How To Spot A BAD Doctor

 

    I have had the pleasure in my life to have had good experiences going to a new doctor. My experiences of having a BAD doctor outnumber the experiences of having a GOOD doctor.

    I happen to have back problems and in my efforts to find help for the problem, I have encountered HORRIBLE doctors!

    My frustrastion and anger was off the charts. I felt so helpless in my health care desparation. I knew deep within me the DOCTOR did not seem as CONCERNED with my excrutiating back pain as I was. I was ready to give up. My doctor visits left me feeling EXHAUSTED. I felt like I was in a FIGHT just for the doctor to LISTEN to what MY health complaints were.

    After one very disappointing doctor visit to a new doctor, I know I got Covid the next day due to the stress and hopelessness of a doctor dismissing me and being condescending to me as he quickly entered and exited my patient room. My immune system had to be as low as I felt that day. Thus COVID!

    I had had enough! I thought back to the majority of my doctor visits to see if there was a common DENOMINATOR. There was. First, I will give several signs of a bad doctor according to my RESEARCH before I go on about my personal findings about my BAD experiences with doctors:

Your doctor has a bad bedside manner.

Your doctor is late.

You aren't called with test results.

Your doctor’s record is blemished.

Your doctor has trouble with boundaries.

Your doctor has poor diagnostic skills.

Your doctor asks personal questions.

Your doctor is narrow-minded about alternative therapies.

7 Signs of a Bad Doctor:

• The office staff is unprofessional.
• Your doctor isn't listening to you.
• You can't get in touch with them.
• You don't know what's going on.
• Your doctor is rude or condescending.
• Your doctor seems rushed.
• They don't offer helpful alternatives.

****MY advice for you to FLEE is a waiting room full of people waiting for HOURS to see the doctor. The doctor, his employees, his practice, does not RESPECT YOU from the get go. DO NOT pay or see a doctor who makes his patients WAIT forever in the waiting room. SIMPLE! 

    Now for my journey. The FIRST common denominator was, the majority of the doctors were WHITE MALES. And RACE does make a difference in the healthcare system. Nearly 64 percent of active physicians were White, 20.6 percent were Asian, 6.9 percent were Hispanic, and 5.7 percent were Black or African American, as of January 17, 2023. In 2018,Whites were 60% of the U.S. population and approximately 57% of physicians. Diversity knowledge is needed to be able to address many patient's needs as I will get into later.

     This is NOT the race card being played. It is just the facts of being ill and in need of treatment for your health concerns while being BLACK. I have always FELT a white man could not relate to the medical concerns of a BLACK WOMAN. I just felt it in my gut, but continued on. 

    SECOND, the AGE of a doctor makes a difference. In 2018, among White physicians, males were the vast majority of those age 65 years and over (79.3%) and of those ages 55-64 years (71.5%). A little more than half of White physicians age 34 and younger were females (50.6%). Among White physicians age 35 and over, males made up a larger percentage of the workforce than females. This percentage increased with age. New research published last week in the Journal of Modern Medicine, which analyzed a large number of physicians according to age, sex and race, showed that older white male doctors (age greater than 60) in a number of different specialties, overwhelmingly had BETTER patient outcomes and patient satisfaction, than any other demographic.

     Now let's look how race plays a role in healthcare since I am a minority.

    Racial and ethnic disparities vary by group: For about 40% of quality measures, Blacks (82 of 202) and American Indians and Alaska Natives (47 of 116) received worse care than Whites. For more than one-third of quality measures, Hispanics (61 of 177) received worse care than Whites, according to NHQDR. The annual National Healthcare Quality and Disparities Report (NHQDR) is mandated by Congress to provide a comprehensive overview of the quality of healthcare received by the general U.S. population and disparities in care experienced by different racial and socioeconomic groups. ALL groups receive worse care than WHITE people.

     When you throw in a person's income, things can get even worse. For the most recent year, people in poor households had worse access to care than people in high-income households for 90% of access measures. Blacks had worse access to care than Whites for 48% of access measures. Asians had worse access to care than Whites for 32% of access measures. Native Hawaiians/Pacific Islanders (NPHIs) had worse access to care than Whites for 25% of access measures. American Indians and Alaska Natives (AI/ANs) had worse access to care than Whites for 55% of access measures. Hispanics had worse access to care than non-Hispanic Whites for 65% of access measures.

    In 2017, Blacks (73.4%), Asians (70.1%), and AI/ANs (67.5%) were less likely than Whites (76.8%) to have a usual primary care provider. In 2017, Blacks (20.4%) and Asians (24.3%) who needed to see a SPECIALIST were more likely than Whites (14.2%) to report that they sometimes or NEVER found it easy to get the appointment. People of color can't even get appointments or referrals. It's not in our heads. 

    You know what else is not in OUR heads? Many doctors don't seem to care very much about their patients, are somewhat mean to their patients, and even seem as they may not know or understand what's going on with the patient. Our Spidey senses are RIGHT.

''There have been estimates that as many as 5 to 15 percent of doctors are not fully competent to practice medicine, either from a deficiency of medical skills or because of impairment from drugs, alcohol or mental illness,'' said Dr. Richard Jay Feinstein, former chairman of the Florida State Medical Board.Mar 24, 1985.

