Why A Book About Dread Locks? and why you should participate

“Dreads make you look dirty.” “They look like they stink.” “I can’t believe you like that n----- hairstyle.” “No one will ever hire you with your hair like that.”  Welcome to my world; the world of dreads. Dreads tend to evoke strong emotions. Either you love them or you hate them.

Don’t Dread, Dreads is a manuscript about an African American man's/woman’s journey to wearing their hair in dreads. The reader is introduced to the SEED PHASE of the journey: this is the time period when a person contemplates wearing dreads and the negative responses she/he receives from family and friends about the hairstyle. The next leg of the journey is the SPROUT PHASE: this is when she/he jumps in, cuts off all of their permed hair (if they are not already natural) and twists their hair on their own or uses the aid of a professional. This phase parallels the awkward stage of early puberty when self consciousness is rampant. Finally, she/he reaches the FRUIT PHASE: this is when she/he falls in love with their dreads and notices they have changed into a freer, more confident person. She/he also notices how people now love their shoulder length locks, dreaded mowhawk, creative coils, and all of the other awsome lock choices.

PICTURES TELL THE STORY OF THE BEAUTY OF LOCKS

WORDS SHARE THE PASSION AND PERSONALITY OF LOCKS

The manuscript contains interviews and pictures of everyday people and their journey to dreads.

Individuals explain why they chose the hairstyle and how going natural has changed them. Dread myths are debunked and there are a few hair care tips offered. The manuscript sprinkles the history and symbolism of dreads throughout its pages.

I believe Don’t Dread, Dreads is a timely book as the phenomena of natural hair sweeps the Western culture. The conversation about hair sparked by Chris Rock’s movie Good Hair, wages and rages on. My manuscript continues the dialogue. I am an ideal candidate to write this book, because I wore dreads when dreads were not cool. This is a work for those curious about dreads, for those contemplating dreads, wearers or dreads, and those who don’t understand or can’t stand dreads.

                                                                          

Living Life Loving Locks

When I decided to lock my hair, I had no idea it would be more than a hairstyle choice. I dyed them red. Not Kool-Aid red, but red. I felt so empowered. I noticed heads turning to follow me as a waiter or waitress led me to my dining booth. People would come up to me and ask "Who does your hair?" and I would proudly answer "I do my own hair." I soon became jealous when I saw the number increasing of heads sporting locks. Then, I started to feel a sort of pride. It was as if in one look at locked tendrils, people were saying I like/love my natural hair. Now there are dreads swinging between shoulder blades, up in majestic sweeps of coils. it is just beauty in each dread lock style and it seems to match the personality of the wearer. No two individuals of dread wearers seem to be identical which makes dreadlock watching such a fascinating pass time for me. I wrote a lot about locks on my other blog in 2009 that will be a the basis of my book. I still need some lock journeys to let the world know the people behind the hair.

                                                         
Below is a partial piece of an article I found on the hairstyle. The link is provided if you would like to read the entire artilcle.

Dare to dread

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2003/aug/23/features.weekend

Hair has often been used as a symbol of identity - never more so than with dreadlocks. It's more than just a style; it's an attitude, a way of life, inspiring passion and disapproval in equal measure. So why is it more popular than ever, asks Hannah Pool

The Guardian, Friday 22 August 2003

What do you think when you see someone with dreadlocks? Be honest. Maybe you assume that they are a Rastafarian. Perhaps Jamaican. If pressed, might you hazard a guess, they had a liking for listening to reggae and smoking joints - if they're white, might you begin thinking of anticapitalism and road protests? All that based on a person's choice of hairstyle. Or do dreads tell a different story now?

Hair has always carried a special significance of the wearer's sense of self and the image they are trying to project. Hair has also long been connected to religion - Sikhs, orthodox Jews, Buddhists monks are all identifiable by their hair (or the lack of it). But dreadlocks are not just about religion; in fact, most of the dreadlocks you see today have got as much to do with the Rastafarian religion as a short back and sides. On the other hand, to dismiss these newer dreadlocks as just "fashion" dreads also misses the point. Speak to anyone, black or white, with dreads and they will eulogise them. They will tell you that it's more than a hairstyle; it's an attitude, a "dreadhead" mentality, a way of life....

I've always seen dreadlocks as a positive hairstyle, and also a brave one. They come with a burden of responsibility. To you they might be no more than a fashion statement, but others won't see them that way. Yet, despite all the baggage, I've always suffered from a bad case of dreadlock envy. Those with dreads talk about them emotionally, passionately even. And I'd like that passion - I feel as if I'm missing out on something.

As the kind of people who wear their hair in dreadlocks has changed and diversified - they're not just a black thing any more - so too has their meaning. A black person with dreadlocks is no more likely to be a Rastafarian than a white person with a skinhead is a Nazi. And as for white people with dreads, well, these days they are just as likely to be working in an office as demonstrating outside Starbucks. So how did this hairstyle come to symbolise so many different things to so many different people, and where did dreadlocks come from?...

