Where Have All The Fathers Gone?

 WHERE HAVE ALL THE FATHERS GONE?

Father's Day is upon us once again and social media will be a buzz with single parent women bashing absentee dads and praising themselves for "doing it alone," which is raising a child without any support from the BABY DADDY. Raise your hand if you hate that term.  It is hard to look past these women and their difficult situation of anger and frustration. We wonder how the child is feeling knowing they have a father who is neglecting them. 

Of course there will be praises for the good dads which will make those who never experienced what it was like to have a good dad in their lives feel some type of way. My mother and father divorced when I was one years old and I only saw him twice in my life. There has never been a Father's Day in which I wondered what I missed without a dad. I just never did, but many fatherless children do. YOU CAN'T MISS WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW was my thing I guess.

My advice for women may cause rage but we as women must not have babies by men in which we have fallen in love with or are in a relationship with. We should keep our hymen (virginity) until we have a diamond (engagement ring or married). Have our sexual exploits really been that good as to possibly to produce a child?  We love to blame men for not being there, but we are responsible for our reproductivity and it begins with SAYING NO TO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. Enjoy the man but don't be his deposit for sperm and you have no withdrawal power on the account.

What about the men who go around fathering children without a care and do not participate in the raising of those children? Well the Bible tells us in 1 Timothy 5:8 "But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he has denied his faith, as is worse then an infidel." An infidel is a person who does not believe in religion or adheres to a religion of his own making. Men will answer for not caring for their SEED.

HOW MANY BABIES LIVE WITHOUT FATHERS?

Since 1970, out-of-wedlock birth rates have soared. In 1965, 24 percent of black infants and 3.1 percent of white infants were born to single mothers. By 1990 the rates had risen to 64 percent for black infants, 18 percent for whites. Every year about one million more children are born into fatherless families. If we have learned any policy lesson well over the past 25 years, it is that for children living in single-parent homes, the odds of living in poverty are great.

 Many say a father does not have to be married to the woman who birthed his child to be a good father and this is true. Many unwed fathers are great fathers. But the father actually being in the home offers more quality time and for more engagement with the child (many fathers in the home are not engaged with their children and are bad fathers even though they are present).

10 Facts About Father Engagement

1. Fathers and infants can be equally as attached as mothers and infants. When both parents are involved with the child, infants are attached to both parents from the beginning of life.
2. Father involvement is related to positive child health outcomes in infants, such as improved weight gain in preterm infants and improved breastfeeding rates.[2]
3. Father involvement using authoritative parenting (loving and with clear boundaries and expectations) leads to better emotional, academic, social, and behavioral outcomes for children.
4. Children who feel a closeness to their father are: twice as likely as those who do not to enter college or find stable employment after high school, 75% less likely to have a teen birth, 80% less likely to spend time in jail, and half as likely to experience multiple depression symptoms.
5. Fathers occupy a critical role in child development. Father absence hinders development from early infancy through childhood and into adulthood. The psychological harm of father absence experienced during childhood persists throughout the life course.
6. The quality of the father-child relationship matters more than the specific amount of hours spent together. Non-resident fathers can have positive effects on children’s social and emotional well-being, as well as academic achievement and behavioral adjustment.
7. High levels of father involvement are correlated with higher levels of sociability, confidence, and self-control in children. Children with involved fathers are less likely to act out in school or engage in risky behaviors in adolescence.
8. Children with actively involved fathers are: 43% more likely to earn A’s in school and 33% less likely to repeat a grade than those without engaged dads.
9. Father engagement reduces the frequency of behavioral problems in boys while also decreasing delinquency and economic disadvantage in low-income families.
10. Father engagement reduces psychological problems and rates of depression in young women.

According to Psychology Today, researchers have found these narratives to be true. The results of father absence on children are nothing short of disastrous, along a number of dimensions:

1. Children’s diminished self-concept, and compromised physical and emotional security (children consistently report feeling abandoned when their fathers are not involved in their lives, struggling with their emotions and episodic bouts of self-loathing)
2. Behavioral problems (fatherless children have more difficulties with social adjustment, and are more likely to report problems with friendships, and manifest behavior problems; many develop a swaggering, intimidating persona in an attempt to disguise their underlying fears, resentments, anxieties and unhappiness)
3. Truancy and poor academic performance (71 percent of high school dropouts are fatherless; fatherless children have more trouble academically, scoring poorly on tests of reading, mathematics, and thinking skills; children from father absent homes are more likely to play truant from school, more likely to be excluded from school, more likely to leave school at age 16, and less likely to attain academic and professional qualifications in adulthood)
4. Delinquency and youth crime, including violent crime (85 percent of youth in prison have an absent father; fatherless children are more likely to offend and go to jail as adults)
5. Promiscuity and teen pregnancy (fatherless children are more likely to experience problems with sexual health, including a greater likelihood of having intercourse before the age of 16, foregoing contraception during first intercourse, becoming teenage parents, and contracting sexually transmitted infection; girls manifest an object hunger for males, and in experiencing the emotional loss of their fathers egocentrically as a rejection of them, become susceptible to exploitation by adult men)
6. Drug and alcohol abuse (fatherless children are more likely to smoke, drink alcohol, and abuse drugs in childhood and adulthood)
7. Homelessness (90 percent of runaway children have an absent father)
8. Exploitation and abuse (fatherless children are at greater risk of suffering physical, emotional, and sexual abuse, being five times more likely to have experienced physical
9. Abuse and emotional maltreatment, with a one hundred times higher risk of fatal abuse; a recent study reported that preschoolers not living with both of their biological parents are 40 times more likely to be sexually abused)
10. Physical health problems (fatherless children report significantly more psychosomatic health symptoms and illness such as acute and chronic pain, asthma, headaches, and stomach aches)
11. Mental health disorders (father absent children are consistently overrepresented on a wide range of mental health problems, particularly anxiety, depression and suicide)
12. Life chances (as adults, fatherless children are more likely to experience unemployment, have low incomes, remain on social assistance, and experience homelessness)
13. Future relationships (father absent children tend to enter partnerships earlier, are more likely to divorce or dissolve their cohabiting unions, and are more likely to have children outside marriage or outside any partnership)
14. Mortality (fatherless children are more likely to die as children, and live an average of four years less over the life span)

 WHY WON'T HE MARRY ME AND MAKE A FAMILY AND BE A FATHER?

Men avoid marriage because It's too risky and too costly. Men are not marrying because, for many men, the rewards for getting married are far less than they used to be, while the cost and dangers of it are far higher. Divorce rates are sky-high: 45% of marriages end in divorce, and women initiate 80% of them. Here are a few pointers for the woman who wants to have children within a marriage with a father present. Yes, women, we must take responsibility and accountability for trying to be married before having children.

• Most men who graduate from high school start thinking of marriage as a real possibility when they are 23 or 24.
• Most men who graduate from college don’t start considering marriage as a real possibility until age 26.
• When men go to graduate school, it takes them longer to get into the working world, and they’re not ready to get married until a few years after that.
• Ninety percent of men who have graduated from college are ready for the next step between ages 26 and 33; this is when they are most likely to consider marriage. But this window of opportunity stays open only for four to five years, and then the chances a man will marry start to decline.
• A majority of college graduates between 28 and 33 are in their high-commitment years and likely to propose.
• This period for well-educated men lasts just a bit over five years. The chances men will commit are sightly less when they are thirty-one or thirty-two than when they were between 28 and 30, but they’re still in a high-commitment phase.
• Once men reach 33 or 34, the chances they’ll commit start to diminish, but only slightly. Until men reach 37, they remain very good prospects.
• After age 38, the chances they will ever marry drop dramatically.
• The chances that a man will marry for the first time diminish even more once he reaches 42 or 43. At this point, many men become confirmed bachelors.
• Once men reach age 47 to 50 without marrying, the chances they will marry do not disappear, but they drop dramatically.
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According to author John Molly, men were far more likely to marry when they got tired of the singles scene. there is a point at which men are likely to be ready for the next step, but the specific age depends on the man’s maturity, education, and profession. If a woman wants to know whether a man is ready to get married, she should ask him how much he enjoys the single's scene. If he says it isn’t as much fun as it used to be, he’s a very good prospect, because he’s ready to move on to the next step, but there’s more to it than that: The woman should also ask the man a number of questions, including his age.

If you’re dating a man who has had one or more long-term relationships with other women and didn’t marry them, there’s a real possibility he’s a stringer. A stringer is a man who strings women along. He likes having a woman, sleeping with a woman, eating with a woman, possibly sharing his life with a woman without ever making a real commitment. If you think you may be involved with a stringer, establish a deadline. If he doesn’t commit to you within six months, get rid of him. Pay no attention to his excuses.