    The reason why doctors can be condescending is that they were probably jerks to begin with, rationalizing that getting into medical school is very competitive and that students are ranked according to test scores, not on how nice they are. Successful pre-meds are generally type A personalities with a fierce competitive nature, and what kind of person would sign up for a career where they are harassed, blamed, required to do endless paperwork of indeterminate usefulness, denied regular sleep, and endure hostility from staff, coworkers, family members, and error-prone colleagues? A person with a pretty thick skin and a high tolerance for sadism and/or masochism…also known as a jerk. YES. If you FEEL your doctor is a jerk than he probably is one.

    When I speak of racism in the medical field it is not doctors not wanting to treat you because of your color. It is something else on an entirely different level.

    Doctors tend to believe: BLACK PEOPLE HAVE A HIGH TOLERANCE FOR PAIN. No I don't. I'm just as delicate as the blonde blue eyed white woman!!

    When false ideas of pain tolerance based on RACE are present within people's minds, they lead to detrimental consequences even if those who believe in them have no explicitly prejudiced beliefs, as was discovered by researchers. In a study on racial bias in pain assessments, a demonstrated correlation between racial bias in pain assessment and subsequent pain treatment suggestions was found. It was also found that in both a significant number of laypersons and those with medical training, incorrect beliefs about differences between black and white people on a BIOLOGICAL level were held.

     Beliefs such as these can lead to the differential treatment of patients on the basis of their race. In a research paper which was written by Staton et al., doctors were shown to have a higher probability of UNDERESTIMATIN the pain INTENSITY that black patients were feeling. In the early 2000's multiple studies were able to demonstrate discrepancies in the PAIN TREATMENT of black patients as compared to the pain treatment of white patients. From children to adults, differences were as much as black patients only taking HALF of the amount of pain medications as white patients were taking.

    Diagnostic errors result in a staggering toll of harm and patient deaths with nearly one in twenty patients—or 12 million adults in the United States—experiencing a diagnostic error each year. WOMEN and Black patients are more likely to experience ADVERSE events during primary care. Overall, research suggests that some vulnerable social groups are more likely to be harmed by diagnosis error.

     Further, research has found that, when compared to White patients, ethnic minorities have a greater chance of experiencing harm and adverse consequences due to errors in the testing process, which includes ordering the test, implementing the test, performing the test, reporting results to the clinician, clinician responding to the results, notifying the patient of the results and following up.

     One study reviewed the association between the type of testing error and the occurrence of adverse outcomes and found an important association across racial and ethnic groups. This research revealed that ERRORS based on test implementation were almost DOUBLE within minority groups in comparison with non-Hispanic Whites (32% as opposed to 18%). Overall, the study found minority patients were more likely to experience an adverse event. The study revealed that minority patients are THREE times more likely to experience an adverse event due to the testing process than a White patient.

     OKAY. I'm Black. What else is working against me? Oh Yeah, I'm a woman. The THIRD thing that matters in healthcare is SEX.

    A study at Johns Hopkins University found that emergency room doctors commonly miss strokes among women, minorities, and patients under age forty-five. Unfortunately, each year “doctors overlook or discount the early signs of potentially disabling strokes in tens of thousands of Americans.” Of those overlooked, women, minorities, and younger patients are disproportionately sent home, despite complaints of dizziness or headaches. Additional research has found that WOMEN under the age of fifty-five were almost SEVEN times more likely than men in the same age group to be sent home from the hospital in the middle of experiencing certain heart problems. The results of these studies suggest that race and gender, whether implicitly or explicitly, may play a role in how physicians decide who to treat and who to send home. 

    Not only have doctors, scientists and researchers mostly been WHITE MEN, but most of the cells, animals, and humans studied in medical science have also been MALE: most of the advances we have seen in medicine have come from the study of MALE biology. Dr Janine Austin Clayton, an associate director for women’s health research at the United States National Institutes of Health (NIH), told the New York Times that the result is: “We literally know less about every aspect of FEMALE biology compared to male biology.” Diseases presenting DIFFERENTLY in women are often missed or misdiagnosed, and those affecting mainly women remain largely a mystery: understudied, undertreated and frequently misdiagnosed or undiagnosed.

    Historically, medical education and research have been MALE-focused, specifically on the WHITE gendered male. Within medicine there exists a foundation of research conducted on the White gendered male, with the assumption that this data could simply be extrapolated to women and other racial and ethnic minorities. Research has also found physicians and medical institutions fail to offer equitable, unbiased, appropriate medical care for women. One reason for this failure is the presumption that women are “overly emotional.” Within our culture, women have long suffered from unfair stereotypes and dismissal of their concerns as hysteria or emotion, according to MEDICAL ERROR AND VULNERABLE COMMUNITIES by PHOEBE JEAN-PIERRE.

    So it is not so much about BAD DOCTORS, it's about understanding you are ENTITLED to competent healthcare by professional competent doctors who treat you with decency. If you FEEL, BELIEVE you are not being listened to or dismissed, do not continue to see that particular doctor. I know when it is an emergency, whatever doctor is in the emergency room is who you are going to see. But, there is a patient advocate you can request to speak with if you believe you are being treated less than and you can request to be seen by another doctor. Shop around for a primary care provider who is not overloaded with patients and imforms you to YOUR satisfaction regarding your treatments.

