuteness will grow into adult beauty. So, I guess men believe one day I'll become beautiful?

“Evolutionary psychology theory holds that men value current fertility (found in the body) more in a short-term mate and reproductive value (found in the face) in the long term.” Men like BEAUTIFUL women more so for their body and for short term relationships. We all know how attracted a man is by a nice 'butt' and breasts. Women undergo procedures to have the rumps and breasts men want. Their attraction to these features makes a man consider the woman as HOT, not even beautiful or cute and hot women win with men.

It is said you just cannot compare both. Still, majority of boys would go for hot girls/women rather than cute girls/women. Cuteness is adorable but hotness is preferred. Yes, if someone hot is not tasteful to the heart, cute ones would always be preferred. So, I guess I will forever be cute. Are you cute, beautiful, or hot? Here is what is said to make a woman/girl cute:

She evokes a heartwarming feeling. A cute girl makes you feel safe and comfortable to be around. She gives a wholesome and heartwarming feeling. She’s a very good friend, who’s playful with her crush and loves telling jokes and messing around. CHECK

She thrives is a smaller setting. A cute girl is too timid to steal everyone's attention at a party, but she's the one who stands out in a more intimate setting. Everyone wants to be her friend since she's so friendly, approachable, ad trustworthy. If you have a problem or need advice, she's usually the first one you seek. CHECK

She's innocent or a little weird. Cute usually goes with innocent, which is why the word is usually linked with children and pets. However, it doesn't only refer to the girl's looks but also the way she behaves. When she does something or says something a little innocent or weird, you can't help but laugh and say, "Oh my God, you're adorable!" She's not doing this to stand out or to be quirky, it's just the way she is. And we love her for that. CHECK

She's not intimidating. As mentioned before, the cute girl is usually shy and shines better in small settings. She may not be the type of girl that you'd see in a bar and want to hit it off right away. But if you do want to, you'd feel less pressured than when approaching a sexy girl. CHECK

She looks cute. Next on the cute vs hot list, we have appearance. A cute girl looks cute. How do we define a cute appearance? A cute girl wears feminine clothes that enhance her soft features, making her look youthful, but not childish. CHECK

She's a lady in the streets, but a devil in the sheets. She will surprise you with the things she can do when it comes to sex. Because she may look and sound innocence, her sexuality in private may be a welcomed surprise. CHECK

She loves helping others. A Cute girl has a heart of gold. She enjoys helping people. And in a relationship, she's usually the one who takes care of her partner. CHECK

She's a romantic. She's the one who cries while watching romcoms or reading a romance novel that doesn't have a happy ending. Her head is always in her fantasies, where the love of her life is her favorite fictional character. She loves using pet names and being called by pet names. This is also why she has high expectations when it comes to love. Whoever dates her will be a very lucky guy, because he'll get cute texts from her every single day. CHECK

How many checks did you have?

If anything, cute is often preferred when people want to compliment someone, since it carries less emotional significance. Cute Vs. Hot: 16 Unique Traits that Make a Girl Very Sexy or Very Adorable (lovepanky.com)

The hot girl is confident in life and also in the bedroom. She doesn’t mind making the first move and flirting with guys. And she always makes sure that she gets whatever and whoever she likes.

A hot girl exudes sexual appeal. No matter what body shape or what size she is, the hot girl doesn’t mind flaunting her curves.

Passion makes a girl extremely sexy. A hot girl is passionate about everything she does: work, study, life, hobbies, and sex. She’s hard-working and knows exactly what she wants, which might be intimidating, but it helps her eliminate all the men who aren’t good enough for her.

Yes, a hot girl isn’t afraid to show her curves, but she can choose not to and still be sexy. The truth is, a hot girl is hot because she’s hot, not because of some article of clothing *although it can help*. Because once again, beauty is subjective.

Another difference between cute vs. hot is that the cute girl may or may not be opinionated, but a hot girl always stands her ground. She knows what she wants and what she believes in, and she won’t let anyone invalidate her feelings. In the battle of cute vs. hot, the hot girl stands out as someone who is sure of herself and doesn’t care what people think. She does what she likes, follows her dreams, and is not afraid to be herself.

To my surprise, CUTE wins out no matter what others say, in the long run, then hot or beautiful. Usually if a guy calls a girl “cute” it is much more personal and intimate than only the girl being beautiful, because any girl can just be “beautiful”. He might find something endearing or “cute” about you that also goes in hand with your appearance. 

