Sowing Your Seed not Wild Oats

All human beings are blessed with a special gift from their creator, the ability to reproduce. While thinking about humans reproducing, I began to wonder why the male sperm is called a "seed" but a woman's egg is not called a seed and the significance of that distinction. I also wondered why men had a longer window to sire children than women. Sperm is the male reproductive cell and is derived from the Greek word sperma (meaning “seed”). A sperm cell is the male sex cell. The word sperm is derived from the Greek word σπέρμα, sperma, meaning "seed". This sperm is a very minute cell present in all men. 

In animals, female gametes are called ova or egg cells and male gametes are called sperm.  When an egg cell and a sperm cell unite, the two combine to form an embryo or an unborn, developing organism. Approximately 200 million to 500 million spermatoza (also called sperm or spermatozoans), produced in the testes, are released per ejaculation.

It may come as a shock but sperm can survive within the female reproductive system for a week! There is a strong desire of the seed to produce life. Sperm are tenacious. The female's egg is viewed as passive. Just hanging out for a while waiting for a sperm to come along. In early reproductive thought, the female's contribution to the formation of life was seen as minimum and downright dismissed.

Four centuries before Christ, Aeschylus wrote: “The woman you call the mother of the child/ is not the parent, just a nurse to the seed. …The man is the source of life — the one who mounts.” The general idea was that the womb provided merely a soft field in which the male seed was sowed. Then in 1672, a Dutch physician named Regnier de Graaf found ovaries full of eggs in a number of mammals, and although he couldn’t find any eggs in humans, he was convinced they must be there somewhere. It would take 150 years and a microscope before anyone would confirm the notion. 

It is unimaginable now to believe people thought only a man could create life. People in past history believed the man alone with his ejaculation at the end of the sex act put a baby inside the woman. The newly formed child was 100% his own creation because he mounted the woman, entered her, and made a deposit. In all honesty I can see it being a plausable assumption before the advancement of science. MEN CREATE LIFE ALONE. Not arrogant at all.

It wasn’t until Antony van Leeuwenhoek sprang up from his marital bed to spread his semen on a microscope in 1677 that anyone saw them. Sperm were first observed in 1677 by Antonie van Leeuwenhoek using a microscope. He described them as being animalcules (little animals), The first person to discover where babies come from, strictly speaking, was a German biologist named Oscar Hertwig. In 1875, working at his microscope in a Naples, Italy laboratory, Hertwig dabbed a drop of sea urchin semen against the gelatinous surface of a sea urchin egg. “Moments later,” according to science journalist Edward Dolnick, “the nucleus of the sperm cell came into view, inside the egg…and then—before Hertwig’s eyes—the two nuclei fused into one. No one in history had ever seen the process of fertilization play out.” 

It was not until 1875 that a German scientist finally put the sperm and the egg together conceptually.

So why then is sperm seen as a "seed?" In farming the land is prepared for the seed to be planted and eventually grow. The seed has to be placed into a forvorable medium and environment to sprout and grow. Even though a woman has an egg, half and the same cell containing DNA to create a totally new human, her "egg" isn't placed into anything by her to sprout and grow. The sperm penetrates the egg. This is one thing (seed) going into another thing (egg) like a plant "seed" must go into the "soil." 

You may say the egg is planted within the uterus which can also represent fertile soil. But the egg just being IN the uterus does not generate or grow. The female egg is more so the representation of fertle soil and the uterus is the enviromental condition condusive for the seed to sprout and grow. Women do not plant seeds. The female egg is singular like a large field would be singular while the male's sperm is numerous just like a farmer would plant several seeds in the hope at least one (or several) will germinate. The man has millions of seeds and a long time to sow the seeds. His potential to reproduce on a large scale is assured by his daily sperm count. Thus the saying a man is sowing his seed and a child is his seed, meaning from his seed (sperm). Women do not refer to their children as their seed.

With the sperm being half of the miraculous ingrdients needed to form life, it is important for men to have healthy viable seeds. Studies have found men who ejaculated 21 or more times per month had a  lower risk of prostate cancer compared to those who ejaculated 4–7 times a month. Researchers theorize that frequent ejaculation clears the prostate of irritants or toxins that cause inflammation and contribute to prostate cancer.

A healthy lifestyle and diet are important. Foods to increase sperm production are dark chocolate which is a powerful aphrodisiac. Dark chocolate contains L-Arginine, an amino-acid which works by increasing nitric oxide, which essentially dilates blood vessels and promotes blood flow to your sexual organs, enhancing sensation, satisfaction and desire. Oysters which contain zincan essential mineral that plays an important role in improving testosterone levels as well as sperm production. Also on the list of foods good for sperm health are eggs, bananas, spinach, asparagus, garlic, and carrots amongst others.

Sexual Desirability of Women Decline

 

What does it mean when the Red Pill community says a woman "hits the wall?" If you have been following my blog, you know there is a community called the Red Pill. This group originated on Reddit and became a place for men who believed the ills of society were caused by women and now men are not allowed to complain about the chaos women have created to vent. They also believe society favors women over men in many areas especially in the judicial system.

