I have a Conspiracy Theory Too.

You know you begin a polite conversation and the person immediately dives into UFO's, or rigged elections, or the government is controlling the weather. Seems like everyone has latched onto a conspiracy theory they must share with everyone as a warning. Okay. I have one also, but I have had the decency not to share it with people. That was up until 2026. So, give me the roll of the eyes, a sigh at my stupidity, just like I do to other conspiracy theorists.

MY CONSPIRACY AND FLIMSY PROOF begins with: Trump is trying to isolate Ameica!!! I know. I know. Just hear me out so you can post about another idiot with a conspiracy theory. I have thick skin lol. 

Trump has made it no secret he wants to take over Canada, Greenland, and Cuba. He knows he already has Mexico. You've heard him say it at the UN meeting. Donald Trump first publicly floated the idea of buying Greenland in August 2019 during his first presidency, comparing it to a "large real estate deal". He has since revived the idea multiple times in recent years: December 2024: Made a post on social media stating that ownership of Greenland is an "absolute necessity" for national security. January 2026: Ramped up pressure by demanding immediate negotiations to acquire the territory. He later stated in Davos that the U.S. and NATO had established the framework for a future deal, while explicitly ruling out taking the land by force.

Donald Trump first floated the idea of annexing Canada as a U.S. state during a dinner with Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau in late November 2024. He reiterated and confirmed his seriousness about the proposal in early 2025, specifically in an interview that aired during the Super Bowl preshow on February 9, 2025. Trump has continually brought up the concept, often referring to Canada as a future "51st state" or suggesting it could be divided into two separate U.S. states. 

Donald Trump has not stated that he wanted to annex or take over Mexico. He has, however, made several highly publicized and controversial remarks over the years regarding U.S. military intervention in Mexico to combat drug cartels, as well as comments on border security and trade.

President Trump most recently said the U.S. would be taking over Cuba "almost immediately" during a speech in Florida on May 1, 2026.

Keep this in mind. President Donald Trump first outlined his intent to officially rename the Gulf of Mexico during a January press conference in early 2025. He quickly followed up on that plan in his January 20, 2025 Inaugural Address and by signing an executive order on his first day back in office to change the designation to the "Gulf of America".

He does so much disruption daily that this is not on people's minds. What person would say outloud they are going to take your country over? He wants only White, wealthy, educated, and beautiful people in America so he can molest them (sorry for this). Donald Trump first used the term "shithole countries" during an Oval Office immigration meeting with lawmakers on January 11, 2018. He specifically asked why the U.S. should accept immigrants from places like Haiti, El Salvador, and African nations, suggesting the U.S. should instead admit people from countries like Norway. 

What about America? Does he have plans for the state? Yes! He hates Oregon and California. He is encouraging the wealthy to leave. I live in Mississippi and the amount of billions pouring into the state for development is spooky. It's like our state is being formed into the state for wealthy recreation. In the South, were segregation is smiled upon and Black people should have menial jobs, and people leave as soon as they get a chance, is seeing a huge amount of development. The wealthy ARE leaving California and moving to the Bible Belt. WHY?

Donald Trump frequently expresses deep disdain for how California is governed, famously calling the state "a mess" and criticizing its leadership. He views California as an example of left-wing extremism, citing its high taxes, homelessness, and crime, while simultaneously raising large amounts of campaign funds from the state's wealthy donors.

President Donald Trump views Oregon negatively, frequently characterizing Portland as an "anarchist jurisdiction," a "never-ending disaster," and a "burning hellhole". He blames state leaders for far-left violence and has persistently focused on protests and clashes outside the city's Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) facility. Rich people are WELCOMED without question into the U.S. with encouragement.

Each of the above examples alone seem innocent. Together it is showing something else. POTENTIAL ISOLATION OF AMERICA FROM THE OUTSIDE WORLD on all sides. No one can get in or OUT! That's the beginning of my conspiracy. The second part is that all of the money. Trump is amassing money from tariffs, illegal stock market moves, constant grifting by all of his family and his supporters with continued financial increase. Elon Musk is on his way to becoming a TRILLIONAIRE. Money is being amassed. But why? In chrage of DOGE, Elon has everyone's vital information in America. Yes. He does. You can be fired, arrested, whatever. Elon has your info. The department shut down and now he is going higher up.

