RANT: Tired of MEN talking HEAD of HOUSEHOLD!

 My answer to the men who are tired of women wanting to be men. Women do NOT want to be like men but the BEST version of themselves for a successful life and men are ANGRY  because sometimes THAT does not include them. Soon, the Trump administration and the Evangelicals will make sure we are beyobd subserviant to men. They want women's so and spirit under the name of the Lord. This is the beginning of the end for womanhood.

Men Want Women - Badly

     

    I would probably not be too far off the mark if I guessed men would consider it a declaration of WAR if a woman wrote a book about MANHOOD.

    In online communities, there is a large amount of chatter among men saying women are destroying manhood. Men are voicing their distress and proclaiming the tides have turned and women have more rights than men in the jucicial system and work arena. Many men see women as feminizing America. When saying America is becoming feminized, they mean women are insisting men be more compassionate, be more in touch with their feelings, and stop demonstrating toxic masculinity. There are critics of these men and their ideas of manhood being under attack by women, who outright dismiss their feelings of being emasculated by women and society at large. I say, NOT SO FAST.

    Just because a person does not agree completely with another person does not mean there isn't some modicum of truth being said. If there is a large group of people saying the same thing, 'men are facing a manhood crisis', then maybe we should take time to see if there is any validity to the outcry. I will circle back to women writing about manhood in a minute. Bare with me for a moment as I give some context to why men may be feeling marginalized in society.

    According to a 2017 Pew Research Center survey, 53% of American people say they look up to men who are manly or masculine. So,we do understand the feeling of being manly and masculine is important to men and by others. But suprisingly, only 31% of men view themselves as masculine, 54% view themselves as somewhat masculine, and 15% of men view themselves as not masculine. These are some eye-opening statistics about men by men. Men feeling less than masculine is present in men before women are even brought into the equation.

    The well-known men's magazine GQ conducted a 2019 survey of 1,005 American men about masculinity. The survey found 59% of the men considered themselves completely masculine, 40% considered themselves masculine with at least some feminine traits, and 44% of the men have gotten into a physical fight in their lifetime. If these results, let alone the possible questions asked, have you scratching your head, you're not alone. The questions asked, it seems, would definitely cause some problems for the respondent on a core level if gotten wrong. The structure of the questions asked, put men on the defensive to protect himself from being labeled as womanly. This is evident by the answer, "Have you been in a fight?" Agressiveness has long been one of the traits which makes a man manly. This is why there is a rise in toxic masculinity. Men are pressured to be agressive.This brings me to my next point and statistics.

    One third of American men (36%) feel under pressure to behave in a masculine way. Over half (58%) feel society expects them to be "emotionally strong and to show no weakness." More than half (53%) of American men aged 18-34 feel pressure to be manly compared to only 15% of men over the age of 55. Sixty percent of American men agree society puts pressure on men in a way that is unhealthy or bad. The two areas in which men are pressured to show their masculinity and manliness is in the area of their weight (physical fitness) and finances. This brings us to the biggest area of complaint men are having - relationships with the opposite sex - or the lack thereof. Men are deeply upset with what they desire the most, women. On the online communities offering support and understanding to men facing disappointment, frustration, and anger at being rejected by women based on their appearance and income, misogynistic dating advice is offered to get them in  the 'game'. Setting the dating advice aside, men are struggling in being in a relationship with women they desire.

    Nearly half of U.S. adults (47%) say dating is harder today for most people compared with 10 years ago, while a third say it is about the same, and 19% say it’s easier today. Sevent-five percent of men ages 50 and older say it is harder for men to know how to behave on dates compared with 63% of men younger than 50. Another reason dating has become harder is that people are not looking for the same type of relationship according to 53% of respondents. Surprisingly, this same study found 61% of men say they are currently looking for a relationship or dates compared to 38% of single women. Ouch! That's surprising because women declare men are not interested in relationships; only sex. Sevent-five percent of daters say it has been very/somewhat difficult in the last year to find people to date and only 5% said it has been easy. There is a lot of rejection going on in the dating world. Men are going through it on many levels. No wonder there is an outcry. There is pain.

    Now back to why a woman can write about manhood. 

    Manhood is not a mystical mythological entity. Manhood has been demonstrated througout the ages. There are three pillars of manhood, through my research, that allows for the best demonstration of manhood, which are providor, protector, procreator. Men have alsways been able to occupy these roles with little effort or competition. The one thing that made the pillars of this defined manhood so strong was because it was demonstrated through physical stregnth. 