Slowly, dreadlocks became more mainstream. "The clientele has changed," says hairdresser Don Abaka, whose south London salon has specialised in locks for more than 11 years: "I get more professional people, people in their late-20s to mid-30s, who have never had natural hair before. Have you seen how good dreadlocks look with a suit and tie?" Although this new generation of dreadlocks are "fashion" dreads rather than "religious" dreads, they still seem to mean more than any other hairstyle.

The first thing you notice about Carole Tulox, who has curated exhibitions on black heritage, is her dreadlocks. Tumbling gracefully down her back, Tulox's dreadlocks are as fine and beautiful as they are long. I try to visualise her without them, but I can't; they are a part of her. "They work for me on different levels," she tells me. "After years of extensions, I'd forgotten how beautiful it was to feel my own hair. It sounds childish, but it was a form of liberation, a way of making a statement - 'This is me. What you see is what you get.'"

Jessica Edwards, a 31-year-old university lecturer in media, cultural studies and design philosophy, concurs: "My dreadlocks give me a degree of confidence, I hold my head up high. They are a significant part of my personality. It's more than being about aesthetic fashion, it's about philosophy and the way I want to live my life. Dreadlocks have a certain allure, a cultural kudos."

This article (not in it's entirety or order originally written), delivers a unique perspective about the origins of the hairstyle and what it has come to symbolize throughout history.

Real Men Wear Dreadlocks

I have been trying for at least two years now to get an interview with some men, especially athletes. I was very lucky to get a father and son team to do an interview, but I would really love to have some business men and athletes to get their point of view on wearing dreadlocks and to even find out how women respond to their natural hair choice. So once again I am sending out word into cyber space hoping to get a response from a man because I know real men wear dreadlocks.

I tried, and failed to get in touch with some famous football players to get one professional interview. I'm tenacious and never gives up. I will get an interview one way or another. below are just a few famous dreadlock wearers with a story to tell and I hope my readers will be able to read it in my book in the near future.

Some of the atheletes include:
Mike McKenzie New Orleans Saints #34
Laurence Maroney New England Patriots #39
Marshawn Lynch Buffalo Bills #23
Langston Moore Detroit Lions #60
Devin Hester Chicago Bears #23
Josh Cribbs Cleaveland Browns #16
Bob Sanders Indianapolis Colts #21
Al Harris Green Bay Packers #31
Chris Brown Tennessee Titans #29
Larry Fitzgerald Arizona Cardinals #11
Since I do not have a clue as to who is who, I decided you would have to figure it out too.

Layla Dudley Locks

Welcome to 2012!

The change to a new year always brings a sense of hope and new opportunity, and for me personally it's going to be a year of amazing change!

My husband Jeff and I are expecting a baby boy this year in the neighborhood of March 24th! What that means for my business is that my last day in at Imagine (as of now) will be Saturday March 10th. I will be taking at least 2 months of leave then returning part time in early to mid June. I'm excited to welcome this change in my life and wanted to give all of you fair warning that if your resolution is to have some great new hair, please don't hesitate to schedule you time NOW!

At Imagine, we each manage our own schedules, so all the info you need to make an appointment with me is on the contact page -including a link to ONLINE SCHEDULING! That's right, you can now make and appointment with me, day or night, at
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Natural Dreads

I have been fascinated by dreadlock styles for years and in fact, it has been one of the main driving forces on my journey into hair.  For natural dreadlock services, I use a variety of methods which I will recommend to you based on the density, curl pattern, and relative amount of chemical damage to your hair.
What I offer as a natural dread "installation" is really akin to a dread seeding process.  The process of forming mature locks is just that - a process.  It takes lots of work on the part of the dread client to do the regular maintenance necessary to form nicely groomed locks.  It can take anywhere from 6 10 18 months for locks to mature depending on hair type, but mainly on how much time one spends on care.  So that you have a better idea of what is involved, I'm posting my aftercare instructions here: http://www.laylaslocks.com/dreadlocks.html

Laura Hamilton Shared

I received a response on twitter from this fellow dreadlock wearer which I appreciate very much. She has several pictures of her hair in various stages and colors. I chose two pictures to put on this blog but at the end there is a link where you can follow her journey.

A bit of info… my dreads will be 3 years old next month. They were started by backcombing. No wax, no gloop, no lock peppa, no rubber bands, no plaits…

By about 6 months most of them had fallen out, but gradually they locked themselves up, roughly in the same sections. My hair wasn’t ‘formally’ sectioned. My mate just grabbed bits and backcombed them. I had quite a lot of shrinkage but now there is more growth. Some are still shrinking/folding back up on themselves. I’ve congo’d two together, and currently have another congo on the go (4 dreads). I have a lot of beads… glass, wood, metal… and quite a few wraps made with embroidery thread. Last week I made some dread dangle things with hemp cord and beads. I may make more and sell them. I also have peyote stitches, most I’ve made. One I bought and its freaking awesome.