Many older men are eager to marry because their biological clock was running. Yes, men have a biological clock too. They want to be young enough when their sons come along to teach them all the things fathers traditionally teach their sons-to ride a bicycle, to fish, to play ball, and so forth. The most important reason older men have for marrying is that if they wait much longer, they wouldn’t be able to be active fathers.

The Huffington Post gives reasons why men don't get married.

1. You'll lose respect. A couple of generations ago, a man wasn't considered fully adult until he was married with kids. But today, fathers are figures of fun more than figures of respect. 

2. You'll lose out on sex. Married men have more sex than single men, on average - but much less than men who are cohabiting with their partners outside of marriage, especially as time goes on. Research even suggests that married women are more likely to gain weight than women who are cohabiting without marriage.

3. You'll lose friends. "Those wedding bells are breaking up that old gang of mine." That's an old song, but it's true. When married, men's ties with friends from school and work tend to fade. Although both men and women lose friends after marriage, it tends to affect men's self-esteem more, perhaps because men tend to be less social in general.

4. You'll lose space. We hear a lot about men retreating to their "man caves," but why do they retreat? Because they've lost the battle for the rest of the house.

5. Single life is better than ever. While the value of marriage to men has declined, the quality of single life has improved. Single men were once looked on with suspicion, passed over for promotion for important jobs, which usually valued "stable family men," and often subjected to social opprobrium. It was hard to have a love life that wasn't aimed at marriage, and premarital sex was risky and frowned upon. Now, no one looks askance at the single lifestyle, dating is easy, and employers probably prefer employees with no conflicting family responsibilities. 

BEFORE BEING A MOTHER CAN YOU BE A WIFE?

The nursery rhyme says "First comes loves then comes marriage then come mommy with a baby carriage." Or something like that. Both sexes need to prioritized the order of their lives and their children's lives. No matter how children come they are a blessing. But each child should have an opportunity to have the love of both mother and father in a stable loving family unit. While we bash men for not being fathers, we women should also take time to think are we WIFE MATERIAL? Here is what men say they want in a wife in a count down. These traits also make for good mothers.

No. 10: Ambition and Industriousness: It is clear that men find a woman's drive, determination and energy attractive qualities in a life partner.

 No. 9: Desire for Home and Children

No. 8: Good looks: Perhaps because modern marriages are more likely based on love and attraction rather than practicalities (like wealth or status), physical attractiveness is more desirable.

No. 7: Good Health: Both sexes are living well into their 70s, and often older, making good health a predictor of a long-lasting marriage.

No. 6: Sociability: Because today's married couples are more likely to be friends and have mutual circles of friends, it makes sense that this has become a more attractive characteristic.

No 5: Pleasing Disposition

No. 4: Education and Intelligence: A woman's education and intelligence are more attractive to men than ever before.

No. 3: Emotional Stability and Maturity: They want a woman who is grounded and secure in herself. 

No. 2: Dependable Character: They want a wife who will stand by their side 

No. 1: Mutual Attraction and Love: Above all, men want to marry a woman they love and are attracted to. Now, both men and women are marrying for love first and foremost, and marriages have become unions of passion, friendship, support and mutual attraction. 

This Father's Day let's think how we can contribute to giving our potential children the gift of a FATHER. Fatherhood has been happening to often by accident and they are leaving the scene of the crime.

Sexual Desirability of Women Decline

 

What does it mean when the Red Pill community says a woman "hits the wall?" If you have been following my blog, you know there is a community called the Red Pill. This group originated on Reddit and became a place for men who believed the ills of society were caused by women and now men are not allowed to complain about the chaos women have created to vent. They also believe society favors women over men in many areas especially in the judicial system.

Many of the Red Pill men are confused and frustrated in the dating arena by the way women choose to reject and accept the men they date. This frustration has turned into hostility towards women in the way men view and define today's woman. The men have developed a new vocabulary describing women and the men who interact with them. Various strategies have been proposed by men for men in how to get and keep a woman. 

The group has developed a hypothesis stating a woman hits A WALL. Hitting the wall means:

1.    A point at which a woman is no longer sexually desirable to men

2.    Her looks and shapely figure has faded, and with it the power she had to command money, attention, and expensive dates from men.