So, thank you to any man or woman who have called me CUTE. I guess it is just my style and essence. 

Oppenheimer For The win

    

    

    Two movies about two different bombs went head to head at the box office the same weekend. Which movie was the box office winner? Did America go for brains or beauty? Physics or biology?

    Oppenheimer is a 2023 epic biographical thriller film written and directed by Christopher Nolan. Based on the 2005 biography American Prometheus by Kai Bird and Martin J. Sherwin. The film chronicles the life of J. Robert Oppenheimer, a theoretical physicist who was pivotal in developing the first nuclear weapon as part of the Manhattan Project, and thereby ushering in the Atomic Age. Oppenheimer is known as the father of the atomic bomb and is portrayed by the delicious Cillian Murphy. 

    The choice of casting Cillian Murphy alone, ensured Oppenheimer be a must see movie. Who can resist his piercing eyes, which execute and ooze stoic toxic masculinity tinged with vulnerability no matter the role he undertakes. Yet we root for his characters, wanting to give the flawed man a chance to change and become a better person. 

   Barbie is a 2023 American fantasy comedy film directed by Greta Gerwig from a screenplay she wrote with Noah Baumbach. Based on the Barbie fashion dolls by Mattel it is the first live-action Barbie film after numerous computer-animated direct-to-video and streaming television films. Sexy Margot Robbie as Barbie. Somehow, unlike most little girls who grew up playing with a Barbie doll, Robbie did have the unrealistic perfect body and wardrobe to die for.

    I earlier referred to two movies about bombs going head to head in the movie theaters. Well, both are about 'bombs.' One movie about an atomic bomb and the other movie about the 'female' equivelant of a bomb. Both were explosive and a massive game changer on the timeline of history.

    In a race to beat the Germans in creating a powerful weapon of war, two types of atomic bombs were created in 1945 by the Americans first, the "Little Boy" and the "Fat Man." On August 6, 1945, the United States dropped its first atomic bomb from a B-29 bomber plane called the Enola Gay over the city of Hiroshima, Japan. The “Little Boy” exploded with about 13 kilotons of force, leveling five square miles of the city and killing 80,000 people instantly. Tens of thousands more would later die from radiation exposure.

    When the Japanese did not immediately surrender, the United States dropped a second atomic bomb three days later on the city of Nagasaki. The “Fat Man” killed an estimated 40,000 people on impact.

    The creation and use of such a powerful weapon of mass destruction changed the face of war. It caused a moral dillema within its creator and led to a race for other countries to obtain their own powerful weapon with the same lethal capabilities. The atomic bomb was lusted after and feared at the same time.

    Barbie, her full name, Barbara Millicent Roberts, was an 11-inch- (29-cm-) tall plastic doll with the figure of an adult woman that was introduced on March 9, 1959, by Mattel, Inc., a southern California toy company. Ruth Handler, who cofounded Mattel with her husband, Elliot, spearheaded the introduction of the doll. Barbie’s physical appearance was modeled on the German Bild Lilli doll, a risqué gag gift for men based upon a cartoon character featured in the West German newspaper Bild Zeitung. The Lilli doll was a 'high class call girl.

    I know you are saying there is no comparrison between an atomic bomb and a doll. And, yes, you're right. One takes lives and the other can take minds. Both had to be put on a handle with 'caution' list due to their destructive qualities. The devastation of both were underestimated in their conception. Each believed to be a good thing when first developed and introduced.

So, it is the next day after the premeire of the two movies. Which scored big at the box office?

 BARBIE      BARBIE      BARBIE    BARBIE   BARBIE   BARBIE   BARBIE     BARBIE

‘Barbie’ Glams Up Summer With $150M+ Opening, ‘Oppenheimer’ Excites $75M+ 

    There you have it. Barbie is still the BOMB and cleaned up in the theaters against Oppenheimer. But not so fast. “Oppenheimer” was the big winner at the 2024 Critics Choice Awards, taking home eight trophies including best picture, director (Christopher Nolan) and supporting actor (Robert Downey Jr.). “Barbie” followed behind with six wins, including best comedy and best song (“I'm Just Ken”). At the Golden Globes, "Oppenheimer" took five prizes including best drama, best director for Nolan, best score, as well as acting wins for Cillian Murphy and Robert Downey Jr. “Oppenheimer” comes in as the Oscar's favorite for best picture, best director and a host of other awards.