You can follow Laura Hamilton who submitted these pictures and link for my use on her page which offers tips for all of your dread lock questions. Thanks for taking time to share
http://dreadlocktruth.com/dtforums/topic?f=30&t=8804&sid=64d16b7dd14a45ea577970c524c61a86

Dreadlocks Rocked by Supertars

-Krystal Franklin

Within the last couple of years society has embraced the natural hair phenomenon one kinky head a time. Maybe its due to the emerging number of celebrities who have decided to trade in their relaxed tresses for a natural coif. Or it could be that the widely popular documentary, Good Hair, is still the topic amongst girlfriends and hair stylists alike.
Long before sites started dedicating their blogs to the natural hair brothers and sistahs were five celebrities who, for as long as we can remember, wore the now-popular loc’d style. Take a look at some of our favorite dreadlock wearing stars who have taken the look and made it their signature.

1. Jason Momoa

The Hawaiian-born actor is probably best known for his roles on Baywatch and Johnson Family Vacation. We were first introduced to the dreadlocked wearing Momoa in Atlantis: Stargate, and have been hooked on the green-eyed cutie ever since. The newest star on HBO’s new series, Game of Thrones, has two children with partner, actress Lisa Bonet.

2. Goapele

If there was ever someone to have hair envy for, Goapele would definitely top our list. Definitely not new to the natural hair scene, the soulful crooner’s styles have ranged from her waist-skimming locs and twists to intricately designed cornrows and braids.

3. Terry McMillan

Best-selling author Terry McMillan (Waiting To Exhale, How Stella Got Her Groove Back) has worn her fiery red locs for years now. Whether taking to her Twitter with off-handed comments regarding the meteoric rise of Willow and Jaden Smith or thinking Rihanna is a “joke”, she rocks her dreads effortlessly.

4. Ledisi

The Grammy award-winning New Orleans native has been on the scene since 2007 but what most caught our attention was her signature dreads, which she’s admitted, has taken seven years to grow.

5. Whoopi Goldberg

Ever since we can remember, Whoopi Goldberg has always had dreadlocks. Whether long and full or cut into a trendy medium length style, the actress and television host has stayed true to her roots – literally.

Tell us, who are some of your favorite celebrities that rock dreads? Would you ever considering making the transition?

http://www.cocoandcreme.com/2011/07/5-celebs-with-dreads-we-love/

Professional Dreadlocks are not a myth like the Loch Ness Monster

"My locs extend down to the center of my back. My hair is neat and I am very professional and know my job well. I found myself being turned down job after job and I knew it was because of my hair. We cannot allow the system to dictate who we are...we must come together as a body to maintain our individualism. Wear your nappy and be happy. I do and I still keep on striving. Besides someone will eventually hire you. Or you can always work for yourself..."
- Zadok, Computer Networking in USA
 

Do you believe you can be turned down for a job just because of your hairstyle choice? Ten years ago I may have agreed that employers would prefer not to hire a person wearing dreadlocks. But there are so many professional ways to wear your hair while working until the point has become moot. At one time dreadlocks were associated with drug users and matted haired lazy lay abouts (not my view ever) but there was some negativity that was associated with dreadlocks. But we have come a long way baby and styling choices are numerous. Go on youtube and there are more than a hundred ways to wear your hair.

There will always be a time, a place, a boss who will not want to hire a person with dreadlocks. The reality is that looks matter and it's hardly limited to DreadLocks. There can be other reasons other than your hair why a potential employer passed on you. Society in general will always have some prejudices.

Have you noticed that since TV came along we've never elected a truly bald president nor one with facial hair? Seems we very much like our leaders to have hair upon their head, but not on their face. A shaved head & goatee isn't going to get a man very far in politics it seems.

How many political leaders can you name who have visible tattoos? How about corporate executives? I'm betting the number with DreadLocks is similarly small.

The same discrimination applies to men with long hair. A look that works for a rock star, doesn't work for a financial advisor. What has always been needed and what will always be needed to get a job is competency and being well groomed and dreadlocks can be well groomed.

Freedom of Speech is freedom of hair

I can't help but notice how many people are wearing dreadlocks. Wherever I go there is a ponytail of golden tipped dreads brushing the collar of a shirt or some twisted up doo held in perfect position by a few well placed bobby pins. Then there are those luscious mohawk dreadlock swaying with each step.

I think back to the early days when we were told to have a perm and then to wear weaves. Through chemicals or purchased tresses we could have straight hair gracing the creases of our buttocks. We could have 'good' hair. This was the final frontier of assimilation.

Assimilation is a word I have never quite liked. The definition of assimilation is to absorb into a cultural tradition. The Native Americans tried to assimilate by cutting their ponytails and wearing the more acceptable European haircuts and then African Americans began using caustic lye products trying to straighten out the natural kink or coil of their own hair. But, the word assimilate went further into more negative connotations of speech and dating practices. So I never liked the word assimilation being used too freely.

So if assimilation is not the reason for the upswing in dreadlocks gracing the heads of so many people; then what is the answer? Well, for me it was Freedom of Speech. I made friends with my kinky hair and then fell in love with it. During this process, I began getting more compliments and even engaged in conversation as to why I wear my hair in such a way, how do I take care of it, and do I believe they will be successful if they go for it.