    I have decided to ditch the WHITE MALE DOCTOR. They never give me pain medication, they rush in and out of the room, and do have a tendency to dismiss my symptoms or give referals to departments that MAY be able to clear up my concerns.

    I just got tired of it all and after being so upset after a doctor's visit that I 100% believe I got COVID. I had to make a change.

 

Knockout #Rose or Brick House Rose?

I need your help #rose growers, #gardeners. If you grow the rose Brick House or the Knockout rose, let me know if the rose in the video is either one. 

This year I have #bought so many mislabeled #roses. Most are pretty but this one is a disappointment.

#Gardening always has challenges, but when you spend your #money, you do expect to get what you have paid for. RIGHT?

How many of you out there have been running into this same problem? I know I'm not the only one. At least I hope I'm not.

Please #share in the comments if you have had the wrong #flower #plant shipped, purchased, or given to you and it was not what it was supposed to be. 

Misery loves company, but I think you all can help me have a laugh about my rose surprises of 2023. Gardening is always suppose to be an enjoyable #journey. So, I might drink WINE, but, as a long time gardener, I choose not to WHINE.

Thanks for your help.

Adam and Eve Mural in Garden. #Garden #tour #July #project 2023

The beginning of my Garden of Eden with a mural. Follow me and come along for an interesting #gardening #journey.

The Silence of Rape

     

    RAPE is at the top of headlines. The push for the release of the Epstein files is being kept alive by the brave VICTIMS of rape coming forward years after the abuse. Lately, a Lutheran church has come under fire for telling rape victims by clergy to, "Forgive and Forget." This is the SILENCING of rape.

    I originally wrote this post to shine a light on WHY rape victims are hesitant to report rape. It remains true today. A president, an accused rapist, gets away with rape. What message is our country giving to women? How does rape affect it's victims. Will fewer women come forward in the climate of, "the silence of rape."

    If you are paying attention to the news you have heard E. Jean Carroll has accused former president Donale Trump of raping her in Bergdorf Goodman department store in the mid-1990s and then defamed her when he denied her claim. Trump has denied the assault occured. E. Jean Carroll testified in sometimes searing detail about the day she says Donald trump raped her in a department store dressing room two decades before he became president, allegations the Republican has repeatedly and vehemently denied.

    What grabbed my attention about the case was the statement she did not go to the police or the hospital after the alledged assault. The statement suggest that IF she was so hurt by the rape as she claims, why was she SILENT about it.

    When there is an assault to cause harm or what is labled as a criminal assault, people look for PHYSICAL evidence that an assault has occurred. Is there a busted lip, scratches, black eye, broken bones, knife stab, or a bullet wound. For these outward appearances of an ASSAULT people have sympathy, wants to render aid, help you find a policeman, or take you to a hospital. The assaulted person can walk around with the physical evidence able to speak for itself. But in the case of rape, there may not be any physcal wounds visible. How is sympathy or a feeling of wanting justice stirred in others when physical wounds are not present? How do they JUDGE a person has been HURT when there is nothing physical to see?

    Another thing that comes to mind is, there was no CRY for help. After the alledged rape Ms. Carroll was SILENT. There is a Bible passage in the Old Testament that addresses the silence DURING a rape. Yes. The Bible addresses rape. Duetoronomy 22:23-27 “If there is a betrothed virgin, and a man meets her in the city and lies with her, then you shall bring them both out to the gate of that city, and you shall stone them to death with stones, the young woman because she did not cry for help though she was in the city, and the man because he violated his neighbor’s wife. So you shall purge the evil from your midst. But if in the open country a man meets a young woman who is betrothed, and the man seizes her and lies with her, then only the man who lay with her shall die. But you shall do nothing to the young woman; she has committed no offense punishable by death. For this case is like that of a man attacking and murdering his neighbor, because he met her in the open country, and though the betrothed young woman cried for help there was no one to rescue her."

    The Bible passage says the woman was to CRY OUT for help if people are around but will not be faulted for NOT crying out if she is in a place where there are no people, but in both instances the man is to be punished for the crime of rape which is comparable to MURDER. The crying out part is BEFORE or DURING the rape. Why is it then women do not cry out , before, during, or after a rape?

    When a rape occurs there is a CHOICE a woman must make. If a man, larger and stronger than she is, is physically willing to assault her, she has to calculate, "Can my stregnth outmatch his?" We know automatically the answer is probably a no. Rape as you can imagine doesn't take place with people around. The lack of the presence of people is actually a prerequisite to being able to rape. Crying out when there is no one around is a moot point. Back to the calcultions a woman must make when faced with the realization, "This man is going to rape me."

     The woman pretty much knows the struggle to keep from being raped is lost based on the physical makeup of a man versus a woman. With this in mind, she knows her retaliation must be above his. Her defense has to be more brutal and violent to avoid being sexually assaulted. Her options are, 'cause greater harm.' To this critical point, a woman has to decide, "Am I capable of using a force that may lead to MURDER?"

