Men Want Women - Badly

     

    I would probably not be too far off the mark if I guessed men would consider it a declaration of WAR if a woman wrote a book about MANHOOD.

    In online communities, there is a large amount of chatter among men saying women are destroying manhood. Men are voicing their distress and proclaiming the tides have turned and women have more rights than men in the jucicial system and work arena. Many men see women as feminizing America. When saying America is becoming feminized, they mean women are insisting men be more compassionate, be more in touch with their feelings, and stop demonstrating toxic masculinity. There are critics of these men and their ideas of manhood being under attack by women, who outright dismiss their feelings of being emasculated by women and society at large. I say, NOT SO FAST.

    Just because a person does not agree completely with another person does not mean there isn't some modicum of truth being said. If there is a large group of people saying the same thing, 'men are facing a manhood crisis', then maybe we should take time to see if there is any validity to the outcry. I will circle back to women writing about manhood in a minute. Bare with me for a moment as I give some context to why men may be feeling marginalized in society.

    According to a 2017 Pew Research Center survey, 53% of American people say they look up to men who are manly or masculine. So,we do understand the feeling of being manly and masculine is important to men and by others. But suprisingly, only 31% of men view themselves as masculine, 54% view themselves as somewhat masculine, and 15% of men view themselves as not masculine. These are some eye-opening statistics about men by men. Men feeling less than masculine is present in men before women are even brought into the equation.

    The well-known men's magazine GQ conducted a 2019 survey of 1,005 American men about masculinity. The survey found 59% of the men considered themselves completely masculine, 40% considered themselves masculine with at least some feminine traits, and 44% of the men have gotten into a physical fight in their lifetime. If these results, let alone the possible questions asked, have you scratching your head, you're not alone. The questions asked, it seems, would definitely cause some problems for the respondent on a core level if gotten wrong. The structure of the questions asked, put men on the defensive to protect himself from being labeled as womanly. This is evident by the answer, "Have you been in a fight?" Agressiveness has long been one of the traits which makes a man manly. This is why there is a rise in toxic masculinity. Men are pressured to be agressive.This brings me to my next point and statistics.

    One third of American men (36%) feel under pressure to behave in a masculine way. Over half (58%) feel society expects them to be "emotionally strong and to show no weakness." More than half (53%) of American men aged 18-34 feel pressure to be manly compared to only 15% of men over the age of 55. Sixty percent of American men agree society puts pressure on men in a way that is unhealthy or bad. The two areas in which men are pressured to show their masculinity and manliness is in the area of their weight (physical fitness) and finances. This brings us to the biggest area of complaint men are having - relationships with the opposite sex - or the lack thereof. Men are deeply upset with what they desire the most, women. On the online communities offering support and understanding to men facing disappointment, frustration, and anger at being rejected by women based on their appearance and income, misogynistic dating advice is offered to get them in  the 'game'. Setting the dating advice aside, men are struggling in being in a relationship with women they desire.

    Nearly half of U.S. adults (47%) say dating is harder today for most people compared with 10 years ago, while a third say it is about the same, and 19% say it’s easier today. Sevent-five percent of men ages 50 and older say it is harder for men to know how to behave on dates compared with 63% of men younger than 50. Another reason dating has become harder is that people are not looking for the same type of relationship according to 53% of respondents. Surprisingly, this same study found 61% of men say they are currently looking for a relationship or dates compared to 38% of single women. Ouch! That's surprising because women declare men are not interested in relationships; only sex. Sevent-five percent of daters say it has been very/somewhat difficult in the last year to find people to date and only 5% said it has been easy. There is a lot of rejection going on in the dating world. Men are going through it on many levels. No wonder there is an outcry. There is pain.

    Now back to why a woman can write about manhood. 

    Manhood is not a mystical mythological entity. Manhood has been demonstrated througout the ages. There are three pillars of manhood, through my research, that allows for the best demonstration of manhood, which are providor, protector, procreator. Men have alsways been able to occupy these roles with little effort or competition. The one thing that made the pillars of this defined manhood so strong was because it was demonstrated through physical stregnth. 