Money is being amassed so America can be a financially independent country without allies. Once the COUP is over, the wealth WILL be redistributed to the White people in the country to continue to make them superior to other races left in the country. All of the Millionaires will be legal residents. It will be an White's only America. The big holding facilities they are desparately tring to acquire, are for unruly Black people unwilling to serve their masters. He WILL build them once the coup is up and running. He is accumulating WEALTH, so America can continue to thrive once isolated. This part doesn't seem to fit because Trump only cares about Trump. But, I can see this too.

Notice what type of military the Trump administration is forming. No Black leaders to go against illegal racial attack orders. Women, are now viewed as women of the home and more laws will change to ensure it. Reproductive health is attacked. Control of our bodies is being implemented. Our leadership ability questioned. America is turning into a good ole boys club maintained by racist hate groups making them feel important. They are the White trash ALLOWED to stay and serve also. The Black VOTE has been made ineffective. Power stripped. DEI gone and reverse racism institued and cheers for WELFARE benefits being cut. Streets patrolled. Whites are getting caught up in this too and are begging for the president to stop these tactics on them. 

The media takeover is a part of the isolation. People are being warned that ALL news except FOX is lying. Part of the swamp. People are encouraging Trump's attack on the media. Soon, ALL media will be Trump media. Twenty-four hours of people sucking up to him. There will be a lot of that. FOX news give it's viewers their attack orders everyday and the followers hit social media with a vengence flooding the media with lies. Repeat a LIE long enough and people will believe it.

Romans 16:17-18: Paul warns the church to watch out for individuals who cause divisions and use "smooth talk and flattery" to deceive the minds of naive people. That's what the Trump administration does, FOX news does, and the Evangelicals drill it into you head. The naive are easily fooled.

So, there you have it in a nutshell. Trump is performing a coup and will never leave office. The big Blue Wave will be called fraud without proof. He is going to get rid of those he don't want in the country filling it with wealthy people. Then we will be like North Korea and Russia, two leaders he idolizes. Everything will be Trump controled. All media and other means of communication. He is renaming evering because it ALL belongs to him. The one who brought Christianity back like no other before him could do. He is putting his name on airports, bridges and anything that doesn't run. He will be cruel to all other countries, probably to have them all submit to him. “I think your situation is very similar. You have people coming in and I told the prime minister I would stop it, and it doesn’t matter if you call out the military, it doesn’t matter what means you use,” Trump said. He demeans other countries.

No matter what Trump is doing daily, and yes, there are times he plays DUMB on purpose. But, his end game is always in sight. What makes a conspiracy theory not a conspiracy theory? When what you believe in HAPPENS. I'm not on pins and needles for my theory to be true. Quite the opposite. I hope my belief is proven WRONG. But, from my window, everything is going to plan. He throws some God-awful crazy thing out for the day. But, he is continually marching towards 2025 success, to rid America of the undesireables. That means white people too he is encouraging not vaccinate nor seek higher education. One kills the body, the other the mind. Remember he likes UNEDUCATED voters. To keep people dumb he named education as being somehting hated. You will be WOKE. Of course you will. That's what education does. Education expands your knowledge which they are calling indoctrination and only want God, STEM, and AI to be taught. They want that for you but, they send their kids to the BEST COLLEGES and BEST DOCTORS. Trump is not even following Kennedy's opinions on health.

America is easy for the taking. This is a fun project for the Trump administration. Every now and again they throw in a make pretend dissention amoung the Republicans. Nope. Lies. 

If you have a unheard of conspiracy theory, feel free to share it. Please don't dust off the oldies but gooodies. Remember...

“It destroys countries from within and we’re actually now removing a lot of the people that came into our country.”

More of Beth Moore

Who, you might ask is Beth Moore? If you haven't heard of Beth Moore than you are out of the Christian loop and many of you are fine with that. What is important about Beth Moore is she is sounding the alarm about the treatment of women in church. This is a subject near and dear to my heart and a subject I knew would trip up Kamala Harris in the election. I wrote about this issue before the 2024 election because the writing was on the wall, DOROTHY GUYTON, author (BA, MA) INTERVIEWER: Will Men Vote for a Woman President? So, let me introduce you to my girl, Beth Moore.

Wanda Elizabeth Moore is an American Anglican evangelist, author, and Bible teacher. She is president of Living Proof Ministries, a Christian organization she founded in 1994 to teach women. Living Proof Ministries is based in Houston, Texas. Moore, who is "arguably the most prominent white evangelical woman in America", speaks at arena events and has sold millions of books. Moore continues to write books and produces video resources based on the Bible studies that she conducts at the Living Proof Live conferences, although today they are published through Living Proof Ministries rather than Lifeway Christian Resources. She has taught at conferences for women in Ireland, England, Singapore, the Philippines, Puerto Rico, and India.