The strong man could provide, protect, and every woman would want to procreate with him. But we live in a time where physical stregnth is no longer needed for safety, survival, and no longer sought after sexually. Advancements in technology on a monumental scale, made the playing field level and the skinniest, frailest, person can still provide, protect, and procreate at the push of a button. Manhood is in competition with advancements in technology. Now a woman, without physical stregnth, can provide, protect, and decide on a wider scale whom she wants to procreate with if at all. Technology is a mind game (woman's stregnth) and no longer a physical game (man's stregnth).

For centuries, men could offer their brute stregnth as an asset and it was enough for every need possible. His body was made to be a fighter, hunter, leader, and producer of children in large numbers. None of those manly demonstrations of manhood are needed in the technological society we live in today. The advice given to men in the MANOSPHERE telling men to beef up their muscles and to be stoic in relationships will be the key to having long-term relationships. 

    During two points in history, masculinity was not demonstrated through physical attributes of the man. During the Roman Empire, men lounged and dined, took group baths with other men, and sought entertainment through art, music, and watching sports. Working was a no-no for men of status and power. In Europe and later America, the wealthy did not work and looked down on men who relied on their muscles for living. Men hunted small game, danced, read, and concerned themselves in dressing in fine clothes. Once again, muscles used for living was looked down upon. Men are in a time now, where manhood, demonstrated by physicality, is not what is desired.

    The focus of men on DATING or how to have their choice in women, will not accomplish what they want - SUCCESS in ALL areas of their lives. In my opinion, men should focus on determining what type of man or manhood does the 21st Century need to fit all of the advancements society has had. Men have to figure out how they, alone or in a relationship, thrive in their 'push a button' reality. An important question men should also ask is, "Who is raising men to be men?"

    

    The United States has the highest total of single mother households in the world. As of 2023, 15.9 million U.S. households are single mother households and 3.5 million are single father households. Twenty-four million, 1/3 of U.S. children under the age of 18 live in single parent households according to another U.S. poll. These are single mother household with young boys being raised to be men. It has been proven, the same sex parent has the biggest influence on the same sex child. Fathers have the most influence on sons and mothers on daughters. Women must fill the gap of the boys same sex biggest influencer not being present. No finger pointing for blame, just recognition there is a large number of single mothers raising sons, future MEN.

    We must have women, who are mothers, who will be influencing the health (physical/mental/spritual/sexual/financial/relational/emotional) of future men engaged in the discussion of what healthy manhood and masculinity looks like and how it is demonstrated in private and public life. Someone has to step in to address the concerns and belief that MANHOOD (in its current definition) is no longer needed nor has no place in society. This does not require a new, conjured-up, spliced together definition of manhood for the 21st century. For some reason, men stopped teaching and instilling in young boys what is needed for a man to live in the society they are living in. Now, men want to teach a MANHOOD that worked in a past society, which is destined to fail. Manhood always adjusts to what is happening in society and EDUCATION is what is happening in today's WORLD (I will blog about education in a later post). The definition of manhood, must be demonstrated in optimum ways which benefit him and all of those in his orbit.

    Will men be on board with women discussing, writing, debating manhood? NO. But it remains necessary. It can be a gateway in offering a viable solution to many of the problems men are voicing in the Manosphere. The one true thing about manhood is IT IS BEST DEMONSTRATED IN RELATIONSHIPS. Yes, while doing research on manhood I discovered this and it will be my theme whenever I talk about manhood. To demonstrate providor, protector, procreator - you must have someone to provide for, protect, and procreate with. Will men buy my book on manhood? Probably not, but men don't usually buy any books written by a woman author (only 19%). So hopefully, more women will research what manhood means and what it does not mean and do not get pulled into unnessary arguments about manhood. I hope both men and women understand a person is male because of biology but manhood is taught and learned. 

 ***Material used in this blog post from my manuscript on Manhood.*** More material to come in future.

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Where Have All The Fathers Gone?

 WHERE HAVE ALL THE FATHERS GONE?

Father's Day is upon us once again and social media will be a buzz with single parent women bashing absentee dads and praising themselves for "doing it alone," which is raising a child without any support from the BABY DADDY. Raise your hand if you hate that term.  It is hard to look past these women and their difficult situation of anger and frustration. We wonder how the child is feeling knowing they have a father who is neglecting them. 