After observations and conversations I wanted to write a book about the history of the hairstyle and what was being said or not said about wearing dreadlocks. Is there an upswing in black pride, a political awakening, or is it just a voice saying I am who I am and proud to be so. Is there a story behind DREADLOCKS?

So, I turn to you my friends and ask you to tell this story in my book Don't Dread Dreads: The People Speak.

I have been amazed and inspired by some of the stories I have been told thus far. And to say there are some beautiful dread wearers is an understatement. So help me get the word out. Stop by and join my facebook page http://www.facebook.com/pages/Dreadlocks-picturesinterviews-needed-for-a-book/168731756574119?sk=wall  to engage in some more interesting dialogue. contact me at anytime if you have a question, comment or suggestion at rizerfall@yahoo.com

Ansylla's Story

Photo from google pictures


This is an interview conducted with Ansylla who rocks a great hairstyle. I appreciate her openess to share with us and hope you find her story inspiring.

When did you decide to go natural and why?

In 1996, I noticed that my mother, grandmother and an aunt all had seriously thinning hair. All I could think was, “I AM NOT trying to be bald at 40!” At the time I was wearing my low cut hair texturized, primarily for convenience. I had just moved to DC and learned of a natural hair show at Howard University presented by Cornrows & Co. Now, this was pre-Mapquest and I had no idea how to get to Howard University. But I headed to DC and after getting turned around…and around…and around, I made it when the show was about half over. When I arrived…Man! The natural styles were breathtaking. I had no idea natural hair could be so beautiful. At the end of the show, Pamela Ferrell said, ”We have considered relaxing our hair as a rite of passage. But we didn’t stop to think what would happen if we never did.” That had such an impact on me. That was the day I went natural. I’ve never used a straightening chemical on my hair since. (This was written when I was a guest blogger on Kinnks.com. I hope that's ok.)


What was the intial reaction/responses of family, friends, co-workers?

I was the first in my close circle of friends to go natural. They seemed ok with it. I can't say that I remember much negativity. My mother is the only family I lived near at the time and she had no problems with it AT ALL. However….my first trip to see my family in New Orleans, was different. They weren't too thrilled. They were speechless actually. No one really said much, but I got strange looks from family and strangers. But I didn't care. I was committed. I'm proud to say that one of my aunts and her two teenage daughters have since loc'ed their hair.


Did you notice a confidence boost or other personality changes?

I wore my loose natural hair for about 7 years and I’ve been loc’d for the past 6. Going natural was very empowering. But loc’ing was liberating. In my opinion, self acceptance is vital. And going natural was a major step in my personal growth.


What do you like or dislike about you hair?

There isn't anything that I dislike about my hair, but it would be nice if my hair were denser. I like big hair, I just wasn't born with it. But as for my locs, I love everything about them.


What is the response to your hair style now?

Though I've been loc'ed for over 6 years, I cut my locs into a bob in Sept 2008. In June 2009, I cut them even shorter. This time in an assymetrical cut with a shaved portion at the nape. LOVE IT! I did that just to show the versatility of locs. People sometimes think locs are limited because they are often just worn very long. But locs are as stylish and versatile -- if not more so -- than any other hair style.



Check her out and let her know you enjoyed her story.



Ansylla
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Majestic Divas SC Interview

Picture from google

Hello,
I am a twisted dread wearer and lovin it. I am also an author penning a book titled "Don't Dread, Dreads" and I need a few people to share their experience with dreads.

When did you start your dreads and why?

I started my Loc Jan 10, 2008. I've always been a fan of natural hair, and I've always love dread loc's. I was told by many stylist that my hair would not loc.. When I found a stylist that took the time to train my hair and go through the journey with me I was happy. I've always been happy with my decisison to loc..

What were the intial reaction/responses of friends, family, and co-workers?

No one liked it.. When I came home my kids blurted out " mom, you look like a boy! " you are bald headed. ** I've always had shoulder length hair- very long and relaxed.. my kids werent use to seeing me with short or tightly coiled hair **

Did you notice a boost in confidence or any other personality changes?

Yes, I felt very empowered and had a re newed sense of strength.. All of my fellow dred wearers embraced me and gave me loads of helpful tips. I almost immediately changed my diet- eating my organic, and going Au' Naturale ( with hair products, body products and food). I also started making my own products and eductating myself on Natural hair.

What do you like or dislike about your hair?

My hair is super curly.. Although most of my hair is loc'ked some are very curly and my roots are wavy and curly

What are the reactions now to your hair?

very nice comments.. again, my hair is curly so my locs are curly and when I wear them in a pont tail my roots are waved and curly whick gives a " different" look.

Check her out at her blog and let her know you appreciated her sharing her story.

Miss Sixx author of Au Naturale Blog

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Sherriet's Interview

 

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I received this interview from Lady Kinks Natural Hair Blog from Sherriet

When did you decide to go natural and why?

I actually went natural in 2003 but I reverted back in 2007 and have made a total transformation back to natural.

What was the intial reaction/responses of family, friends, co-workers?