Okay, now you know who she is, now learn what she said.

Beth Moore Accuses SBC of Prioritizing ‘Protecting the Pulpit From Women’ Over Protecting Women From Abuse. In 2021, Bible teacher, best-selling author, and Living Proof Ministries founder Beth Moore left the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC), but that hasn’t stopped her from weighing in on the denomination she served for 40 years. “I can no longer identify with Southern Baptists,” she told Religion News Services five years ago. “I love so many Southern Baptist people, so many Southern Baptist churches, but I don’t identify with some of the things in our heritage that haven’t remained in the past.” One week before the SBC’s annual meeting is scheduled to start, Moore is using social media to call out SBC leadership for being more interested in protecting the pulpit from women preaching than protecting women from “an abusive pulpit.”

This is a BIG deal. A prominent Christian woman is standing up and saying how the church has treated women is appuling and NOT biblical. This belief both she and I share. The book I wrote most inportant to me is my book: "WHEN WILL EVE BE FORGIVEN?" where I look at the passages men use to back up their belief women should have no prominent role within the church. I love this book because it points you to the nature of God towards women. I call it a LEGACY BOOK because women of all generations need this book to dispell church abuse. At the same time it gives women Scriptural knowledge and confidence to continue to serve God and not man. Every woman should read this book, DOROTHY GUYTON, author (BA, MA) INTERVIEWER: Why The Modern-Day Woman Is Ill and/or Angry

Many men seem to believe every woman should be submissive to every man, which is not biblical. Women are told to submit to THEIR husband, not every man in a room. What kind of submission a husband gets depends on how he follows God as head of his household. That head of house position comes with the responsibility of being accountable for how he TREATS, protects, and cares for his household. A bad household is the husband's lack of ability to lead, not the woman's fault. He carries the burden. God will be the judge of the married situation. But men continue to blame women for all the ills of the world, DOROTHY GUYTON, author (BA, MA) INTERVIEWER: Submissive Wife.

I'm delighted that Beth has taken a public stand against abuse of women in the churcch. It took courage for her to speak out. Hopefully Christian women won't leave her twisting in the wind. Women should let their voices be heard and also know the history of women in the church which my book provides. I encourage you if you are feeling timid and alone in this same view of the church to buy my book for spiritual support. In these dark days Trump is calling a Golden Age, women must assert we are here and want to be treated with respect. Buy "When Will Eve be Forgiven?" on Amazon for a small price

Republicans are presenting themselves as the Christian party while they demean women reporters and politicians. It's nasty! Sometimes we women have to get nasty too about our rights to be treated with respect not yelled at by a president for asking a question. MEN helped elect Trump on the premise of putting women back in their place. Don't go gently into the night. Stand with pride and glory and refuse their choosen passages of the Bible to demean and not lift up. That's because they don't want to lift you up. Let Christian women join Beth Moore and ME and have more of Beth Moore and supporters.

Holidays Cancelled Due To Trump PTSD

Standing at the checkout line behind a grandmother and her young grandson, I heard him ask his grandman, "Are you finished with your Christmas shopping?" The grandmother turned to him and said, "We're not doing Christmas this year," then quickly looked at the others in line behind her. I diverted my eyes because there was no reason for her to have my approval or disapproval. I know EXACTLY why she and the boy's mother had made the decision. If you think about it, you know WHY too.

The feelings I experienced hearing a little kid being told there will be no Christmas, darkened my spirit. a Kids being A kid, he held out hope and showed his grandma a little toy he really wanted. She nodded politely and changed the subject. A glimpse of pain registered on her face momentarily. She took a breath, gathered herself, checked out and exited.

For those effected by the SNAP shutdown and just the HIGH cost of groceries, difficult decisions are being made about the holidays. For people who have FOOD SECURITY and support Donald Trump, the shutdown was just another opportunity for cruelness. SNAP receipients were publicly MOCKED and SHAMED. They were called fat, lazy, stealers, a drain on the nation, and any other things they could think of to denegrate a person for needing help to feed themselves and their family. It was a public, brutal, ABUSIVE ASSAULT.

While mocking people needing assistance with food, our president partied, golfed and threw money around to foreign governments as people were not sure about their next meal. America is a wealthy country with citizens paying taxes that are to help the country and its citizens. Overwhelmingly many people are saying poor lives don't matter. Poor people have become reviled and seen as the OTHER.