    To many, mostly those never faced with a decision of such grave consequences, the choice will be, murder. It is assumed we all have it in us to take a life to protect our own life. But, if you ask an actual rape VICTIM what was going through their head at the time, you may be surprised at the answer.

    Many rapes are done by people the victim knows. Stranger rapes tend to be more physically violent leaving the outward physical assault evident. But, what about the "I thought I knew him rapes?" Do you want to kill a person whose family you may know or hangs out in your friend circle? Is it easy to kill the co-worker you associate with at work or work for and see daily? Or do the victim succomb with the thought, "It's easier to let it go agead and occur and be over with without resistence possibly causing me more harm than to KILL the person?" Does the victim think "My LESSER ASSAULT (I'm not saying it IS a lesser assault but society has) is better than me having to MURDER someone?"

     What about after the assault of rape? Why don't victims go strait to the police or hospital to report the assault? It's a strange thing rape victims do. They take a SHOWER after a rape. If a person is shot, they don't take a shower. If a person is stabbed they don't go take a shower. Rape victims tend to want to WASH what in their mind is the EVIDENCE left after a rape. The TOUCH itself. The MEMORY itself is what is trying to be washed away because there are no OUTWARD signs for people to run to in an effort to show compassion, help, or justice. There is nothing for the eye to rest on after a rape unless you want to look at her VAGINA. A woman would have to put her vagina on DISPLAY and say here is the evidence. She would have to put her vagina in your face for you to view the harm. The very intimate place of her, covered from view, given sight to only those she chooses, would have to be paraded around and pointed to to gain compassion and sympathy. WHO on earth wants to do that and the victim knows there is no one who wants to see that. People say, "This is where I was shot," but don't say, "This is where I was raped."

    So there is the silence of rape. The body itself can not speak and say LOOK I've been assaulted unless it was a physically violent rape where a beating took place more than likely from a struggle which did not nigate being raped. There is silence because rape does not take place in front of witnesses. The rapes usually take place where the victim felt safe with the rapist or in a safe surrounding. There is silence after the rape because proving an assault where the assault took place between your legs is not a place easily viewed by others. Photographs would have to be carried aroud and displayed by the victim. There is silence because the rapist is known by people the victim is friends with, acquainted with, work with, hope to work with, or are familiar with his family and social circle. There is silence because the victim thinks the trauma is over after the shower. They themselves look in the mirror and see no evidence of an assault. To a rape victim it can seem as though it almost didn't actually happen. It's almost to them as though they need MORE for it to have been a CRIME. Maybe because society, the judicial system, everyday life says only certian proof constituates injury. 

    It is Mental Health Awareness Month as I write this post and we have to strongly KNOW that rape causes mental health issues sooner or later and you don't have to be in a straight jacket to prove you were harmed mentally by a rape. Some of the comments being made during the trial are OFFENSIVE. The most offending statement was by Trump himself. He said his accuser was NOT ATTRACTIVE and many people agreed. Rape is not about the VICTIM'S appearance, social standing, economic standing, physical proportions, beauty, or intelligence. Rape is about there being something WRONG with the rapist! There has been hurdle after hurdle for victims of rape to overcome and being called too UGLY to rape is just another one of the SHAMING of the victim that occurs with rape. Does anyone say, "He was to UGLY to shoot?"

    There is a SILENCE to rape that is birthed with the assault. The victim is too busy asking themselves, "Why Me. Is this My fault? Why didn't I see this coming? What do I do the next time I see him? What WILL happen if I say something? Why mention this to anyone, no one likes to hear stuff like this? Am I okay? Can I keep myself together." the SELF TALK is so much until it's hard to talk to others.

    Rape is such a LOW crime to the point people can't stomach it. Shootings and robberies are on the nightly news daily, but rape is not something that should come over the airwaves into respectable family homes. Bellow I've pasted some sexual assault facts by 32 Shocking Sexual Assault Statistics for 2023, by Jennifer Kuadli, March 30, 2023,32 Disheartening Sexual Assault Statistics for 2023 (legaljobs.io) 

General Statistics about Sexual Assault Although statistics on sexual assault can’t even begin to convey the suffering of victims and their families, they can offer a glimpse into the disturbing extent of the issue.

1. In 2019, over 652,676 women were raped.This figure excludes non-rape sexual assaults but includes date rape statistics; if included, data from non-rape sexual assaults would take the figure closer to the one million mark. What’s worse, it has been rising for the last decade at an annual rate of 2.9%, and this trend shows no sign of decreasing.

2. Over 40% of women in the US have encountered sexual violence. Sexual abuse, as shown by rape and sexual assault statistics, has affected 41.8% of women in the US who have been victimized by sexual violence other than rape.

3. Nearly 80% of female sexual assault victims experience their first assault before the age of 25. Exactly 79.6% of female victims who have experienced one or more completed rape did so before the age of 25.

4. Around 20% of American males have been the victim of sexual violence. According to Rainn statistics, outside of the correctional system, most rape victims are female. However, studies show that 21.4% of males in the US have been the victims of sexual violence and have experienced this outside of any prison facility.