The strong man could provide, protect, and every woman would want to procreate with him. But we live in a time where physical stregnth is no longer needed for safety, survival, and no longer sought after sexually. Advancements in technology on a monumental scale, made the playing field level and the skinniest, frailest, person can still provide, protect, and procreate at the push of a button. Manhood is in competition with advancements in technology. Now a woman, without physical stregnth, can provide, protect, and decide on a wider scale whom she wants to procreate with if at all. Technology is a mind game (woman's stregnth) and no longer a physical game (man's stregnth).

For centuries, men could offer their brute stregnth as an asset and it was enough for every need possible. His body was made to be a fighter, hunter, leader, and producer of children in large numbers. None of those manly demonstrations of manhood are needed in the technological society we live in today. The advice given to men in the MANOSPHERE telling men to beef up their muscles and to be stoic in relationships will be the key to having long-term relationships. 

    During two points in history, masculinity was not demonstrated through physical attributes of the man. During the Roman Empire, men lounged and dined, took group baths with other men, and sought entertainment through art, music, and watching sports. Working was a no-no for men of status and power. In Europe and later America, the wealthy did not work and looked down on men who relied on their muscles for living. Men hunted small game, danced, read, and concerned themselves in dressing in fine clothes. Once again, muscles used for living was looked down upon. Men are in a time now, where manhood, demonstrated by physicality, is not what is desired.

    The focus of men on DATING or how to have their choice in women, will not accomplish what they want - SUCCESS in ALL areas of their lives. In my opinion, men should focus on determining what type of man or manhood does the 21st Century need to fit all of the advancements society has had. Men have to figure out how they, alone or in a relationship, thrive in their 'push a button' reality. An important question men should also ask is, "Who is raising men to be men?"

    

    The United States has the highest total of single mother households in the world. As of 2023, 15.9 million U.S. households are single mother households and 3.5 million are single father households. Twenty-four million, 1/3 of U.S. children under the age of 18 live in single parent households according to another U.S. poll. These are single mother household with young boys being raised to be men. It has been proven, the same sex parent has the biggest influence on the same sex child. Fathers have the most influence on sons and mothers on daughters. Women must fill the gap of the boys same sex biggest influencer not being present. No finger pointing for blame, just recognition there is a large number of single mothers raising sons, future MEN.

    We must have women, who are mothers, who will be influencing the health (physical/mental/spritual/sexual/financial/relational/emotional) of future men engaged in the discussion of what healthy manhood and masculinity looks like and how it is demonstrated in private and public life. Someone has to step in to address the concerns and belief that MANHOOD (in its current definition) is no longer needed nor has no place in society. This does not require a new, conjured-up, spliced together definition of manhood for the 21st century. For some reason, men stopped teaching and instilling in young boys what is needed for a man to live in the society they are living in. Now, men want to teach a MANHOOD that worked in a past society, which is destined to fail. Manhood always adjusts to what is happening in society and EDUCATION is what is happening in today's WORLD (I will blog about education in a later post). The definition of manhood, must be demonstrated in optimum ways which benefit him and all of those in his orbit.

    Will men be on board with women discussing, writing, debating manhood? NO. But it remains necessary. It can be a gateway in offering a viable solution to many of the problems men are voicing in the Manosphere. The one true thing about manhood is IT IS BEST DEMONSTRATED IN RELATIONSHIPS. Yes, while doing research on manhood I discovered this and it will be my theme whenever I talk about manhood. To demonstrate providor, protector, procreator - you must have someone to provide for, protect, and procreate with. Will men buy my book on manhood? Probably not, but men don't usually buy any books written by a woman author (only 19%). So hopefully, more women will research what manhood means and what it does not mean and do not get pulled into unnessary arguments about manhood. I hope both men and women understand a person is male because of biology but manhood is taught and learned. 

 ***Material used in this blog post from my manuscript on Manhood.*** More material to come in future.

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Should Women Write About Manhood?

RED PILL: Answers For Red Pill Men

Maybe you are not familiar with the Red Pill community. It is a community on Reddit for men who are dissatisfied with the dating environment. They say women are confusing and frustrating and they are trying to understand them in order to have a relationship with them. They share stories about approaching women they are attracted to and what unfolds. They share dating experiences and how they view single women. From these experiences the men have become angry, bitter, hopeless, and left with self-esteem issues.