When trauma, and not knowing if you will be able to eat IS a trauma, there can be long reaching consequenses such as PTSD. You remember feelings, smells, words, actions of a traumatic experience whether you want to or not called FLASHBACKS. Hunger is traumatic by itself without being denegrated for being hungry.

PTSD, or post-traumatic stress disorder, is a mental health condition that can develop after a person experiences or witnesses a traumatic event, such as a car accident, natural disaster, or assault. Symptoms include re-experiencing the trauma through flashbacks or nightmares, avoiding reminders of the event, and feeling on guard or easily startled. Treatment options like psychotherapy and medication are available and can help manage the symptoms, which include negative changes in mood, difficulty sleeping, and trouble concentrating.

Can you imagine, if people who WERE affected by the SNAP stoppage did have enough money for Thanksgiving and Christmas meals, sitting around the table having flashbacks of not being able to buy food. How is their self-esteem after living through food insecurity? Do they think about what if this happens again and they're unable to buy regular groceries AGAIN? HAVE THEIR MENTAL HEALTH BEEN AFFECTED?

People in favor of the cuts were like, "just get a job" when many recipients of SNAP benefits are WORKING Americans, elderly, children and the disabled. Minimum wage is a struggle income and jobs for college educated people barely pay more. Ask recent college graduates and they will tell you they can't EVEN find a job with a degree. Many American homes are filled with parents, adult children and elderly parents. Many grandparents are raising grandchilren on their own. 

The HAPPY season of holidays is suppose to be joyful. But Donald Trump has turned the season into flashbacks of trauma. Republican Christians fight so hard for people to say MERRY CHRISTMAS because of Jesus while showing no reverence to Jesus and how he cared more about the POOR than the WEALTHY. One of the three times Jesus became angry was when the poor was being taken advantage of.

Jesus expressed anger at least three times in the Bible: he was angry when merchants commercialized the temple, "My house will be called a house of prayer, but you have made it a den of robbers" (Matthew 21:12-16). He was angry that the temple had become a place of commerce rather than worship. When people lacked compassion for a man with a withered hand, and when the Pharisees stubbonly refused to believe his teachings. His anger was described as righteous indignation at the hardness of heart or the desecration of his Father's house, not as a sinful human anger.

PTSD is not just happening to those whose SNAP benefits were cut. Americans wake every morning in FEAR of what cruel abusive thing Trump will do next. The news has become a source of trauma. No matter how hard you try, you can't escape Trump's antics. In some way or form he has hurt an American citizen. Even though airports are back at full operation, people are not going to fly. Trump's indiscrimnate FIRING of COMPETENT government employees and whoever else he wants to fire, has caused people not to trust flying anymore. Those who do fly are filled with anxiety questioning their decision.

The damage Trump's administration is inflicting will be felt for years. Even if people aren't experiencing TRUMP PTSD now, it can show up years later. Trump is an ABUSIVE president and have supporters who enjoy the pain he inflicts. This may be the most traumatizing of all. The realization of how many OTHER cruel people exist in America is SHOCKING to the system! This will be the hardest phychological healing for many. 

PTSD can be helped with therapy and medication, but many do not know they are suffering from it. Having a family member at holiday meals who RAVES about how wonderful Trump is can send someone into a rage. Pushing those feelings down, trying to get along, adds to the anxiety and stress caused by Trump.

Trump is a grifter and a ROBBER. He robs people of their dignity, humanity. This is not TRUMP DERANGEMENT SYNDROME. This is something else, TRUMP PTSD. He is robbing people of their joy and SECURITY in so many areas and ways as he enjoys his life without threat or fear. We are experiencing trauma from his actions and behaviors daily. If you do a self-check, you probably are experiencing anxiety. Every day people are wondering, "How was he even elected?" Then we have to face the fact we live among the cruelest of people who continue to support him. Feelongs of helplessness and hopelessness abound. Our children are experiencing the same emotions as the adults. This is their world too. And for parents and grandparents, their hearts break for the little ones.

No, there is no need for explainations why the holidays have been canceled. People are preparing for the worst they know is YET to come. But how do you prepare for blatent abuse of power? You can't and that is TRAUMATIC.

When Will We Learn Childhood Is Key?

Research is in and what happens to children as they grow and develop has a major influence on the adult they will become. Safety, security, and guidance matters to the developing human. We must put an end to exposing our children to "come what may" without ensuring an opportunity for healing. 

We have dealt with killings in various forms in our society throughout time. We were once fascinated by serial killers and are now shocked by mass shooters. But, where did these killers in our society originate?