The Wall Theory is based on the assumption women, in their youth, could give the slightest hint that sex may be on the table and that was enough of a motivation to get horny men to do almost anything. The youthful manipulative woman would play the gullible men with the promise of sex. The young woman would wear revealing clothing, short dresses, swish their hips, and stare at men seductively to get any and everything she wanted. Her promise of sex allowed her access to vacations, material items, even the ultimate sacrifice of marriage from men. 

This theory puts forth the notion that women hit the Wall after age 26 because at age 18-25 her attractiveness has peaked and beginning at age 26 her attractiveness starts to decline. A woman's Sexual Market Value (SMV), to men who find her attractive and who she can use the promise of sex declines in the dating market. Once she reaches the age of 30-35, her SMV is shot, and she has to settle for a "Nice Guy" in hopes of having a comfortable life.

This community of men believes the opposite happens to men. Around 30 the men start hitting their stride in terms of looks, social status, and money. A man 30-35 is the most confident, handsome, and successful making him more desirable to women. The 30–35-year-old man chooses to date younger women leaving the 30 something year old woman out in the cold. The 30 something year old woman is therefore in a panic to try to get a man. This group believes the Wall for men is age 50 when women no longer find them attractive.

Should women be in a panic fearing this WALL at age 30 and beyond? I believe everyone at some age acknowledges the fading of their youthful looks, but many embrace their mature beauty. Sexiness is not a number. and to be fair, if a woman uses sex to get what she wants you better believe she can do it at any age. Today's grandmother looks nothing like the grandma of the 70's or 80's. The definition of what makes a woman attractive has changed due to the fact women are attractive physically at a range of ages. Beauty is measured beyond the pretty face to include intelligence and personality. The pool of beautiful women is so prominent until the standard had to include more attributes beyond the "pretty face."

The women who Red Pill men have labeled as the prime woman to date realize these men are hyper-sexualized and bounce from one woman to the next in recreational sex and they are not interested in them either as a mate. Men are not proposing to women in the age range of 18-25 when they as they say are at their peak of attractiveness, let alone women ages 26-30. There is an incorrect assumption by men that women are using their time/sexual peak to play around and manipulate men as long as they can. It is men whom history speaks of as sowing their wild oats, not women. Studies have shown women want relationships and get emotionally involved in sexual relationships when for men, they can have sexual encounters without emotional attachment.

Red Pill men believe their Wall is at age 50 when they are less desired by women. I believe men hit an earlier wall of undesirability. Young men ages 18-27 spend these years trying to earn quick money straight out of high school to spend on going out prowling for women with their male friends and hitting the club scene. Their boy group is important to them for socializing. The young men 18-27 have a group of guy friends they enjoy spending their time with talking about women and sports. The money of the youthful male is spent on his vehicle, video games, and for some the best footwear like Jordans. Here and there they have fathered a child or two. 

Once these young men realize their male friends no longer offer the type of companionship that goes beyond fun, they then want a lasting relationship with a woman. This is where their Wall comes into play. Because the young men sowed his wild oats with encouragement by society with no thought for his future, he is not a good candidate for marriage. He still lives at home with his mother, does not have a job which allows him to have an apartment or home to bring a wife to, and has several baby mommas and child support lessening his monetary value, women are turned off by him. Men in their late 20's are in a panic after wasting their youth playing around with other men. 

Statistic and research show women are graduating college in record numbers preparing for their financial future while men of the same age say they don't attend college because they don't want to, see no value in it, and finances prevents them from doing so. So, if women hit a Wall around the age of 26-35 due to fading beauty, men hit a Wall around the age of 27-35 due to financial inadequacy. The existence of the Red Pill community demonstrates there is a panic among men ages 27-35 also.

It seems both sexes are finding the dating world difficult from the ages 26 and beyond for various reasons. There may be a number of hypotheses floating around for the reason why it's hard to find a mate. While researching my book Manhood Interrupted An Answer For The Red Pill Man I found that it is the criteria we are demanding a potential mate must have that is the problem.  

Social media has introduced us to the most beautiful men and women we have ever seen right at our fingertips. In our consumer age, the 21st Century, we believe we should have the best of everything. Top quality. We, ourselves may not be top quality but we feel entitled to the best. I use top quality and best loosely just because someone is beautiful does not make them the best or top quality. But our eyes have come to lead our brains. A person of good character is overshadowed by our desire to have a trophy mate. Companionship and unconditional love no longer rank higher than looks and money. The decline is not in the other person but in ourselves. If we had to honestly rank our own attractiveness it may be a solid 4 or 5, but we want a person ranking 10 or above. We are the reason/source for our own disappointment in the dating game.