This group believes women have an advantage over them in society and are favored over men. Through the use of sex (giving or withholding it) they have influenced the direction of the world for the worse. Court systems favor them in parental issues, divorce awarding them half or more of the man's income and believe women when they make false allegations such as rape against men. Women are responsible for the mess and chaos in the world and then they do not allow men to complain.

According to Briffaut's Law, which the Red Pill man is told is a truth, "The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place." In essence, she has to have a benefit to be with a man and she uses them and then discard them when they are of no use to them.

Most of the Red Pill social media activity is private making it a safe place for them to vent, encourage, and give advice to each other. Many spin off groups have come from the original Red Pill community which are anti-government, racist, and dangerous in their thought process and actions.

The Red Pillers are demonized and mocked on social media by both women and men. They are also feared by many women because they are known to harass women and their family who speak out about them in any way. I myself was threatened when I began promoting my soon to be released book Manhood Interrupted An Answer For The Red Pill Man to be released in April 2022.

It was a scary moment because of their reputation but with much prayer, I decided to continue on in my work. I am not speaking against the Red Pill community as you will see in my videos but trying to address the issues causing men frustration and anger through a look at stressors throughout history men have encountered and overcame. I am trying to give them hope that this time period which seems so difficult to them is nothing new. It has happened to men before and they adjusted and overcame those situations. Another focus of my book is how the advancement of technology changed the sex roles more so than women rejecting men and what they contribute to relationships and family dynamics.

The Red Pill community is focused more on dating. They are forming strategies and lifestyle changes to get and keep women. In many instances extreme masculinity and the Alpha male archetype is suggested for men to become more attractive to the opposite sex. Being emotionally unavailable to girlfriends and wives is encouraged. In my book I look at what being a man means, living in manhood, and how it will affect romantic relationships as well as other personal relationships.

A lot of time and research went into my book to be a resource for men, women, mothers and fathers during this time when men are trying to find their footing in a society, they believe has emasculated them in every area of life. The intent of the book is not to tell men they are wrong about their beliefs but if their belief is true what are they as men going to do about it in a healthy way.

I will be posting videos (the first couple are a little rough. But I got better and more comfortable as I went along. Be Kind) on this subject and hope to interview women and their views about the Red Pill Movement as well as men. 

As always leave comments. I answer all questions. Please pray for me and send positive energy my way. 

 

Taylor Swift's Super Bowl 2024

     

    People are calling for women with influence to back President Biden for re-election November 2024. All eyes are focused and waiting for Michelle Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Beyounce, and TAYLOR SWIFT to make commercials endorsing Joe Biden. Why Taylor Swift? Because of her followers, the Swifties. There are hundreds of thousands of loyal Swifties who will do whatever the singer lead them to do. 

    Even people who are not Taylor Swift fans have been drawn into that circle of fans due to Swift's public love affair with the Chiefs football player Travis Kelce who is headed to the Super Bowl in 2024. Her presence at each of her boyfriend's football games has upset male sports fans. They do not like the lovey-dovey stuff injected into their manly-man hit-em-hard time that was once all testosterone time. Tayor and Kelce are making football SWEET. It didn't help much when his brother, Jason Kelce (Philedelphia Eagles) gave him a long hug, too long for some, after his team won their spot in the Super Bowl matchup.

 No matter where we go, no matter what we do, it seems things are always polarized and eventually insist a person choose the Democrat side or Republican side. And if things continue on in the pick-a-side polarization, religion will creep up as the finale battleground. Hopefully, after the Super Bowl, Taylor Swift hate will subside and we will not be a part of her romance/relationship any longer.

    During her time in the spotlight, her image was used using AI (Artificial Intelligence) in nude and other unflattering images online. The images were so 'real' looking, people believed they were actually photos of her. She asked/demanded the edited images be removed from the forums. 

    When a woman, stands up against a male dominated feild, she faces attacks questioning her 'femaleness." Michelle Obama is constantly being called a man and Talylor Swift is being portrayed as making Travis Kelce feminine. If she can make a 6'5" tight end into a little girl, then she must be a threat, I guess to others right?