Many of the Red Pill men are confused and frustrated in the dating arena by the way women choose to reject and accept the men they date. This frustration has turned into hostility towards women in the way men view and define today's woman. The men have developed a new vocabulary describing women and the men who interact with them. Various strategies have been proposed by men for men in how to get and keep a woman. 

The group has developed a hypothesis stating a woman hits A WALL. Hitting the wall means:

1.    A point at which a woman is no longer sexually desirable to men

2.    Her looks and shapely figure has faded, and with it the power she had to command money, attention, and expensive dates from men.

The Wall Theory is based on the assumption women, in their youth, could give the slightest hint that sex may be on the table and that was enough of a motivation to get horny men to do almost anything. The youthful manipulative woman would play the gullible men with the promise of sex. The young woman would wear revealing clothing, short dresses, swish their hips, and stare at men seductively to get any and everything she wanted. Her promise of sex allowed her access to vacations, material items, even the ultimate sacrifice of marriage from men. 

This theory puts forth the notion that women hit the Wall after age 26 because at age 18-25 her attractiveness has peaked and beginning at age 26 her attractiveness starts to decline. A woman's Sexual Market Value (SMV), to men who find her attractive and who she can use the promise of sex declines in the dating market. Once she reaches the age of 30-35, her SMV is shot, and she has to settle for a "Nice Guy" in hopes of having a comfortable life.

This community of men believes the opposite happens to men. Around 30 the men start hitting their stride in terms of looks, social status, and money. A man 30-35 is the most confident, handsome, and successful making him more desirable to women. The 30–35-year-old man chooses to date younger women leaving the 30 something year old woman out in the cold. The 30 something year old woman is therefore in a panic to try to get a man. This group believes the Wall for men is age 50 when women no longer find them attractive.

Should women be in a panic fearing this WALL at age 30 and beyond? I believe everyone at some age acknowledges the fading of their youthful looks, but many embrace their mature beauty. Sexiness is not a number. and to be fair, if a woman uses sex to get what she wants you better believe she can do it at any age. Today's grandmother looks nothing like the grandma of the 70's or 80's. The definition of what makes a woman attractive has changed due to the fact women are attractive physically at a range of ages. Beauty is measured beyond the pretty face to include intelligence and personality. The pool of beautiful women is so prominent until the standard had to include more attributes beyond the "pretty face."

The women who Red Pill men have labeled as the prime woman to date realize these men are hyper-sexualized and bounce from one woman to the next in recreational sex and they are not interested in them either as a mate. Men are not proposing to women in the age range of 18-25 when they as they say are at their peak of attractiveness, let alone women ages 26-30. There is an incorrect assumption by men that women are using their time/sexual peak to play around and manipulate men as long as they can. It is men whom history speaks of as sowing their wild oats, not women. Studies have shown women want relationships and get emotionally involved in sexual relationships when for men, they can have sexual encounters without emotional attachment.

Red Pill men believe their Wall is at age 50 when they are less desired by women. I believe men hit an earlier wall of undesirability. Young men ages 18-27 spend these years trying to earn quick money straight out of high school to spend on going out prowling for women with their male friends and hitting the club scene. Their boy group is important to them for socializing. The young men 18-27 have a group of guy friends they enjoy spending their time with talking about women and sports. The money of the youthful male is spent on his vehicle, video games, and for some the best footwear like Jordans. Here and there they have fathered a child or two. 

Once these young men realize their male friends no longer offer the type of companionship that goes beyond fun, they then want a lasting relationship with a woman. This is where their Wall comes into play. Because the young men sowed his wild oats with encouragement by society with no thought for his future, he is not a good candidate for marriage. He still lives at home with his mother, does not have a job which allows him to have an apartment or home to bring a wife to, and has several baby mommas and child support lessening his monetary value, women are turned off by him. Men in their late 20's are in a panic after wasting their youth playing around with other men. 

Statistic and research show women are graduating college in record numbers preparing for their financial future while men of the same age say they don't attend college because they don't want to, see no value in it, and finances prevents them from doing so. So, if women hit a Wall around the age of 26-35 due to fading beauty, men hit a Wall around the age of 27-35 due to financial inadequacy. The existence of the Red Pill community demonstrates there is a panic among men ages 27-35 also.

It seems both sexes are finding the dating world difficult from the ages 26 and beyond for various reasons. There may be a number of hypotheses floating around for the reason why it's hard to find a mate. While researching my book Manhood Interrupted An Answer For The Red Pill Man I found that it is the criteria we are demanding a potential mate must have that is the problem.  

Social media has introduced us to the most beautiful men and women we have ever seen right at our fingertips. In our consumer age, the 21st Century, we believe we should have the best of everything. Top quality. We, ourselves may not be top quality but we feel entitled to the best. I use top quality and best loosely just because someone is beautiful does not make them the best or top quality. But our eyes have come to lead our brains. A person of good character is overshadowed by our desire to have a trophy mate. Companionship and unconditional love no longer rank higher than looks and money. The decline is not in the other person but in ourselves. If we had to honestly rank our own attractiveness it may be a solid 4 or 5, but we want a person ranking 10 or above. We are the reason/source for our own disappointment in the dating game.

It seems to bring the single man joy that the 30 something single woman is struggling to find a suitable mate. But isn't it a situation where the pot is calling the kettle black?

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