Mothers Are The "Great Teacher"

 With Mother's Day just around the corner, my thoughts began to turn to all of the things I do and have done for my children and family in general as a mother. I see all of the fuzzy feelings and tender-hearted commercials trying to tell children what the perfect gift for mom would be. But is there an appropriate gift to give the one who gives their all?

I thought about Jesus and how he laid his life down for humanity so they could have a shot at eternal life. The giving of himself so fully for others - others never met yet whom he was willing to die for. Moms are not up there with Jesus, but there is no other example of a person giving their all, including their life for someone they love, than a mother.

I must admit there are some terrible mothers out there. There is not a hallmark card for them though. It isn't an easy job. but, even with their imperfections; their children love them deeply. So, for me to say 'there are some terrible moms' would be too flippant, judgmental, and downright horrible. So, I will separate the less than perfect mom, my category, from criminal moms. 

I love listening to the commercials encouraging people to adopt. They target in on the fact that you do not have to be cool, a rocket scientist, or child psychologist to be a loving person willing to adopt a child needing to be loved.

I wanted to take the time to appreciate those who are in this institution of motherhood, adoptive mom. Raising a child with shared DNA is one thing, but choosing to raise a child with the same amount of love and dedication who does not share any familial connection, is epic. A mother's love knows no bounds.

Mothers are the TEACHERS of the world. They fill this position sometimes with little or no training. It is simpler to answer the question what a mother doesn't teach than what does she teach. Even for men who cannot tolerate being under the authority of a woman began their lives being under the authority of a woman, his mother. He was once shaped and molded by a woman.

Mothers do not have a standard checklist in which they tick off all of the things they successfully teach their children. Maybe it would help in child rearing if they did. But one teaching mothers have let slip by the wayside is teaching their sons and daughters HOW to be a spouse. This is evident with people looking for or in a relationship wanting to be a POWER COUPLE, forgetting what MARRIAGE is truly about. You may ask if it is an actual duty of a mother to teach her child how to be a spouse and the answer is YES.

Titus 2:1–5 in the Bible says, "You, however, must teach what is appropriate to sound doctrine. Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance. Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God".

In this passage we see older women are supposed to carry themselves in a certain way and in turn teach younger women to do the same. In this teaching of how an older woman is supposed to live is the teaching of the younger woman how to be a wife and MOTHER (young men should be taught also how to be a husband and father).

I'm sure since there is wording regarding being SUBMISSIVE to the husband and doing housework, women prefer to not acknowledge this Bible passage. Whether the passage is embraced or not, being a spouse/mother is something that should be TAUGHT and not done by the seat of the pants. If children were being taught marriage and parenthood can be rewarding and what each is supposed to look like when healthy, then maybe today's nuclear family structure would not be threatened. We groom our children for careers and income but not how to be spouses and parents. Why should it be taught in the case of women? Because a mother becomes a GREAT TEACHER. It would seem it falls to the father to make sure the son learns how to be a husband and father but remember who the primary teacher in the home is. And sons definitely need to be taught how to be a good husband and father the entirety of their childhood.

Teachers in the American educational system state with just cause that they are underpaid for their work in teaching the future of America and underappreciated. Likewise, a mother, the FOREVER teacher is not comparably compensated for her work and her contribution to society is woefully underappreciated. 

Sometimes motherhood is a thankless position of late hours and few seeable benefits. But, upon reflection it turns out to be filled with benefits. Nothing can ever compare to that first whiff of innocence/newness I inhaled the first time I held each of my daughters for the first time. That was priceless. All of the funny faces they made at new discoveries made me smile. The laughter that tickled my ears at the simplest of things they found to be hilarious, and I had long ago taken for granted, made me smile. I have memories filled with smiles. If I were offered millions for my mother memories, I would turn it down. So, to all of the mothers out there; happy Mother's Day from me.

No matter what your mothering style is, preparing your child for marriage and parenthood or not, all that you do DO is invaluable. But of course, there is someone who did put a value on it.

According to ZipRecruiter, as of April 30, 2024, the average hourly pay for a stay-at-home mom in the United States is $16.32, and the average hourly pay for a housewife is $22.95. A 2019 survey from Salary.com estimated that the median annual salary for stay-at-home moms is $178,201, which includes traditional roles like housekeeper, dietitian, and day care teacher, as well as newer roles like network administrator, social media communications, and recreational therapist. Not too shabby, eh?

Heather Chrudimsky states that a stay-at-home moms perform many necessary duties, have important responsibilities that serve as the glue in a family/household that keeps it together and running smoothly. Their duties don't run on a 9 to 5 schedule and there is no punch out time. Below is her listing of a mother's duties.

10. Administrative assistant: run errands, answer the phone, pay bills, fill out paperwork, organize and schedule activities,
9. Chef: whether it's breakfast, lunch or dinner. Cooking responsibilities are on the shoulders of the stay-at-home - all while taking care of the kids.
8. Tutor/teacher: Time to bring out the math, science, spelling, etc. skills back out. No matter what the age, homework help is a staple in a stay-at-home mom's day.
7. Chauffeur: Whether it's to school, choir, dance, sports practice, dentist, doctor, friend's house, park, grocery store, etc., stay-at-home moms spend just about as much time in their vehicle as a truck driver.
6. Daycare provider: Kiddos are obviously a stay-at-home mom's top priority. Making sure they are busy, safe and engaged is a constant.
5. Referee: Literally and figuratively. Children fight and it is the job of mom to make sure no one is hurt, and lessons are learned.
4. Doctor/nurse: Band-aids, ointment and mommy kisses - nothing cures a boo-boo better.
3. Psychiatrist: Whether is it helping little ones understand their growing emotions or healing a first broken heart - mom is always there to offer a shoulder to cry on and give advice of course.
2. Maid/homemaker: Just call them domestic divas - name the cleaning chore, stay-at-home moms have done it.
1. Family mascot/boss: Regardless of a family's makeup, moms are the family centerpiece, keeping the family together, making sure everything runs smoothly and keeping everyone happy.