    If the strong influential women I named at the beginning of this blog decide to step up and be vocal regarding their choice for President 2024, then you better believe, they will face scathing commentary on every aspect of their womanhood or lack thereof. 

    One woman whose story I admire is Joan of Arc. No, women being vocal in the political arena does not put them in the same league as Joan of Arc, but how and why she was eventually killed shows what a female leader or 'game changer' may encounter. The decision for a woman to LEAD is no small undertaking and sacrifice. Hillary Clinton can tell you a little about that.

    Being a TCM (Turner Classic Movie) fan, I spent this past Sunday night snuggled on my favorite couch to watch two versions of Joan of Arc. The first was a 1927 silent black and white version and the second was a foreign French version, also in black and white from 1937, I believe. Each movie had the English dialogue streaming on the bottom of the screen.

1920's Joan

I have seen many versions of Joan of Arc, but never one of the two listed above. These two versions were produced using only original court transcripts and interviews found by the people of that time.

Joan was tried by the Catholic Church with the English having a vested interest in the outcome of her trial due to the fact she was helping the king of France, their enemy at the time.

Joan broke all of the rules. She wore men clothing, led men into battle, wore armor, cut her hair, and worst of all; she believed she could bypass the church i.e. bishops and pope and speak directly with God and even the saints and angels (Michael). To the church this belief made her a heretic, and the church was going to excommunicate her if she did not recant that she was working under the counsel of God. God only spoke to the male clergy. She had gone too far and stepped into domains which were only for men. She was inprisoned and would not be released until she said she could not speak to nor hear from God.

    While in prison it was determined that her clothes may have been giving her stoic resolve, so they tried to get her to put on a dress, which she refused to do. Then it was determined since she vowed her virginity to God, she was receiving her strength from that. In the 1937 movie Joan told a priest that the guards had tried to rape her on three different occasions. Communion was paraded before her as a bargaining tool to get her to recant. Every form of coersion and threats were employed on Joan to get her to say she had lied about religous claims.

    After being tried just feet from the galleys (gallows), she recanted, but within hours changed her mind and said she was weakened by the fear of death but could not make God a liar and said her recanting was the true lie.

    Joan was burned at the stake with the church and governmental officials looking on. As soon as the flames began, you could see the doubt cross the faces of the men. They had to wonder, who would go to their death proclaiming to be a servant of God if they were not. This was the action, in like manner, of Jesus and later the apostles.

    I thought about all of the people who want to lead or be an online influencer. When glory, fame, fortune, and honor are the results it is easy to want to lead, but when ridicule, torture, and death are the result, no hand will go up to be chosen. Why would a beloved musician even consider continually showing up to watch her boyfriend play football when it stirred up so much hate and negativity towards her? Why would she publically support a presidential candidate when she knows it will cause people to hate her or have negative comments about her? Why would she put herself in a place to be publically ridiculed and demeaned? 

    Leaders are born and show up in places and ways we least expect and we never saw coming. Great leaders always pay a heavy price whether we are aware of it or not. If we were to read the biography of people we consider great, there will be pages filled with pain and often times uncertainty and pure defeat of the spirit at times.

    Joan of Arc was a woman who led but she was also a woman who followed God. The church saw her as a threat with her nonsense of hearing and talking to God on her own. Years would pass and what the church feared at that time would still come to pass, the Protestant movement. Protestants believed everyone should be able to read the Bible for themselves and pray to God on their own.

    Everybody is looking for a hero. We love heros. Sometimes, we have to look at our ownselves and ask ourselves are we a leader or a follower? Do we understand the price we ask others to pay for what we aren't able to step up and do, whether in politics or religion. So, now I must ask myself do I know when to lead and do I know when to follow? Joan's life ended at the age of 19 in a tragic blaze of fire and smoke. She stood behind her beliefs and cause to the end. All I can say is, I can understand why men would follow her into battle and at the same time view her as a threat because men would follow her into battle.

    Taylor Swift have her Swifties. And for a minute now, all eyes have been on Taulor Swift. What's next for her after the Super Bowl because she will be there and cameras are going to try to catch her every reaction during the game. How angry will football fans be at the air time given to Taylor Swift?