My southern-born mother had a very tough time accepting my transition to natural in the beginning, especially the afro. She did not like the twist style I originally sported because there was no form (style) to it, but she loves the two strand twist nubian twist extensions I sport now because I wear a short/medium layered bob style, which makes all the difference. My siblings readily accepted the change back in 2003, even though I have a badd brother who is a hair stylist who can do flyy relaxer styles and cuts. My brother Tu-Tall made hairstyling an art. He is very gifted in hair, but I knew the detrimental effects of relaxing with chemical products. My mother transitioned from relaxed hair sometime in 2008 and currently uses Vigorol. I influenced my baby sister to try a natural hair style and she did but the final results (the hair was not the right texture for her facial features and complexion and it was a horrible mess). Thus, she immediately returned back to relaxers and has been its friend since...Her hair has thinned and shedded badly since that time and now she covers up with sewn in Euro weave--this breaks my heart. I believe if she tried my current hair stylist who is excellent in discussing natural hair care products and textures of hair, extensions, etc., she would be more willing to try going natural again. I believe my sister is frightened to try natural again. I have worked predominantly with white folk and they are somewhat quiet and raise eyebrows...My boss made a comment back in 2006 that I looked "scary." I allowed that comment to offend me to the point I returned back to relaxed hair, which I later regretted. A few co-workers will comment that they like the style but they are still suspect. I really do not care what my co-workers think about my hair because I am not my hair. The fact that I am a high producer and I am cordial to "them" and make them feel comfortable with me makes all the difference. A black woman with a natural hairstyle frightens "them."

Did you notice a confidence boost or other personality changes?

Yes, I am more confident.. I get a lot of friendly glances and stares by people of different races and ages. I feel beautiful. I am transitioning to a bohemian/gypsy look to represent my hairstyle.....natural, free flowing..and later on colorful (must add color in the spring/summer months).

What do you like or dislike about your hair?

It thins in one area on top of my head but, fortunately because I am wearing nubian twist extensions, it is hidden very well. My goal is to allow the twist to loc or wear 2-strand twists for a couple of years while my hair grows out and then all natural for real--no extensions, etc.

What is the response to your hair style now?

I have received a lot of compliments, especially from blacks--very few from white people--but I am naturally and soulfully me.

Check out Sherriet at her blog and let her know you enjoyed her story.

WOW! That is a head of dreads!

 

Longest dreadlocks-world record set by Asha Mandela

DAVENPORT, Fla., USA -- Asha Mandela, of Davenport in Polk County, has an impressive hair: the longest of her locks 8 feet, 9 inches long-setting the world record for the Longest dreadlocks.

Photo: Mandela's dreadlocks, which she started growing 20 years ago, are longer than she is tall. She cradles her locks in her arms like a baby. She wraps it around her neck like a scarf. She lets it hang down her back and trail behind her like a bridal veil. / Photo by George Skene, Orlando Sentinel (enlarge photo)

Asha Mandela, who is originally from Trinidad, said she first cut all of her hair off and began growing the 20-year dreads while she was living in New York.

She said she occasionally considers cutting the dreadlocks but she has become too attached to the style to let it go.

"As much as I love it, I get frustrated with it," she said. "But then I realize I'd feel naked without it."

Ryan Spinella, executive assistant to the city administrator of Longwood, Fla., was one of the witnesses on hand to verify the measuring of Mandela's locks. "I couldn't say what to compare it with. Just a lot of hair," Spinella said. "You don't believe it until you measure it, really."

Originally from Trinidad, Mandela started growing her dreads when she decided to stop using chemicals on her hair while she was living in Brooklyn, N.Y.

She cut it all off and, as it grew back, began corkscrewing it into curls that in turn were twisted together into dreadlocks. Before her dreads were long enough to hang down, they stuck out from her head like long black fingers.

Mandela's hair is her pride. It is much like a child she has raised from infancy for 20 years. She even calls it her baby. But like a child, eight feet of hair is both a blessing and a burden.

She wrings out the water as you would a wet beach towel. When the days are hot, and she takes it out by the pool in the backyard, it takes two hours to dry. When it's humid and cloudy or cool outside, it might take all day for her wet hair to lose its dampness. "I try not to have any errands that day," said Mandela, 46

Mandela says she "used to wash it three times a week. Now I do it once a week. It's very tiring. Sometimes I don't have the energy." It takes one bottle of shampoo and one bottle of conditioner every time she washes her hair.

My hair is just now brushing the top of my shoulder blades and washing it is a chore. It is hot most of the year where I live and my hair air dries quickly. I use tons of shampoo and conditioner, but not as much as Mandela. I don't know how long I am going to let mines get, but I don't want to carry them around.