Many serial killers are survivors of early CHILDHOOD trauma of some kind – physical or sexual abuse, FAMILY dysfunction, and emotionally distant or absent PARENTS. TRAUMA is the single recurring theme in the biographies of most KILLERS. The number one trait of a killer or psychopath is a lack of empathy. Other traits are a tendency to lie, a need for thrills. Psychopaths become bored very quickly – and have a tendency towards narcissism. But the lack of empathy is the biggest thing for killers.

One common explanation is that psychopaths experience some kind of trauma in early CHILDHOOD – perhaps as early as their infant state – and as a consequence suppress their emotional response. They never learn the appropriate responses to trauma, and never develop other emotions, which is why they find it difficult to empathize with others. Science Daily “Psychology may help explain why male and female serial killers differ” March 20, 2019,

Now we are facing an onslaught of mass shooters and research regarding the reasons for these mass shooting is still being evaluated and researched but data is being compiled. Two professors, Jillian Peterson, an associate professor of criminology at Hamline University, and James Densley, a professor of criminal justice at Metro State University, discovered there’s a consistent pathway leading to mass shooters. Early CHILDHOOD trauma seems to be the foundation, whether violence in the home, sexual assault, parental suicides, or extreme bullying. Then you see the build toward hopelessness, despair, isolation, self-loathing, and oftentimes rejection from peers that turns into an identifiable crisis point where they’re acting differently. Sometimes mass shooters have previous suicide attempts. Their self-hate can turn into hate of a grouping of people resulting in mass shooting.

Suicidality was found to be a strong predictor of perpetration of mass shootings. Of all mass shooters in the The Violence Project database, 30% were suicidal prior to the shooting. An additional 39% were suicidal during the shooting. Those numbers were significantly higher for YOUNGER shooters, with K-12 students who engaged in mass shootings found to be suicidal in 92% of instances and college/university students who engaged in mass shooting suicidal 100% of the time.

In terms of past trauma, 31% of persons who perpetrated mass shootings were found to have experiences of severe CHILDHOOD trauma, and over 80% were in crisis.

Trauma was a common element of the backgrounds of those committing mass shooting, both in the database and the qualitative studies. Nearly half of individuals who engaged in mass shootings (48%) leaked their plans in advance to others, including family members, friends, and colleagues, as well as strangers and law enforcement officers. Legacy tokens, such as manifestos, were left behind by 23.4% of those who committed mass shootings. About 70% of individuals who perpetrated mass shooting knew at least some of their victims.

A new Department of Justice-funded study of all mass shootings — killings of four or more people in a public place — since 1966 found that the shooters typically have an experience with CHILDHOOD trauma, a personal crisis or specific grievance, and a “script” or examples that validate their feelings or provide a roadmap. And then there’s the fourth thing: access to a firearm.

Another pattern of mass shooters is becoming evident and in time I am sure will also be linked to CHILDHOOD trauma. Based on case documents, media reports, and interviews with mental health and law enforcement experts, found that in at least 22 mass shootings since 2011—more than a third of the public attacks over the past eight years—the perpetrators had a history of domestic violence, which specifically targeted WOMEN, or had stalked and harassed women. These cases included the large-scale massacres at an Orlando nightclub in 2016 and a church in Sutherland Springs, Texas, in 2017. In total, they account for 175 victims killed and 158 others injured. Two of the shooters bore the hallmarks of so-called “incels”—a subculture of virulent misogynists who self-identify as “involuntarily celibate” and voiced their rage and revenge fantasies against women online. A man who recently planned to carry out a mass shooting in Utah and another who opened fire outside a courthouse in Dallas also appeared to be influenced by incel ideas.

Among the 22 cases analyzed, 86% has a history of domestic violence, 32% had a history of stalking and harassment, and 50% specifically targeted women. The trail of violent misogyny and abusive behavior in many shooters’ cases dovetails with a key finding from research published by the FBI in 2018: Not only do most shooters give off multiple behavioral warning signs that are observable to people around them, a majority do so starting months and even years before their attacks. The shooters in Tallahassee, Chicago, Orlando, Sutherland Springs, and elsewhere BRUTALIZED women long before their gun rampages. Mother Jones, “Armed and Misogynist: How Toxic Masculinity Fuels Mass Shootings”, Mark Follman.