5. A quarter of male victims of sexual assault were under 10 years of age. According to studies, an estimated total of 28% of male victims of sexual assault in the US will have experienced their first assault at 10 years of age or younger.

6. Rape Statistics show that less than 20% of rapes are reported. It is estimated that only 19% of rapes, completed or attempted, are reported annually. This figure runs consistently across the board. The general consensus is that rape is still considered something shameful, hence victim reluctance.

7. Women and men with disabilities face twice the risk of sexual assault than able-bodied individuals. Sadly, data gathered from watchdog organizations and US sexual assault statistics have found that disabled people were twice as likely to be victims of sexual assault than able-bodied people. Statistics of sexual abuse show that the majority of these heinous assaults were carried out in care environments (both facilities and home care). Yet, they were also reported as taking place during hospital or general practitioner sessions, as well as in individual therapy sessions.

8. Nearly 20,000 sexual assaults were reported in the military last year. A study on the level of sexual assault within the military from 2010 revealed sexual violence statistics that showed a figure of 3,577, of which only a quarter took place during deployment in combat zones. The study was repeated in 2019, and the sexual assault stats showed over 19,000 sexual assaults had now taken place in the US military.

9. 7.2% of all children surveyed in 2019 had been victims of sexual assault. Child sexual abuse statistics highlight the harrowing revelation that teens aged 14 to 17 were in the highest risk category for sexual assault, with more than one in four adolescents (27.3%) having been sexually victimized during their lifetimes.

10. Approximately 70 women commit suicide every day in the US following an act of sexual violence. Women sexual assault statistics reveal some extremely disturbing facts. An estimated 70 women commit suicide daily in the US, directly as a result of sexual violence. Worryingly, this figure has grown by 2.87% over the last year.

11. Sexual violence incidents, preceded by stalking, increased by 1.9% in 2019. According to statistics and sexual harassment facts from 2019, the incidents of stalking that led to sexual assaults have increased steadily over the last year. What makes this figure even more alarming is the fact that initiatives were put in place to prevent and protect victims from such occurrences. So, governmental legislation and thinking about the issue must be reviewed.

12. During 2019, 13% of all women in California were victims of rape. Sexual harassment statistics reflect a large percentage of Californian women have been reported as having been a victim to an attempted or completed rape in 2019. Current rape statistics by state show that 13% of all Californian women are in danger of being a victim of sexual assault.

13. Statistics show that 1 in 6 US women will be raped annually in the US. Surveys and rape statistics by gender have found that 1 in 6 American women, and 1 in 33 American men has experienced an attempted/completed rape as a child or adult. This disturbing figure has been predicted to rise exponentially over the next three years.

14. Over 1.5 million women were raped by an intimate partner in 2019. Statistics on sexual harassment from the Department of Justice suggest that over 1.5 million women and 834,700 men are raped and/or physically assaulted annually by an intimate partner in the United States. This staggering figure is both disheartening and unnerving.  Experts have created focus groups to analyze and explore these sexual assault statistics by state in more depth.

Little Known Facts About Male Victims of Sexual Violence According to sexual assault statistics, males are also high-risk victims of sexual violence.

Which means that: Sexual abuse is not limited to females, and the abuse of boys has little to do with either the abuser’s or the victim’s sexual orientation.

Perhaps unsurprisingly: Male rape statistics show that most perpetrators of male sexual assault are men. These predators choose to rape both gay or straight men because rape is an act of aggression and domination, not of sexual desire.

Contrary to popular belief: Girls and women can most definitely be perpetrators of sexual violence toward males, and instances of this kind are more prevalent in society than most people realize.

In contradiction to the sweeping statement thinking of most people, male sexual assault statistics have now proved that most males who experience sexual assault (at any age) do not automatically go on to become sexual abusers.

In many cases: According to gun violence statistics, attackers can use various weapons, physical force, or even the threat of force to gain the upper hand. Others, according to rape victim statistics, may use blackmail or their position of authority to threaten someone into submission.

15. Approximately 16% of males in juvenile prisons have been sexually abused. A 2019 study by the US Center for Disease Control examined woman rape statistics in juvenile prisons for incidents and frequency of sexual violence. The results showed that 16% of males had been victims of sexual abuse, whereas over 60% of males in these facilities had encountered the threat of sexual violence.

16. In Florida alone, a staggering total of 1,477,000 men have been victim to sexual assault. In Florida, 20.4% of men, or 1,477,000 men, have been victimized by sexual violence over the last decade.

17. Over 25% of male sexual assault victims will experience their first assault before 10 years of age. According to sexual assault statistics 2019, studies and statistical analysis, in excess of 25% (27.8% to be exact) of male victims of sexual assault will probably experience their first attack by age 10 or younger.

18. Nearly 40% of adult males that experience sexual violence from an intimate partner are left with psychological scarring. Reports and studies on  US rape statistics show clearly that 39.7% of men who have experienced sexual assault from their partner such as rape, stalking or physical violence, are left with long term impacts such as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and other types of psychological injury.