Twanna's Story

(Picture: Lauren Hill, singer)

Hello my name is Twanna or "HappyNowNappy"

I'm 30 yrs old and have been natural since August 3, 2009. I tried to go natural several times previously but would transition for several months then get frustrated with the two textures and relax my hair! This time when I decided to go natural I was pregnant and on bed rest. I kept thinking that this year was full of new beginnings. A lot of things was changing in my life so why not start fresh with my hair! Also I couldn't afford to pay $60 for a relaxer alone.
One all the relaxed ends were off I felt like a convict that had a life sentence and he got parole. It was such a freeing sensation all over my body. I walked out the salon with my head held high and looking like a was the $#@$. I loved it!
The reaction from my family and friends was not good. My mother thought I was gay, cousins thought I was crazy, and friends thought I was upset at a man. Everyone kept saying "why did you cut all that hair off?" (My hair was a little pass my shoulders.) My answer was "it's just hair!" Once everyone got use to it being short they thought it was cute.
Cuting my hair and going natural did give me a ton of confidence that I didn't have while I was relaxed with long hair. No one can tell me that I don't look good!
I like that my hair is highly coiled and thick. I love been able to wet my hair every day and not running from the rain. Things I dislike is, I'm just gonna be honest, some days I wish I had bigger coils. But I think the biggest dislike is that I don't know my hair in its natural state and that bugs me! However at the end of the day I don't regret going natural nor will I go back to the creamy crack!

Twanna

Going Postal with shzron1946

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I was a postal worker in 1990 and very unhappy with the direction of my life. So, at the age of 44, I walked out of that job and went to college full time. This meant I had a drastic change in income since this was a sudden decision. I had worn a shoulder-length Wave Nouveau (remember that style?) for two years and when I realized I could no longer afford to maintain the style, I asked my beautician to cut me a TWA. It was a shock, but I liked the way it looked.

The reaction: Suddenly men on the street called me "Sister" and "Queen", gave me the power sign and wanted to talk Black Power politics. My family, as always, did not speak to me about the style, but I believe they had a lot of disapproval to share with each other. (Funny thing is that two of my sisters also went natural about ten years later.) I had a part-time job at the university, at first, and I noticed that many professional black women wore their hair in natural styles. I have had some interesting haircuts and a lot of compliments. For a while, as I turned gray, I dyed it, but I didn't like doing that, so I stopped dying and just let it be gray, but I do put a rinse on to bring out the silver.

Now, as professional with a masters' degree, I'm finding that I have begun to dislike cutting my hair. So I am seriously considering dreads. I want to just let it grow as long as it will, like the song says: "Don't even have to cut it cause it stops by itself!"

It's been a good experience, all in all.

Choosing Well

After seeing your post on Kinnks.com....on Facebook, my response to your questions on going natural are as follows:

When: I decided to go natural about a year and 1/2 ago.

Why: First I did it because I couldn't afford the up-keep. I am a single Mom.
At the time I was trying to have a house built, I have a foreign made car that was very expensive to repair, a son who required allergy shots (frequent Dr. visits) and I also have a chronic medical condition. So, I didn't have 2 nickles to spare! I also traveled alot for my job. So time was valuable. I have very thick hair...so I would spend at least 3 hours getting it washed, permed, colored, trimmed and styled, etc. THEN I'd spend the rest of the day in the Barbershop with my son. So there goes a full Saturday focused on hair grooming! The last time I did this....I said, "FORGET THIS!"

Family response: My family is from the old school. Press n Curl or Perm it! My Mom still gives me a hard time. I have a few aunts and uncles who also tell me everytime they see me, "Girl do somethin fo yo HAIR!"

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Co-Workers: My Boss kept giving me crazy looks and just asking questions. I could tell by her expression she didn't approve, but wouldn't dare say it directly. Most my other co-workers just asked questions. So, did you cut your hair? You letting the chemicals grow out? Keeping in mind that I work in a Corporate Accounting building with mostly caucasian men and women. There are only 4 black women out of about 50 people. AND I'm an auditor so I see them all on a regular basis.

Self-Esteem: At first I was VERY self-concious about it. It was a mess because some parts still had perm in it while others were frizzy and had grown out. I also had to ask around and try lots of different products and techniques (washing, blow drying, platting, conditioners, rolling) to figure out what worked for me. You know like what products gave me the look I wanted. I even had to decide what look it was that I wanted. Since I do travel, I got lots of looks, lots of compliments and some questions. The more comfortable I got with it the more it was accepted by others. Now everyone tells me I look exotic like I'm from the islands or something. They say that it truly fits me. Then I replay that song in my head! I think it's called, "I am not my hair," by Jill Scott. I hold my head up high and say to myself, it's always been about what makes me happy, not conforming to what others think I should be. I see my self growing old with my natural even after the fad has passed :=)

I hope this helps! Good luck with your book! fentress R.


"In the end Life is about making choices. Our challenge is to choose well."

DOCTOR DREAD

It has been stated in the past that no one will hire a person with dreads. This may have been the case in the 70's and early 80's, but as black people began to embrace cornrows and other natural hair styles, the professional world began to be more tolerant of ethnic hairstyles. Now with many celebrities opting to wear more ethnic-centric hairstyles, the business world had to bend a little more to the idea of ethnic expression through hair style choices.

Here is an interview of an up and coming professional and her journey into the natural hair world and a professional career.

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When and why did you choose dreads?
I decided to dread my hair in March 2009. I was tired of perming and wetsetting my hair. It was chewed out in the back and traumatized. Being in medical school and having a busy schedule, I only had time put my hair in one ponytail, but it was more about the hair breakage in the back. I had been thinking about dreads for two years. My mother didn't want me to cut off my permed hair even though she herself had cut off her own permed hair to wear dreads in 2005.