A Harvard University study showed convicted physically abusive men were found to, when compared to the average American man, commit more crimes as well as:

• Have lower levels of education and IQ; be less clear-thinking
• Be more neurotic, anxious, nervous and defensive
• Be less agreeable, optimistic, content and more irritable
• Be less extraverted, conscientious and open
• Be less self-confident
• Be more excitable, moody, hasty and self-centered
• Be more authoritarian

Men who commit domestic violence may be found among a larger pool of men with poor problem-solving skills, but in addition they appear to have borderline-antisocial personality traits, certain types of hostility, and histories of abuse as CHILDREN that may predispose them to become violent with their female companions. Here are some of the reasons a person is abusive:

1. They have a disorder: A small number of the population is anti-social personality disorder (sociopath or psychopath) and sadistic. These disorders gain pleasure from seeing others in pain and even more pleasure when they are the ones inflicting the agony. For them, abuse is a means to an end. They abuse others to gain personal pleasure.
2. They were abused: Some abusers act out their dysfunctional behavior on others because it was done to them. In a subconscious effort to resolve their own abuse, they do the same to another person. This type of abusive behavior is identical, meaning it matches almost exactly to their childhood experience.
3. They were abused, part two: Just like in the previous explanation, they abuse because it was done to them. However, in this case the victim is the opposite. For instance, a boy who is sexually abused by a man might grow up to sexually abuse girls as evidence that they are not homosexual. The reverse can be true as well.
4. They watched something: With the advances in technology comes additional exposure at a young age to glorified abuse. Some movies, songs, TV shows, and videos minimize abuse by making fun of it or making it seem normal. A typical example is verbally attacking on another person by name calling or belittling.
5. They have anger issues: Uncontrolled and unmanaged rage frequently produces abusive behavior. The source of this anger varies but it is usually tied to a traumatic event. Unresolved trauma sparks anger when triggered by a person, circumstance, or place. Because this anger comes out of nowhere, it that much harder to control and manifests abusively.
6. They grew up with an addict: An addict blames others for the reason they engage in their destructive behavior. While the victims are often forced to remain silent and acceptant of their behavior. The end result is a lot of pent-up anger and abusive behavior. As an adult, the victim subconsciously seeks out others to blame for their actions.
7. They have control issues: Some people like to be in charge. In an effort to gain or remain in control of others, they utilize inefficient means of dominance such as bullying or intimidation. While forced control can be quickly executed, it does not have lasting qualities. True leadership is void of abusive techniques.
8. They don’t understand boundaries: Abusive people tend to lack the understanding of where they end and another person begins. They see their spouse/child/friend as an extension of themselves and therefore that person is not entitled to have any boundaries. The lack of distance means a person is subject to whatever the abuser decides.
9. They are afraid: People who do and say things out of fear tend to use their emotions as justification for why another person needs to do what is demanded. It is as if the fear is so important or powerful that nothing else matters except what is needed to subdue it.

10.         10. They lack empathy: It is far easier to abuse others when there is no empathy for how the victim            might feel. Some types of head trauma, personality disorders, and environmental traumas can               cause a person to lack the ability to express empathy.

11. They have a personality disorder: Just because a person has a personality disorder does not mean that they will be abusive. However, the lack of an accurate perception of reality greatly contributes to abusive behavior. If a person is unable to see their behavior as abusive, then they will keep doing it.
12. They are exhausted: When a person reaches the end of rope, it is not uncommon for them to lash out at whoever is conveniently close. Think of it as a mental breakdown where all the things stuffed inside come pouring out usually in a destructive rather than constructive manner.
13. They are defensive: Defense mechanisms such as denial, projection, regression, and suppression are utilized when a person is backed into a corner. Instead of taking space, they come out swinging and retaliate in an abusive manner.

An abusive person may have some or all of these qualities depending on the circumstances. Remember, this is not about justifying their behavior; rather it is about helping victims to understand why a person might be abusive. We must begin to take note of the way and enviroment in which our future adults are being raised. CHILDHOOD MATTERS.

Forced To Be Pregnant (Hadley Duvall)

The most shocking sentence of the night at the DNC was by Hadley Duvall, from Kentucky, "[Donald Trump] calls [total abortion bans] a 'beautiful thing,'" Duvall said. "What is so beautiful about a child having to carry her parent's child?"

What she was talking about was having an opportunity to have a medical abortion for an unwanted pregnancy from rape by a parent. Countless times when I speak up for women being able to have the OPTION of having or not having a child, Christians will say a person cannot be a CHRISTIAN if they support MURDER. To be clear, I do see aborting a fetus as murder. But I also see forcing someone to have a child as potential murder of the mother's spirit, life, as well as the child's spirit and life. There is no telling what kind a life an unwanted child may face. They may even become that person you fear most, a CRIMINAL.