19. New York statistics show that 18% of all rapes in the city involved a male victim. According to rape statistics, extensive studies, and focus groups, 2019 involved a record high of male rape victims within the city, with a record high figure of 18% - which is 5.7% higher than 2018.

Sexual Assault Effects on Society

20. Over 80% of sexual assaults are committed by an acquaintance. Relatives, teachers, religious leaders, former spouses - unfortunately, the list of possible attackers is one of people who will most often have a very intimate relationship with the victim. Statistics on rape indicate that this connection normally results in most rape victims shying away from reporting such incidents due to obligatory or emotional pressures.

21. Almost 95% of child victims knew their sexual attacker. Rape stats by RAINN show that the vast majority percentage (93.98%) of child victims in the US in 2019 were familiar with their attacker. In almost all of these cases, as reflected by teenage sexual assault statistics, the child had spent a significant amount of time (10 plus hours, in one full duration or segmented) with their attacker prior to the sexual assault taking place.

22. The rate of false rape claims in the US is well below the 10% average mark. Although false rape claims do happen, it is important to keep in mind that the majority of rape claims are legitimate, as sexual assault statistics reveal. In fact, data collated in 2019 from false rape statistics, shows that a combined rate of 6.9% of rape claims were false. 

23. Sexual assaults cost the US billions of dollars annually. Findings from college sexual assault statistics and other reports show that although sexual assaults take heinous tolls on their victims and cause terrible emotional damage, there is another cost that is rarely factored into such tragic events - the cost on society in financial terms. According to stats on sexual abuse, when we factor in the costs of funding and running sexual assault services, the resulting lower educational aspirations (a common affliction amongst adolescents who have been the victim of child abuse), and the cost of lost earnings of victims who have been traumatized to a point where they are unable to work, the costs on the US annually are in excess of $450 billion. A staggering figure on paper, and one that has, according to stats on sexual assault, been increasing yearly by 1.8% on average.

24. 69% of rape victims in the US are women aged between 12 to 34 years old. Sexual violence figures from 2019 were significantly higher compared to sexual assault statistics 2018. The 12-34 age bracket has been known to encompass the majority of rape victims in the US on an average year.

25. Transgender college students have a 5% higher rate of getting raped than other students. After conducting studies on sexual assault statistics by gender, US colleges have reported a rise in sexual attacks on transgender students. College rape statistics about transgender, genderqueer, and gender-nonconforming (TGQN) students have shown that in 2019 an average of 23% of students were in danger of being sexually assaulted, compared to 18% of non-TGQN students. These stats are concerning because they are significantly higher than college sexual assault statistics 2018, which means the problem is getting out of control.

26. Bisexual women are more than twice as likely to victims of rape than straight women. Of all the women at the greatest risk from sexual assault in the US, bisexual women are statistically in the danger zone. Sexual abuse statistics show that 46% of bisexual women reported being a victim of sexual assault in 2019, compared to 17% of straight women.

Furthermore, sexual assault on college campuses statistics show an interesting correlation, which reveals that bisexual men face similar issues, with 47% of them being victims of sexual violence, compared to 21% of heterosexual men.

27. The majority (90%) of rape victims are female. Findings from sexual assault reporting statistics have unsurprisingly revealed that women make up the vast majority of rape victims. This figure reflects rape statistics US and includes adult victims but excludes juvenile victims, who, if included, would total 82% of all rape victims.

28. An American is sexually assaulted every 93 seconds. Sexual assaults are on the rise throughout the whole of the US. On average, state by state comparative analysis (including rape statistics by race data) shows that there are approximately 325,566 victims of rape and sexual assault (age 12 or older) in the US every year.

29. People with disabilities are twice as likely to be victims of rape and sexual assault as those without disabilities. Both males and females with disabilities experienced higher rates of victimization than able-bodied males and females. Surprisingly, rape statistics in the US show that those with a type of cognitive-functioning disability were at higher risk of violent victimization than those with any other type of disability.

30. Girls and women between the ages of 16 and 19 are 4x more likely than girls and women in other age groups to be assaulted or raped. Results gathered from numerous studies show that campus sexual assault statistics have found patterns on the locale of victims. In general, 46% of sexual assault victims were sleeping or performing another activity at home when they were victimized.

Nearly 23% were traveling to and from school or work, shopping, or running errands. Some 19% were working when they were, 9% were attending school, and 19% were doing some other activity.

31. One out of every six American females is a victim of attempted or completed sexual assault.According to sexual assault facts, one out of every six American women will most probably be the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. This ratio has doubled in the last five years, and analysts predict the same to happen over the course of the next half a decade.

1 in 33 American men (about 3% of the total percentage of women sexually assaulted) have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. This figure has increased by 22.4% over the last five years.

32. For every 1000 rapes in the US, 995 perpetrators will go unpunished. Studies covering unreported sexual assault statistics show that the overwhelming majority of perpetrators will escape punishment of any kind. US rape stats show that too many victims are afraid to follow through with the legalities of their claim, leading to perpetrators escaping punishment of any form.

What's Love Got To Do With It?