Boys to Men, the Rite of Passage.

 

    America is a melting pot of ancestral diversity. People traveled from distant lands to come here to chase the American dream of becoming wealthy. They brought with them their culture influencing language and the food we eat. In an effort to become part of the American experience many immigrants let go of what tied them to their homeland. They stopped using their native language and traditions. The experience for the black American was different because they were brought to America against their will and were forced to relinquish their ancestral language, culture, and traditions. In this effort of the immigrants trying to become "American" one major pracitce was lost that has had a negative impact on men.

    The rite of passage, when a boy becomes a man has been lost. It was clear in many cultures that to become a man, a boy needed a period of instruction. He was not left to figure it out through trial and error. The adult males in his community would pour the knowledge they knew into the young men when they  reached a certain age. This was an important time in the life of these young men. You may ask, why was this so important then and now?

    When you are a child you are suppose to behave like a child which includes playing and having fun without the burden of responsibility. The community should not and does not look to children to behave as adults. One flaw parents are guilty of nowadays is making children adults before their time. They are lavished with adult ammenities such as designer clothes, cars when they are teenagers, spa treatments, expensive toys, and the latest tech gadgets. It is difficult to distinguish adult from child when it comes to material possessions. But when the rite of passage was part of society, there was a clear distiction between child and adult.

    A boy knew he behaved a certain way before he went through the rite of passage and he knew he would behave and be treated differently after going through his rite of passage. The rite consisted of three distinct components: leaving his childhood community, period of instruction/training, and returning to community. He would leave a boy and return a man. For a while, entering the military served as a sort of rite of passage for young men. They left their home, went off for military training, and returned a different man the community recognized as changed and he was treated as a man who had changed.

    Boys had a period of instruction by other men teaching them what manhood meant. Boys knew there was a difference in behavior for a boy and a man and they looked forward to becoming a man and being treated as such in his community. He was expected to live as he had been taught. The rite of passage was a time a boy said goodbye to being a child and returned changed into a man able to handle the responsibilities that came with being a man. He earned the rite of manhood.

With so many children living in homes without fathers, the transition from boy to man, has all but disappeared. Communities have suffered because grown men have been left in the "boy" stage of life. Communities suffer because boys are given the toys of men making them believe they are mature enough to possess them. The distinction of boy and man has been lost. 

    Modern society began telling young men to "sow your wild oats" before settling down and getting married. This period of sowing wild oats was seen as the young man's time of experimenting and learning life through experiences. This wild oats time has left  men with a string of illegitimate children and without financial stability. Sowing wild oats was no more than an extended time of play that was supposed to be enjoyed during childhood and relinquished when entering manhood. Men demand respect from family, friends, peers, community, and the world and have not transitioned into a phase in their lives where they have earned respect and recognition.

    The rite of passage, when a boy leaves childhood, and becomes a man through instruction can be recovered within a family dynamic. Fathers and male mentors can help boys become men. A wonderful modern way for young men to have the rite of passage experience is going away to college. The boy leaves his childhood home, goes off for instruction, and returns to his community changed. But young men prefer quick money and fun after high school graduation instead of learning that will enrich his life and increase his financial stability for years to come.

    The rite of passage is vital to manhood. The lack of such a rite has left a vacuum in the pool of men women can choose to marry. The Rite of passage man, a mentally, emotionally mature man ready to face the trials of manhood is difficult to find. The Genesis man who is instructed to leave his parents home and make his own home for his family is difficult to find. Our communities and nation as a whole suffer from this lack of the rite of passage and Genesis man. 

    To demonstrate manhood, one MUST be in a relationship so the man can have someone to provide for, protect, and procreate with. This balance is off and men are procreating without providing and protecting. Masculinity can be demonstrated outside of relationships but has nothing to do with the TRADITIONAL definition of manhood as provider, protector, and procreator. Masculinity is something for personal ego, but manhood goes beyond masculinity. Many men want women to admire their masculinity and women do. But masculinity is not a sought after trait for relationships because it is a solo endeavor of praise. Their is no stability for a woman from a man offering masculinity. A man must offer manhood and its pillars of security; provider, protector, and procreator. 