Aborting a child, leaves questions of what that life could have been. But we don't have questions about what WILL be when a woman is raped. And if we listen, we can hear what it will be like for a woman forced to carry and deliver a child produced from rape or incest.

Christians only envision a BUNDLE OF JOY. A glowing PREGNANT woman, refusing to see the violence, ugliness the VESSSEL carrying the baby endured and will perpetually endure. I used the word vessel, because people who INSIST a woman carry a pregnancy reduces the woman to no more than a body acting as a machine to produce a product. To them, statistics about rape doesn't matter. Okay, it doesn't matter. But they are TRUE. And for women who have had this brutality in their life, they should be FREE from people who have no idea of the TRAUMA they have experienced, making decisions in their lives. To me, that is unchristian, Forcing Christian standards on people. It is not the job of Christians. The Bible does not advocate for FORCING Christianity on anyone. 

Have your beliefs. Share your beliefs. But give the living a chance to live their lives as they choose. Forcing a woman to have an unwanted pregnancy is cruel and will cause damage beyond what you will stick around to witness.

Did you know Sexual Assault Awareness Month is in April, each year? I had no idea either. Years ago, I wrote a poem about rape called Every Three Minutes. I entered the poem in a contest and came in third place and I was so delighted because I am not a poet. I did not research the actual statistic on how often a woman is raped. I just have a thing for the number three and decided to use it. I believe using such an impossible high number of women being raped every three seconds would make my poem more impactful to the reader. LITTLE DID I KNOW AT THAT TIME.

Rape is one of those uncomfortable topics people don't want to speak about like racism or mental illness. The difference is rape is a violent criminal act that remains unreported by many victims. It is the one crime where the victim feels shame or guilt that a crime happened to them. Another factor that causing the rape victim to feel even worse they have been sexually assaulted is the fact 80% of sexual assaults are committed by acquaintances. Yes. Friend, uncle, boyfriend, co-worker, and even spouse commit sexual assaults on people they know. Seventy percent of rapes are by someone the victim knows.

Rape is such an unexplainable type of violation. It is an unwanted person physically using a person's body without permission. The rapist is inside of the person's body. How can someone describe their body being stolen from their control? The victim's body is no longer under their own control. 

I have a confession. At one time when I would hear a woman say she was raped or molested as a child, young woman, or adult I would shake my head at the horror inflicted on her. As the years rolled on it seemed almost every woman had an experience of rape or sexual assault until it become normal for me to hear and the story of rape or molestation no longer shocked to me. The horror of the crime didn't lesson my sympathy for the woman, but it just became common to hear and expected as part of the female experience. Did you hear what I just said? 

As of 1998 17.7 million American women had been victims of attempted or completed rape. That is a high number right? Approximately 1.5 million intimate partner female rapes and physical assaults happen each year according to data gathered in a February 10, 2022 report by the Department of Justice www.ncbi.nih.gov/books/NBK499891.

The FBI's Uniform Crime Report as of January 1, 2013, redefined rape as "Penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object or oral penetrating  by a sex organ of another person, without consent of the victim.

Every 68 seconds an American woman is sexually assaulted. In the United States one rape occurs every 1-2 minutes (I guessed correctly for my poem sad to say). One out of every six American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime with 14% of the rapes completed and 2,8% of rapes attempted.

Eighty percent of sexual assaults are committed by an acquaintance and 80% of women experience a first-time sexual assault before the age of 25. Women between the ages of 16-19 are 4 times likely to be raped and women and men with disabilities are 2 times at risk of a sexual assault than people without a disability.  One in every 33 American men has experienced an attempted or completed sexual assault as a child. Twenty-eight percent first time sexual assault occurred at age 10 or younger.

It is important for me to include the fact children experience sexual assaults and never report it to family or authorities. Data reports 95% of child victims knew their sexual attacker. These sexual attackers are family members and friends of family members. Acting Commissioner of Police Edvin Martin said a surge in incest for 2020 compared to 2018-2019. There was a significant increase of incest during the height of Covid-19 lockdown period. 

People tend to have a blind eye when it comes to incest and that is how and why it continues to not be reported and allows 90% of these sexual assaults against children to occur in the home. Authorities estimate incest occurs in over 10% of American families, yet only 20% of the offenses are reported. The crime often goes unreported because it is initiated by someone the child, usually a girl, loves and trusts. Sibling incest is possibly the most common form of incest while 60% of the rapes occur in the home with 37% by a parent, 23% by a stepparent.