It seems to bring the single man joy that the 30 something single woman is struggling to find a suitable mate. But isn't it a situation where the pot is calling the kettle black?

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INTERVIEW: Natalie Ritchie, author

 WELCOME TO WEDNESDAY WITH WOMEN

Author Natalie Ritchie shares what drives her as a writer, and it is advocating for women no matter what role they choose in life. She is a strong voice reminding women as well as men women who choose to work at home as a homemaker are not inferior to women who choose a career outside of the home. Ritchie has to juggle many roles at once and writing is just one of those roles. Her work reflects the ongoing quest to define womanhood in the 21st Century by today's woman. Her interview does not shy away from the question, "What is womanhood?"

1     What is the name of your book/genre?

My book is a nonfiction work called Roar Like a Woman: How Feminists Think Women Suck and Men Rock. It calls for a feminism that actually includes the woman. The feminist revolution threw the baby out with the bathwater—it threw out the woman with the bathwater of woman’s oppression.

2.      When did you start your writing career?

I went straight into journalism almost from the get-go and after a long stint in public relations in the tourism industry, I moved into travel writing. I co-authored the Frommer’s Australia travel guide for several years. Later, I became features editor of Australia’s biggest parenting magazine. Today, I work full-time as a general-purpose editor. 

3.      Did you have support from family/friends/community?

Not really. But that’s because I like it that way. Mostly, I write alone. I know what I want to say. Even nonfiction writing, which is what I do, is an intensely personal and creative thing. To be honest, I just want to be left alone when I write. That said, my colleagues, most of whom are also writers of one kind or another, do have a lot of really good advice. I think the trick is to balance when to listen to others and when to stay true to your inner voice.

4.      What is most difficult about an author’s life?

Finding time to write is one of the hardest things writers do, especially mothers! And then when they do make the time, they sacrifice their rest, their hobbies, their home chores, time with their families or friends, time spent helping others, time to exercise—and time to read! Most writers love reading. I know a mother of five who got up every morning at 5 a.m. to have an hour to herself to write. Of course, for many of us, the kids are up at 5 a.m. too, so that’s not the answer for everyone!

I started writing my book in 2012 and finished it in 2018. I was working full-time most of that time and fifty percent co-parenting my two sons. It takes discipline to dedicate yourself to writing every moment you can. And then there is the work of self-publishing: proofing, hiring a cover designer and typesetter and website designer, formatting e-book files, distributing, publicizing, doing interviews, and more. What kept me going was the sure-fire knowledge that women matter.

5.      As a woman do you feel an obligation to write on women’s issues (in some form)?

Absolutely. Women need a voice, a voice that feminism far too often silences, when it should be our champion! Ever since I entered the workforce in the eighties, I have been frustrated at feminism’s refusal to acknowledge women’s role as mothers, as home runners, as the ones caring for elderly relatives or family members with a disability, as driving forces in the wider community, and as a powerhouse of change in their own right—and that’s all before we get to a career! To feminism, you would think a woman had nothing to do but join men at the office. It pours praise on a woman when she does the same paid work men do but ignores, denies, and often derides a woman without a man-identical career.

Here’s the thing—a woman is a fully human being in her own right. Without a career. Yet feminism sends a different message—that a woman is an inferior, passive nobody who only becomes a somebody, and her husband’s equal, when she joins him at the office.

6.      Do you create stereotypical female characters i.e., weak, need to be saved?

While there are no characters in my nonfiction book, it does contain the voices of many real women speaking on the miraculous joys and the grueling lows of motherhood and home-running and what it actually means to be a woman (rather than what our very masculinist version of feminism tells us it means). These are women with rich, exhilarating lives outside the workplace who defy the feminist stereotype of woman as weak and in need of rescue. Women are not weak. They are extraordinarily strong.

7.      Do you try to be politically correct or stay away from politics/controversial current events as plots?

Because I stand up for women as dynamic, valiant beings in their own right, with or without an achievement-packed resume, I am one of the most politically incorrect writers around! To say that a woman is an autonomous, authoritative, intelligent person without a career is not just controversial today—it’s heresy.