LIFE IS NOT THAT SERIOUS. TAKE TIME TO SMILE AND HAVE A LAUGH WHEN POSSIBLE

    Today is Valentines Day and there are people enjoying the day celebrating being in love with their special someone. And there are those who have not found their special someone and are not feeling so cheery today. It's okay. I'm here to hopefully uplift you with my writing about the crazy world of nature and how humans are only a BIT different when it comes to "Getting busy" "Knocking boots" "Hooking up" "Doing the Wild Thang" and what ever the young people slang is for having SEX (leave a comment which I know you will tell me how my slang is outdated).

    This post was originally written in the height of spring 2023. I love it so much I wanted to share it with you again on this day when everyone's attention is on having a significant OTHER or not having one. Let me be your significant OTHER today and let me shower YOU today with a smile. My BEST gift I can give to you.

    There are few people who cringe when the topic of sex is brought up. Parents belong to the group of cringers when it comes to thinking about their sweet innocent children one day having sex. On the other hand, children cringe thinking of the possibility their geriatric parents EVER had sex.

    Be that as it may, live long enough and you too will eventually have sex. Live long enough and you will regret your choice of at least one sex partner. 

    I know many decided to click on this blog, this particular post, hoping for some steamy or even perverted writing regarding SEX. I aim to please.

    The problem you may find with this writing is that it is not about people having sex; well, not diectly. I will not be offering my expertise in this area nor any new-found techniques or positions. Believe me, no matter how good or unique you may believe yourself to be in this area, there is nothing new under the sun and many masters exist.

    With my gardening backgroud, passion, and enjoyment, I find this time of year to be a-buzz with sexual activity in the insect world. EVERYTHING is trying to recreate itself and PLEASURE does not seem to factor into it as it does with us humans. But, as always, there is always a hint of the animal world or nature found within ourselves.

    

    The male ladybug evidently does not need much or expects any participation from the lady he chooses to spend some time with. Human men have a cheif complaint of sex being 'horrible' with a woman/partner who just lays there. The male ladybug is able to go for HOURS. Many human woman may nor prefer hours, but have a complaint of the sexual union ending far quicker than she would hope. But as with the male ladybug, there is a certain amount of "I'm in this just for me" that crosses over into the human sexual experience. But, come on dude; she's DEAD.

    Men also complain women use sex as a bargaining chip. Want to have sex? Take out the garbage, or buy me a gift, take me to a movie or dinner, etc., etc., etc. To just get in on the action, the male human has to do a great deal (according to them). So women, give the man what he wants. SEX and instant DEATH just like the female praying mantis does.

    Everybody knows that men think about sex every seven seconds. What people haven’t perhaps considered is that means more than 8000 times a day or 56 000 times a week. Really? Did everybody know that?  When The Kinsley Institute researchers asked men and women how often they think about sex, 54 percent of men said they think about sex several times a day, 43 percent responded a few times per week or just a few times per month, and 4 percent said less than once a month. Meanwhile, 19 percent of women said they thought about sex every day or several times a day, 67 percent responded a few times per week or a few times a month or, and 14 percent said less than once a month. So the every seven seconds is myth and legend.

     But, would they think of it at all if their balls exploded and they died after that ONE glorious orgasm? Women wouldn't be at risk of dying after an orgasm since women said they reach orgasm 31-40% of the time in response to the question about intercourse in general. By contrast, women said they reached orgasm even more often with assisted intercourse (51-60% of the time), but less often with unassisted intercourse (21-30% of the time). Women are just destined to outlive men lol. No EXPLOSIONS going on her way.

    

    We women are not as extreme as the dragonfly in our efforts to get out of having sex, but does the phrase: "Not tonight dear. I have a headache" ring a bell? Men, never the wiser, have not realized their sexual partner somehow freakishly has at least three 'periods' a month rendering them temporarily out of commission in the sex department. Thank goodness, along with getting directions, men don't do the math on menstrual cycles per month. Moving right along.

    Okay ladies. By a show of hands how many of you have been awakened from a sound sleep by an object, which you recognized imeediately as a penis, pokinng you in the back? WHAT IS UP WITH THAT? Men, you use that sexual organ like a heat seeking missile!! A poke here. A poke there. I mean, REALLY! Do you ever think it can be a traumatizing experience in the same way as the bedbug? No. In your charm, you view it as an assault with a FRIENDLY WEAPON. And God love you, we women giggle and join in.

    All of the above sex acts seem so UNNATURAL, but they are completely NATURAL in the insect world and the human world. All of the sexual interactions must occur in order for survival to continue. The persistent and tenacious gets to procreate and pass along DNA. Taking chances to mate with the dead and sometimes half dead, is a chance worth taking. Going after the desired ONE, at the risk of loss of life and limb, is worth it. Faking death and illness to get out of MATING insures the BEST DNA is passed along. Women do have to be selective in choosing the father of her offspring; a lesson needed to be learned and understood in this generation of sexually active, child bearing age people.

     Right now the air, literally, the air is filled with sexual activity in every direction the eye can rest. When we think about having the 'sex talk' with our children it is not referred to the 'birds and the bees' talk for no reason. If we were to actually explain what the birds and bees are truly doing it would frighten our children off of the idea of ever having sex. Even though it's hard for parents to hold the thought of their blossoming children becoming sexually active, we don't want them to NOT EVER have a happy healthy sex life. But, man, it's harsh out there for a bug. 