    Young women, when marriage is not on their mind, go for the masculine man and more often than not find herself having a child by the masculine man. Once she is a mother and knows she needs more than masculinity, she searches for a man demonstrating manhood traits of security. Men don't care too much for the single mother. This is the downfall of men offering procreation only and women accepting it in their youth. The man who is no longer offering masculinity, but manhood, usually are step fathers and now they are getting a bad rep by masculine men. 

    We all need to be taught, men and women, what manhood is and what womanhood is and it is not SEX before marriage. Men want to go back to the biblical woman. There is also a biblical man and no sex before marriage is MAJOR for traditional men and women. I believe we should ALL start there when returning to traditional sex roles. 

    There is nothing more wonderful than a man living out manhood. He is a prize and an asset to family and community. He is mature and balanced in relationships and in marriage he values his wife and children. He understands that his wife and children carry his NAME and his name is respected. They BELONG TO HIM AND HIS FAMILY BLOOD LINE. They are secure and protected by his family clan. When people see his wife and children, they know they have been grafted into his family bloodline.

    Too many women and children do not belong to their family bloodline. They are not secure and protected and we have children doing disrepectful thing in society. They do not belong and we no longer use the label of BASTARD, but that is what many children are. Their fathers have left them unprotected and unprovided for. This cycle is repeating rapidly.

    Lifting up masculinity if fine. But, manhood is not addressed. Men need to understand and teach healthy manhood to our young boys so they will not grow up in a time where they believe people don't respect manhood. Manhood is a lifestyle demonstrated in relationships. All relationships. It is taught and learned. Our society lost that along the way.  

Don't forget to purchase "When Will Eve Be Forgiven?" available on amazon.com and keep an eye out for my upcoming book release "Manhood Interrupted, But Not destroyed, An Answer For The Red Pill Man" from which this blog originated.

 

Testosterone and Manhood

    

Men are always telling other men to man up, don't be a wimp or simp. Men take masculinity seriously. Manhood and masculinity are two different things. Masculinity are qualities or attributes regarded as characteristics of men or boys. It is attitudes and behaviors that signifiy and validate maleness. Masculinity is socially constructed and influenced by culture.

Boys can do masculine things. Women can be masculine also. Don't believe me? Look up masculinity and the traits of masculinity. You will find modern masculinity traits are defined by courage, assertiveness, leadership, strength, courage, and compassion. Men, children, and women can display the characteristics of masculinity.

Do women love a muscular man? Millennial women are turning their attention back towards the manly man, but in the end, it is character that counts. For decades, the presence of muscles on a man declared his virility. People attributed muscles to manhood and he was a man who could take care of business. Women still enjoy muscular men, but usually for short-term relationships.

Women want a provider, protector, and procreator (father who stay and care for his children). They want a loyal committed man who may or may not have muscles. So why was the  muscular man sought after? Because muscles were an indicator of testosterone in men. Testosterone is what makes a man a man. Now women are not searching out men with muscles. It no longer matters as much as it once did to them. Men, on the other hand, should take note of their decreasing muscle mass (and there is a decrease), an indicator of low testosterone. The definition of manhood includes taking care of your physical and sexual health. Low testosterone increases depression, decreases bone density and self-esteem, and sex drive. 

The hormone testosterone gives men their deep voice, body hair, and muscular body. The sexual component peaks in adolescence and young adulthood. Testosterone is generally at its peak in young men aged 18-19. A man's ability to produce testosterone starts to decline at about 40 years of age, and levels continue to drop 1 – 3% a year thereafter.

Has testosterone declined in response to a changed world, or has the world changed to accommodate less virile men? Testosterone changes are largely explained by smoking behavior and changes in health status, particularly obesity and depression. But, many scientists attribute lower testosterone levels to the type of work men are doing. More on that in a minute.

Men’s testosterone levels have dropped at least 20% in the last 20 years with more and more younger men suffering the effects of low testosterone.