8.      What makes a woman a success?

One thing only self-respect. A successful woman sees the world through a woman’s eyes, and respects herself for it. Never mind whether she has a job, or financial riches. A woman is not a “failure” who becomes a “success” through joining men at the office or amassing wealth or accomplishments. Women are so much more than their job, and no woman should need to have a job to be considered a “success.” A woman already works every day of her life. A woman is a resonant, in-command, active, capable person, a force for good in the world, a locus of love and intelligence, all on her own. If she works, it is because she loves working or needs the income. She has her own perceptions and priorities that are not always the same as men’s. She stands up for her right to do all the things men do, but she also stands up for her right to recognition and respect for all that she does as a woman. 

Natalie Ritchie is mom to two teenage boys, a former parenting magazine features editor, and author of Roar Like a Woman: How Feminists Think Women Suck and Men Rock. She lives in Sydney, Australia.

Link: Roar Like a Woman | Natalie Ritchie

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INTERVIEW: Miah Sims, womanhood

 WELCOME to WEDNESDAY WITH WOMEN

 

Miah Sims is a content creator and is the first, I hope in a long list of many women, to tackle Womanhood in the 21st Century. At present, America is undergoing the first Supreme Court confirmation process of the first African American woman, Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson. On March 22, 2022, Mrs. Jackson was asked by Senator Marsha Blackburn to define what is a WOMAN and she declined to do so, in the context presented in that particular question. The question asked if biological males should be allowed to participate in Olympic sports events if they identified as a woman? Miah Sims has chosen to address the question of womanhood for my blog. I hope you as a reader can understand how important this defining is to women.

1.      At what age do you believe you became a woman?

I honestly believe I became a woman when I had children, so at 17. I say this because I learned that womanhood comes with sacrifice. There is no greater sacrifice than being a mom in my opinion.

2.      Did you have a role model of womanhood?

At one point I did, my godmother, Denise. She came into my life when I was 11 years old and was the best example I could have of a mom.

3.      Have family, friends, romantic interest want you to meet a traditional/Biblical/stereotypical role or definition of a woman?

My family especially wants me to be the epitome of the “stereotypical woman.” That’s just not me unfortunately. I still uphold moral values, but I feel like the stereotypical woman settles and that has never been my personality. Being married young, I have learned you have to do what works best for you, not what everyone else tells you.

4.      Can you describe what womanhood means generally or personally to you?

Womanhood to me means a consistent journey of self-evaluation, sacrifice, and evolution. Womanhood isn’t defined by one thing; it’s defined by your journey.

5.      Do you believe men want a traditionally feminine wife/girlfriend without a career?

I personally feel like men sometimes want that traditional wife/girlfriend, but it’s a subconscious decision. They are taught, they have to provide, and be out in the world by themselves. The generation we live in today is not like that. There are so many opportunities women have and it takes pressure off the spouse. My husband and I have adapted, we help one another. God didn’t give me gifts for me just to be a homemaker.

6.      Is womanhood best demonstrated through motherhood?

I feel like it depends on the situation. I believe womanhood should be demonstrated through motherhood. Not everyone has a picture-perfect situation, because every female is not born a mother.

7.      Do you consider yourself a Feminist (believe men and women should have equal rights and opportunities)?

I wouldn't necessarily say I am a feminist. I just stand up for what I believe is right/wrong beyond gender.

 

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RED PILL: Love is blind part 1

I watched this love experiment on Netflix and noticed mating practices at their finest. Even though I was super hyped and spoke way too fast, I believe i made some key observances. I hope you enjoy my take on Love is Blind. 

LADY EVE: Poetry in Motion

 

If you haven't guessed I have a fascination with Eve, the mother of all women. She can be thanked for my desire to write and continue to learn about issues affecting women in life and especially religion. History has tainted the image of women and I will spend my life encouraging women to love and embrace womanhood. Keep an eye on my blog for upcoming published work availability. For now, enjoy one of my poems. I do not claim to be a POET. Just putting my feelings in a different style of writing expression.

LADY EVE 

by Dorothy Guyton 

Who were you this woman of creation, 

 That took a fall that fell a nation.

 Who were you to reach and take a bite, 

To open your eyes to now have sight. 

What made you draw close to that tree that was forbidden,

 What made you want to know all of the things God had hidden. 

 Tell me now the secret of your decision, 

Tell me the entire truth leave out the revision.