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What is Your Mental Health Quotient?

 

     

    May is Mental Health Awareness Month first established in 1949. This month is dedicated to educate the public about mental illness, raise awareness surrounding research and treatments, reduce the stigma associated with mental illness, and celebrate recovery from mental illness. More than 43.8 million people are affected by mental health disorders each year. Less than half of those will seek a mental health professional's help.  

 In the ongoing controversy over gun control, many site mental illness as the cause for mass shooting while those in the mental health community don't want mental illness associated with gun vilonce. In this area alone, education regarding mental health is important.

    Violence is not a symptom of psychotic illness. The relationship between mental illness and violence is complex. Research suggests there is little relationship between mental illness and violence when substance use is not involved.

    Psychotic illnesses such as schizophrenia can sometimes be associated with aggressive or violent behavior. People living with schizophrenia are no more violent or dangerous than the rest of the population, if they are:

• receiving effective treatment
• not misusing alcohol or drugs.

    They are more likely to harm themselves than others.

    There is a slightly increased possibility that someone living with a psychotic illness may be violent if they:

• are not receiving effective treatment
• have a previous history of violence
• misuse alcohol or other drugs
• are experiencing active psychotic symptoms (and are responding to hallucinations or delusions)
• are triggered by fear (for example, if they think they are in danger)
• are experiencing psychotic symptoms for the first time, or the experiences are unfamiliar.

    People living with schizophrenia are more likely to express their aggression, agitation or frustration towards themselves, or to family and friends – rarely to strangers.

    When it comes to knowing whether we are mentally healthy, we seem to choose to ignore this part of or physical wellbeing. More time is given to our intellect and recently or emotional state of being over our Mental Health Quotient.

    IQ is short for Intelligence Quotient. IQ tests are tools to measure intellectual abilities and potential. They're designed to reflect a wide range of cognitive skills such as reasoning, logic, and problem-solving. Intelligence is something you are largely born with. IQ tests are not a test of knowledge, which represents what you learn through education or life experience. A score of 116 or more is considered above average. A score of  130 or higher signals a high IQ. Average IQ is 100. An IQ of 70 or below may indicate limited intellectual fuctioning. Remember, the score represents how you compare to your PEER group in: language, reasoning abilities, processing speed, visual-spatial processing, memory, and math. IQ tests cannot predict how your life will turn out. Character, opportunity, ambition, and sometimes luck, affect how your life will turn out. People love to brag about their intelligence.

     EQ is your Emotional Intelligence or Emotional Quotient. EQ is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict. Five components of Emotional intelligence are:

SELF-AWARENESS: the ability to recognize and understand your moods and how they affect others.

SELF-REGULATION: This involves being able to control your impulses and moods and to think before acting.

INTERNAL(intrinsic) MOTIVATION: As the opposite of external motivation, this means being driven to pursue goals for personal reasons, rather than for some kind of reward.

EMPATHY: Essential for building and leading teams. Empathy is the ability to recognize and understand other's motivations and to put yourself in their shoes.

SOCIAL SKILLS: The ability to manage relationships, build networks, and connect with people.

    People with a high EQ have greater mental health, job performance, and leadership skills. The EQ test score average is around 100 with a maximum score of 160, unlike an IQ test score which is limitless. 115 is a great EQ score while a score of 85 or less indicates a need for improvement. To be aware of your EQ score is trendy.

    The MHQ, Mental Health Quotient, provides a fast, easy, and comprehensive way to assess population mental health and well-being; identify at-risk individuals and subgroups; and provide diagnosis-relevant information across 10 disorders and was developed by Sapien Labs. According to the World Health Organization, WHO, mental health is "a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community." Mental Health Quotient scores range from -100-+200. Negative scores reflect clinical or clinically at-risk populations with a score of 100 being centralized.

    Most affective ways to combact the stigma and shame surrounding mental health issues is to:

TALK ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES OPENLY

EDUCATE YOURSELF AND OTHERS ON THE WARNING SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF MENTAL ILLNESSES

PRACTICE KINDNESS AND COMPASSION

TAKE AND SHARE A FREE MENTAL HEALTH SCREENING

PARTICIPATE OR VOLUNTEER IN MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS EVENTS

TAKE A HOLLISTIC APPROACH TO HELP IMPROVE THE MENTAL WELLBEING OF YOUR FAMILY, FRIENDS, AND YOURSELF: Self care or even focusing on physical health through exercise and healthy eating habits.

MENTAL HEALTH TREATMENT

    It is important to note:

• 48 million have an anxiety disorder
• 21 million have major depression
• 9 million have post-traumatic stress disorder
• 7 million have bipolar disorder
• 3.5 million have borderline personality disorder
• 3 million have obsessive compulsive disorder
• 1.5 million have schizophrenia
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• You are someone you know may have a low Mental Health Quotient. Improvement in this score is possible if you are aware of the problem. During this month, take a free mental health screening test, readily and easily assessable online Take a Mental Health Test - MHA Screening (mhanational.org) and according to the results follow up with resources within your community. Please SHARE this bblog post with friends and family.