States with the highest incidence of incest are: Kentucky (the highest rate), Maine, Delaware, Virginia, Maryland, Washington, Georgia, Oregon, Indiana, New Mexico, Oklahoma, Louisiana, Tennessee, South Carolina, North Carolina, West Virginia, Montana, Alabama, and South Dakota. Since incest is rarely reported, there is not reliable statistics as to how many incest victims there are.

The Criminal Justice System: Statistics Rapes, Abuse, & Incest National Network gives reasons why sexual abuse is not reported:

20% of victims feared retaliation

13% believed police would not do anything

13% believed it was a personal matter

8% reported the rape to a non-law-enforcement official

8% believed it was not important enough to report

7% did not want the perpetrator to get into trouble

2% believed the police could not help

30% had other multiple reasons

It is important not to sweep sexual assaults under the rug because there are long lasting consequences to the assault. In 2012, Missouri's Republican Senate candidate, Todd Akin, said victims of a "legitimate rape" rarely get pregnant because their bodies can prevent them from doing so which sparked outrage throughout the country. Such statements as the one made by Todd Akins continues to downplay the crime of sexual assault against women which has long lasting consequences. 

Women who experience sexual assaults may have depression and substance abuse problems. It is estimated 90% of rape victims experience PTSD symptoms during the 2 weeks following the rape. And 30% report PTSD lasting up to 9 months and 33% contemplate suicide and 13% commit suicide. 

The most important thing a woman, person, should know is sexual assaults is not the victim's fault and there are no sure tried and true ways to prevent sexual assaults. There are ways to reduce the chances of rape in the link I have provided. One of the major tools in the effort to eliminate sexual assaults and abuse is to report the crime to adults and authorities. Reduce the Risk of Becoming a Sexual Assault Victim | Police & Public Safety | UNC Charlotte Only 5% of sexual assault reports filed are proven false. 

Men who commit rape can not be defind or identified by any fact based means. The prototypical convicted rapist is frequently under 25, shorter than average height, poor, and a resident of the inner city. many rapist live in college towns and rape during the evening hours. There have been 3 common characteristics of rapist noticed, lack of empathy, narcissism, and hostility towards women, but may not be true of all rapists. 

There are 3 catagories of rapists:

The Opportunist Rapist: this rapist seizes any chance for sexual gratification, such as loss of self control on the part of their victim under the influence of alcohol

The Sadistic Rapist: motivations are to humiliate or degrade the victim

The Vindictive Rapist: has anger and aggression focused directly towards women. Such a rapist believes he is permitted to sexually attack women because he feels he has been hurt, rejected, or wronged by women in the past

EVERY THREE MINUTES

By Dorothy Guyton

  

Every three minutes-slowly- count; One Two Three

A life is changed it is now filled with shame

Flesh ripped, bruises left, never to be the same.

 

Every three minutes-remember-count; One Two Three

A mother, daughter, sister, niece, shouts a silent scream

Mind clicks off, just survive, pretend it’s just a dream.

 

Every three minutes-you’re use to it-count; One Two Three

Knees drawn as she sits on the floor in the cold drumming shower

Trying to erase the assault on her that lasted forever but was actually under an hour.

 

Every three minutes-count them; One Two Three

Blank stares reflect- the now ghost looking back at her from a steamy misty mirror

Wishful hoping thinking, please, no one guess, please, no one dare see her.

 

Every three minutes a club is joined; One Two Three

Membership requires a forced relinquishment of pride of self -esteem

Flashbacks to the time of terror is one of the private club's dues and ongoing theme.

 

Ever three minutes a chain is formed; One Two Three

Each disfigured link is intertwined in her wounded broken spirit

Her soul's sad song whispers ‘No fair. Why me’ in each searching intrusive lyric.

 

Every three minutes-forgot to count; One Two Three

A crime of power rages, not about sex, but about toxic powerless masculinity

Another man's sickness of pinned up anger unleashed on unsuspecting femininity.

 

Every three minutes-you tire of it yet? One Two Three

Another woman silently accepts her fate thinking shit happens what’s the use

Violence excused 

given another name, another disorder, another acceptable label for abuse.

 

Every three minutes-slowly-count them; One Two Three

The word RAPE is hushed too ugly say; its just sex they say without foreplay

He's your friend, or your husband, or a stranger you led on in some way.