This is not a new trend. Seventy-year-old men in 1987-89 had an average testosterone level that was almost 100 points higher than even 55-year-old men in 2002-04. Meaning that the average 22 year old man today, has an average testosterone level roughly equal to that of  a 67 year old man in 2000. Therefore, it’s likely that your testosterone levels are half of those of your father and undoubtedly significantly less than your grandfather.

Levels of testosterone of single men and men in new relationships did not differ, but both had significantly greater levels of testosterone than men in long-term relationships. Many men as well as women believe having a lot of sex increases testosterone. Studies show there is no relationship between testosterone levels and sexual activity. A 2003 study shows testosterone levels could be more influenced by a LACK of sex than by sex itself. This is the use it or lose it principle. And overuse does not mean better or more testosterone.

Many observers put more weight on increased exposure to environmental toxins, such as pesticides, parabens, and chemicals common in household products like phthalates and bisphenol A, decreasing testosterone in men. Also playing a role are long-term shifts in the ways we work and live. Young men are far less likely to hold jobs in manual labor, so they don’t have to be as physically strong as previous generations. Boys and teens no longer participate in sports where testosterone plays a significant factor. Many men have office jobs, spend leisure time gaming, watching t.v., or on their phone on social media. These activities do not require muscles. 

Meanwhile, certain forms of close relationships—such as marriage, fatherhood, and increased time spent with children—are casually linked to lower testosterone levels. Lower testosterone helps facilitate supportive relationships, researchers said. Other research found that the quality of a relationship, including satisfaction, commitment, and investment, lowered testosterone for both men and women, and that couples were more satisfied when one person had lower testosterone. Men who become married experience an accelerated decline in testosterone whereas men who remain unmarried experience a slower decline.

Most American Millennial men report feeling pressured to project a traditional image of manhood characterized by traits like toughness, self-reliance, and hypersexuality—but when asked if they wish to emulate these characteristics themselves, the majority don’t. 

In addition to causing physical changes, having low levels of testosterone can affect a man on an emotional level. The condition can lead to feelings of sadness or depression. Low testosterone can lead to depression, anxiety, mood swings, and other mental health problems, such as feelings of uselessness and low self-worth. Therefore, if you want to live your best and healthiest life, it's crucial to have adequate testosterone levels. Some men  have trouble with memory and concentration and experience lowered motivation and self-confidence. Many men's testosterone levels drop too far and the results are increased irritability, anger, and depression.

Higher testosterone levels can be linked to a higher probability of infidelity in men, study finds. Men who cheat on their romantic partner tend to also have higher testosterone levels than men who don't cheat, according to new research published in the journal Biological Psychology. Remember, new relationships tend to increase testosterone levels. Men have a decline in testosterone in COMMITTED relationships. Men who cheat are not in a committed relationship regardless of how many years he has been in the relationship. 

Can a man know if he may be suffering from low testosterone? Yes. But do men attribute the symptoms to low testosterone? No. 

Symptoms of low testosterone.

• Low sex drive.
• Problems having an erection.
• Low sperm count.
• Sleep problems such as insomnia.
• Decrease in muscle size and strength.
• Bone loss.
• Increase in body fat.
• Depression.

What can a man do if he believes he has low testosterone? Always seek medical advice for any health problems that are experienced. There are some things that a man can do on his own if he have symptoms of low testosterone.

1.    Maintain ideal body weight. Obesity is an enemy of testosterone

2.    Avoid developing diabetes

3.    Exercise

4.    Sleep well

5.    Avoid tobacco products

6.    Avoid excessive alcohol

7.    Avoid opioid pain medication

8.    Avoid Xenobiotics. Found in plastic products

9.    Avoid excessive stress

10.    Eat well. Cut out excessive sugar, caffeine, red meat, excessive dairy products, food dyes, processed food.

11.    Dietary Suppliments such as zinc, Quercetin, Grapeseed extract, and DHEA

High testosterone levels do not make a man more manly. Testosterone levels can affect masculinity and how it is demonstrated by men, but remember, boys and women can also demonstrate masculine traits. It is surprising that the man in solid, lasting, committed relationships have lower testosterone levels but are living out manhood. Manhood is always demonstrated in relationships where masculinity can be demonstrated outside of relationships in a solo effort. testosterone makes a man but does not necessarily give admission into manhood.