What was the initial response of family, friends, and co-workers?
My little sister cried because she was having a hard time growing her own hair and I had long hair which she loved. My great-aunt said I had nigga hair and she didn't like it. My dad accused my mother of cutting off my hair, which she had, but at my request. My best friend just said that I looked like my mother. She is of the Pentecostal faith which does not agree with women cutting their hair. My peers in medical school thought my hair was interesting.

What do you like or dislike about your hair?
I like getting up in the morning and going out of the door without fussing over my hair. No more perms and burns. I thought dreads would be easy to lock, you know, because most black people think their natural hair is nappy. But the texture of my natural hair was more like the texture of nylon weave. The shaft is very straight and elastic. I was amazed at the actual strength of it. Each time I would shampoo my newly acquired dreads, they would come a loose. I had to redo them constantly. My hairstyle doesn't look as feminine as it did with my perm and I can't curl it on rods yet because it is too short right now. My hair looks weird to me when I wear dresses.

Did you notice a boost in confidence or any other personality change?
I don't know. I don't think it was a boost in confidence. I pretty much do what I set my mind to do. But my dreads did make me happy because I wanted to do it for so long and I'm happy with my decision. I think my hair reflects that I do what I want to do.

What is the response to your hair now?
People like it. People stop me on the streets to ask me who did my hair. I feel good when I tell them I did it myself. I had a picture in my head of how my dreads would be and they are nothing like what I imagined.

As a Professional person, how do your dreads go with your career?
I had a moment of hesitancy when finally deciding to dread lock my hair, because I was entering the interview season for residency placement as a doctor. I decided if a residency program didn't want me because of my natural hair style choice, then it was not a program I wanted to be a part of.

Dr. Ellis, Mississippi

Hair Power!

Here is a response from a person proud of her hair and is not afraid to say it. I found her on a hairstylist website. She does wonderful work at: Bamboo Hair Studio and can be contacted at www.millenniumsol.com She informs me that in Florida, every 3out of 5 people you run into on the streets have locs and that her clientel is made up of at least 35% men. Drop her a line to tell her to keep up her positve work.

Thank you for contacting us. My name is Anita Spencer. I have been locing for 15 years. I decided to loc because it was a closer connection to my ancestors, as well as the beauty that I felt outward and inside about myself. When the European's first saw our hair they said that it looked dreadful and because of that the term Dread Locs has become a part of our communities across the world, people do not realize how negative this saying really is.

Because I am a natural hair specialist I teach my clients to love there hair without the negative sterotypes. I am here to tell everyone that there is nothing dreadful about our hair.

My family's initial response was: WHAT IN THE HELL ARE YOU DOING. Because my mother, grandmother and greatgrand mother had done hair before me, they didn't understand. I have no Dislikes about my hair, I love everything about my hair.

The response now is overwhelming sometimes, with praises of beauty, my mother now brags to everyone about my hair. I now live in the state of Florida.

Thanks Again
Anita Spencer

Terilyn Cobb Interview

When did you start your dreads?
About 6 years ago, right after my divorce. I wore my hair permed and in a Halle Berry style for a long time, but my hair didn't "hold" a perm well at all so I was getting a relaxer every 3-4 weeks which is not recommended. To add to that, I hated the entire process and felt like a "sale out" every time i had my hair relaxed. So when I was separated, I went to braids. My ex would tell me how unattractive they were, but I felt good about not burning my head w/chemicals every month. But I felt so ugly every time I had to take the braids down and deal w/my 1/2 straightened, 1/2 natural head of hair.

Why did you choose this hair style?I saw a professionally dressed sister w/long locs and she was so beautiful. I realized that beautiful hair was possible while being true to who and what I am as a black woman. Also, I realized that a black woman could really have long hair!

What was the reaction/responses of family, friends, co-workers?My parents were mortified. My mother promised that my career would end if I persisted in this nonsense. My father just shook his head. Coworkers (I live in Sacramento which is not known as the most culturally diverse or open city) were intrigued. I got all the "how do you wash your hair" and "can I touch it" questions from co-workers. Oh, and I was promoted in the same year that I started my locs.

Did you become more confident or have any other personality changes?I'm in my mid 40's and my hair is almost to my butt. I think the combo of embracing the liberty of no longer feeling the need to conform to a European standard of beauty and stepping out of a very bad long term marriage was incredible. I experiment with different natural hair products that leave my hair smelling like coconuts, and almonds; I walk slowly in the rain and I exercise w/o worrying about my hair "reverting". I am definitely more self confident and I feel beautiful.