 Was it truly a snake in the garden on that day?

 Was it truly an animal that convinced you to stray? 

Could his beauty and supposedly velvety voice,

 Make you eat of the tree-entice your choice. 

 Why did you decide to share the wonder you unearthed? 

Why did you want to share deception you unconsciously birthed? 

Can you put into words that first day of discovery?

 Can you form a paragraph explaining your treachery? 

Man has composed sonnets, ballads and prose,

 To that one day in Eden when sin quickly arose. 

 Lady Eve, woman of beauty wisdom and charm, 

Did you believe your curious action would cause so much harm? 

Did you realize you sealed the fate of people yet to be born? 

Your life forever remembered with loathing, shame, and scorn.

 You hid yourself in bushes and covered yourself with leaves,

 And weaved a web of lies you hoped your Lord would believe.

 Gone are your blissful days of laughter, 

Your story was written without a happily ever after. 

Evicted in shame from a garden of ease,

 To pray for mercy daily on your humble bent knees.

 I wonder on the day of the birth of your son,

 Did you realize exactly what you had done? 

To secure the prize of knowledge and sight, 

You sacrificed the warmth and pleasure of daylight. 

For the haunted, seductive, delicious, destruction of sin,

 Would you make a different choice if confronted by the snake again?

 Lady Eve, my ancestor in a time by me unknown,

 Your actions on one day in history was a seed you should have never sown.

 Adam and you presiding over all of creation, 

Chose to disobey God with only slight hesitation. 

Today I say I forgive you for the curse of the pain of labor,

 If I faced what you faced in Eden, I could have well been your neighbor.

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RED PILL: Answers For Red Pill Men

Maybe you are not familiar with the Red Pill community. It is a community on Reddit for men who are dissatisfied with the dating environment. They say women are confusing and frustrating and they are trying to understand them in order to have a relationship with them. They share stories about approaching women they are attracted to and what unfolds. They share dating experiences and how they view single women. From these experiences the men have become angry, bitter, hopeless, and left with self-esteem issues.

This group believes women have an advantage over them in society and are favored over men. Through the use of sex (giving or withholding it) they have influenced the direction of the world for the worse. Court systems favor them in parental issues, divorce awarding them half or more of the man's income and believe women when they make false allegations such as rape against men. Women are responsible for the mess and chaos in the world and then they do not allow men to complain.

According to Briffaut's Law, which the Red Pill man is told is a truth, "The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place." In essence, she has to have a benefit to be with a man and she uses them and then discard them when they are of no use to them.

Most of the Red Pill social media activity is private making it a safe place for them to vent, encourage, and give advice to each other. Many spin off groups have come from the original Red Pill community which are anti-government, racist, and dangerous in their thought process and actions.

The Red Pillers are demonized and mocked on social media by both women and men. They are also feared by many women because they are known to harass women and their family who speak out about them in any way. I myself was threatened when I began promoting my soon to be released book Manhood Interrupted An Answer For The Red Pill Man to be released in April 2022.

It was a scary moment because of their reputation but with much prayer, I decided to continue on in my work. I am not speaking against the Red Pill community as you will see in my videos but trying to address the issues causing men frustration and anger through a look at stressors throughout history men have encountered and overcame. I am trying to give them hope that this time period which seems so difficult to them is nothing new. It has happened to men before and they adjusted and overcame those situations. Another focus of my book is how the advancement of technology changed the sex roles more so than women rejecting men and what they contribute to relationships and family dynamics.

The Red Pill community is focused more on dating. They are forming strategies and lifestyle changes to get and keep women. In many instances extreme masculinity and the Alpha male archetype is suggested for men to become more attractive to the opposite sex. Being emotionally unavailable to girlfriends and wives is encouraged. In my book I look at what being a man means, living in manhood, and how it will affect romantic relationships as well as other personal relationships.

A lot of time and research went into my book to be a resource for men, women, mothers and fathers during this time when men are trying to find their footing in a society, they believe has emasculated them in every area of life. The intent of the book is not to tell men they are wrong about their beliefs but if their belief is true what are they as men going to do about it in a healthy way.

I will be posting videos (the first couple are a little rough. But I got better and more comfortable as I went along. Be Kind) on this subject and hope to interview women and their views about the Red Pill Movement as well as men. 

As always leave comments. I answer all questions. Please pray for me and send positive energy my way.