Seems like mothers might need regular vacation time WITH PAY.

For children, whatever you decide to give your mother for Mother's Day; expensive or not, make sure you smother her with 'thank yous' and 'love yous' because this is music to a mother's ears.

Why The Modern-Day Woman Is Ill and/or Angry

I COME TO PROCLAIM THE GREATNESS AND BUEATY OF WOMEN AND WOMANHOOD

Are you a victim of Eve Syndrome? Never heard of this before huh? There is a reason why you haven't heard of it.

How many of you out there are suffering from what I have labeled as the Eve Syndrome? Many diseases and ailments are silent until they have caused much damage. 

Well, since it is a relatively newly discovered ailment (by me); I better define it so you can diagnose whether or not you may be suffering from it. Let's first look at what does the word "Syndrome" means:

syn•drome (sndrm)n.

1. A group of symptoms that collectively indicate or characterize a disease, psychological disorder, or other abnormal condition.

2. a. A complex of symptoms indicating the existence of an undesirable condition or quality.

2. b. A distinctive or characteristic pattern of behavior: the syndrome of conspicuous consumption in wealthy suburbs.

The word syndrome is Greek = sundrom meaning concurrence of symptoms, from sundromos, running together: sun-, syn- + dromos, a running.

Many women, when going to the doctor for feeling something is not right with their body but that can't quite pinpoint what it is, will be diagnosed as depressed after routine x-rays and blood work comes back normal. But maybe deeper probing needs to be done.

As we are a triune being, mind, heart, and soul, the root cause of disease, may remain hidden and undiagnosed. With my educational background, I look at the soul/spirit and that is how I discovered Eve Syndrome which many Christian women suffer from unknowingly. 

EVE SYNDROME defined by: Dorothy Guyton (Not actually a true medical diagnosis, but my discovery)

1. Not being seen as anything other than alive to help support another’s life and well- being (husband, child, extended family) not knowing to support your own life as a high priority. Many people refer to the Bible verse in Genesis which says a woman is a helpmeet. The phrase "helpmeet" appears in Genesis 2:18 of the King James Version of the Bible, which says, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him". The word "meet" in this context means "suitable". The verse is saying that God created a "help" for Adam, and this helper was "meet" (suitable, fit, proper) for him. 

2. Putting yourself second to all others including strangers because you were created second assuming there was status associated with creation placement even though the one created first could not be happy on his own. Always playing the supporting role of fixer, therapist, supporter without reciprocation. 1 Timothy 2:13 Adam was created before Eve, and that Adam was not the one deceived, but the woman was. This verse is the basis of Paul's teaching about women in the church. 

3. You find it strange to be your own glory while a child, teen, young woman, before marrying and becoming your husband's glory. You must be in a relationship at all times to be happy or complete. You have been taught to be the glory of someone else, not self. 1 Corinthian 11:7-9 "For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God; but woman is the glory of the man. For the man is not of the woman, but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman, but the woman for the man". 

4. Accepting that you are a deceiver and easily deceived; prone to fall and stumble over and over again without support. Let others define you and remain in drama friendships with gossip and backstabbing. In Genesis 2, the fall of man, the entrance of sin into the world was caused by Eve and extended to all women.

5. Believing you must be everything at all times. If you are not a superwoman everything will fail or crumble, not allowing yourself to be human and limited. The Proverbs 31 woman is virtuous, noble character, faithful, trustworthy, resourceful, hardworking, entrepreneur, charitable, prepared provider, presentable, wise, Impactful, and God fearing.

6. Trying to perform every remedy or act in order to find forgiveness and acceptance from people especially other women. You must have affirmations of beauty, popularity, and/or womanhood. 1 Timothy 2"15 states, "But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety".

7. Feeling the heat of shame when the word "Eve" is ever mentioned. Feeling shame in choosing a career instead of or alongside motherhood. Feeling shame for being a sexual being equal to a man in sexuality.  1 Peter 3:7 "In the same way, you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are the weaker sex. Treat them with respect, because they also will receive, together with you, God's gift of life."

8. Continually proclaiming your weakness and susceptibility to the world. Downplaying your intelligence to fit in or get a man. Reluctant to marry a man who earns less than you because it will cause issues. Presenting a fake 'you' that is more favorable to others. 

ON A MEDICAL CHART YOUR SYMPTOMS WOULD READ AS FOLLOWS:

Anxiety, exhaustion, weakness, inability to walk on her own, host to several parasitic beings, anemia from the parasites, contagious, prone to hot flashes, and dual personality of saint and deceiver. 

I inserted a little humor with the symptoms a doctor would list, but Eve Syndrome is insidious because it can be copied or passed on to other women, even your daughters. A healthy example and definition of what a woman is and what womanhood CAN encompass, is important to every girl. 

With America declaring itself as a Christian nation and the Bible depicting women as a "sin," we as women must ensure to explain the beauty of God's creation - woman and not remain spiritually sick with Eve Syndrome. Our sons and men must also have a respectful understanding of what a woman is. The Bible should no longer be used as a weapon against women and wives. That is not the original intent of the Bible as I explain in my book.

Every woman should find health and healing within the Christian faith. Ask yourself "What does your internal self- image look like?" then read my book "When Will Eve Be Forgiven?" for more understanding. A book for every woman, religious or not.

God created you. He loves you and He forgave his wonderful fallen creation a long time ago. It is time to fall in love with you again, the prescription and treatment for EVE SYNDROME: reading my book and forgiveness by self.

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