What is the reaction to your hair style now?Often I see fear on the faces of people when they first meet me, mostly whites, but not always... I guess they see my hair which is long and usually worn wavy, and think I'm a cannibal and they are my next meal. Or they think I'm "ghetto" and my head is gonna start rolling around my shoulders while I deliver a barrage of expletives about their mama at any given second. But honestly, my sistas can be the most annoying. They will often approach me and fling their weave out of their eyes and tell me how they like my hair, but they could never do anything like that because they like to wash their hair every week. Or, I'd love to do that to my hair, but my man loves to run his fingers through my hair". Or my personal favorite is the comments like "wow your hair is so long, you could take that a loose and straighten it and it would be beautiful" (my eyes rolled even while typing that one..). Almost w/o fail these remarks come from the sista w/the mostest weave who has managed to convince herself that she's sporting her real hair. My parents refused to believe that "all that hair" is really mine for the longest. In fact, I'm not sure my dad (77 yrs old) is fully convinced yet - everyone knows black folks hair don't grow that long. My sister, who straightens her hair, but was my stylist during my Hallie years helped convince me to loc my hair ( I think that was because she got sick of giving me free relaxers every 3 weeks!) thinks my hair is beautiful and she loves to color and style and decorate my hair w/shells.

Do you love your hair why or why not?Locs are a lot of work let there be no mistaking that and I often think about cutting them to shoulder length because of this. But then I look in the mirror after I've just washed, colored and curled my hair and all thoughts of scissors are gone. I also love having my hair smell of coconuts and almonds. The best part of that is when my 11 yr old son is tired or had a rough day, he leans against me while I'm sitting down and lays his head on mine & tells me how nice my hair smells. I also get a lot of attention from black men who stop me on the street to tell my how beautiful my hair is and ask what I use and how long I've worn my locs. I also love the secret society that we loc'd folks have. There is always at least a smile or nod when we cross paths - both with men and women. But I have to say my hair being beautiful makes me feel beautiful and I don't see myself ever again getting my hair relaxed or wearing a weave. That goes against everything I believe in about self acceptance

Ministry of Hair!!!

If you have read any of my biography, you will have noticed that I was a seminary student. I completed my Masters in Christian Studies. As a women with dreads deep into God and making sure His teachings are kept pure, I did not believe the traditional religious community would accept my choice of hair style; and I was correct. I don't look pious with the polyester two piece skirt and jacket most Christian women wear. I am not a part of the big-hat group. I do not fit the standard approved Christian womnan look. I chose not to put on the outer appearance of Christianity and then neglect the inside in which God sees and judges. My look is my montra: DON'T JUST PUT ON THE UNIFORM. BECOME COMPETENT IN YOUR PROFESSION. THERE IS TOO MUCH SPIRITUAL MALPRACTICE GOING ON ALREADY.

The interviewee below faced a somewhat similar dilemma dealing with ministry and dreads.

1. When and why did you decide to dread your hair?
I began in 2001. The why of it at the time was that it was kind of fashionable. I was looking for a new style, and dreads was new.

2. What was the initial response of your family, friends, and co-workers?
Friends thought i looked 'cute.' Family thought i shouldn't be wearing "those little worms" since i was getting into the ministry at the time.


3. What do you like or dislike about your hair?
i love it because it's mine, god given, no more no less....what i don't like is i'm kind of addicted to it...i think i would cry if someone asked me to cut it.

4. Have you noticed any boost in confidence or any other change in your personality?
I did experience a confidence boost..i got kind of cocky for a while, it's more a part of me now.

5. What is the response to your hair now?
I do hair professionally now, so it's a mark of pride, kind of free advertising

6. What state do you live in?
Lousiana

ACTOR: Keith Hamilton Cobb

 

So far I have not heard from any men on the subject of dreads, so let me introduce you to a guy with dreads.

Keith Hamilton Cobb (born 28 January 1962) is an American actor, best known for his roles as the ruthless Nietzschean mercenary Tyr Anasazi in the science-fiction series Andromeda from 2000 to 2002, and as Noah Keefer on All My Children from 1994 to 1996. He also appeared in two episodes of the Beastmaster television series in 1999.

Cobb was born in North Tarrytown, New York; he graduated from New York University's Tisch School of the Arts in 1987. A classically trained actor, he appeared in a number of Shakespeare productions in the New York area before breaking into television in the mid 1990s. One of his first movies was the 1995 Daniel Robert Cohn film Eyes Beyond Seeing in which he plays a mental patient who claims to be Jesus Christ.

The character he played briefly in Beastmaster is very similar to his Tyr Anasazi character in the Andromeda television series. Cobb is a very muscular and fearsome looking actor who appears to fit the warrior's role, but has never played the "big dumb guy;" rather his characters are best described as thoughtful philosophical warriors.

In 1996, Cobb was named on People magazine's annual "50 most beautiful people" list

He left the Andromeda TV series after its third season, citing dissatisfaction over the development of his character, Tyr Anasazi.

In an interview given in the book "Dreads" page 48, Keith states that in the 60's men wore short hair cuts and in the 70's afros were in style. But he believes his locks are a part of his essence. He acknowledges some groups consider dreads as a statement against vanity, his are an outward manisfestation of who he is:

"I think dreads, when worn with pride, give a man a regal bearing. The image is a powerful one, like that of a lion and his mane."

When Keith's hair was short and kinky, he couldn't get a job, casters didn't know what to do with him, after locking his hair, the perception of him changed as far as how to cast him. With dreads, he better fit the image of a BLACK MAN. His look became less ethnic and more exotic.