Of course there will be praises for the good dads which will make those who never experienced what it was like to have a good dad in their lives feel some type of way. My mother and father divorced when I was one years old and I only saw him twice in my life. There has never been a Father's Day in which I wondered what I missed without a dad. I just never did, but many fatherless children do. YOU CAN'T MISS WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW was my thing I guess.

My advice for women may cause rage but we as women must not have babies by men in which we have fallen in love with or are in a relationship with. We should keep our hymen (virginity) until we have a diamond (engagement ring or married). Have our sexual exploits really been that good as to possibly to produce a child?  We love to blame men for not being there, but we are responsible for our reproductivity and it begins with SAYING NO TO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. Enjoy the man but don't be his deposit for sperm and you have no withdrawal power on the account.

What about the men who go around fathering children without a care and do not participate in the raising of those children? Well the Bible tells us in 1 Timothy 5:8 "But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he has denied his faith, as is worse then an infidel." An infidel is a person who does not believe in religion or adheres to a religion of his own making. Men will answer for not caring for their SEED.

HOW MANY BABIES LIVE WITHOUT FATHERS?

Since 1970, out-of-wedlock birth rates have soared. In 1965, 24 percent of black infants and 3.1 percent of white infants were born to single mothers. By 1990 the rates had risen to 64 percent for black infants, 18 percent for whites. Every year about one million more children are born into fatherless families. If we have learned any policy lesson well over the past 25 years, it is that for children living in single-parent homes, the odds of living in poverty are great.

 Many say a father does not have to be married to the woman who birthed his child to be a good father and this is true. Many unwed fathers are great fathers. But the father actually being in the home offers more quality time and for more engagement with the child (many fathers in the home are not engaged with their children and are bad fathers even though they are present).

10 Facts About Father Engagement

1. Fathers and infants can be equally as attached as mothers and infants. When both parents are involved with the child, infants are attached to both parents from the beginning of life.
2. Father involvement is related to positive child health outcomes in infants, such as improved weight gain in preterm infants and improved breastfeeding rates.[2]
3. Father involvement using authoritative parenting (loving and with clear boundaries and expectations) leads to better emotional, academic, social, and behavioral outcomes for children.
4. Children who feel a closeness to their father are: twice as likely as those who do not to enter college or find stable employment after high school, 75% less likely to have a teen birth, 80% less likely to spend time in jail, and half as likely to experience multiple depression symptoms.
5. Fathers occupy a critical role in child development. Father absence hinders development from early infancy through childhood and into adulthood. The psychological harm of father absence experienced during childhood persists throughout the life course.
6. The quality of the father-child relationship matters more than the specific amount of hours spent together. Non-resident fathers can have positive effects on children’s social and emotional well-being, as well as academic achievement and behavioral adjustment.
7. High levels of father involvement are correlated with higher levels of sociability, confidence, and self-control in children. Children with involved fathers are less likely to act out in school or engage in risky behaviors in adolescence.
8. Children with actively involved fathers are: 43% more likely to earn A’s in school and 33% less likely to repeat a grade than those without engaged dads.
9. Father engagement reduces the frequency of behavioral problems in boys while also decreasing delinquency and economic disadvantage in low-income families.
10. Father engagement reduces psychological problems and rates of depression in young women.

According to Psychology Today, researchers have found these narratives to be true. The results of father absence on children are nothing short of disastrous, along a number of dimensions:

1. Children’s diminished self-concept, and compromised physical and emotional security (children consistently report feeling abandoned when their fathers are not involved in their lives, struggling with their emotions and episodic bouts of self-loathing)
2. Behavioral problems (fatherless children have more difficulties with social adjustment, and are more likely to report problems with friendships, and manifest behavior problems; many develop a swaggering, intimidating persona in an attempt to disguise their underlying fears, resentments, anxieties and unhappiness)
3. Truancy and poor academic performance (71 percent of high school dropouts are fatherless; fatherless children have more trouble academically, scoring poorly on tests of reading, mathematics, and thinking skills; children from father absent homes are more likely to play truant from school, more likely to be excluded from school, more likely to leave school at age 16, and less likely to attain academic and professional qualifications in adulthood)
4. Delinquency and youth crime, including violent crime (85 percent of youth in prison have an absent father; fatherless children are more likely to offend and go to jail as adults)
5. Promiscuity and teen pregnancy (fatherless children are more likely to experience problems with sexual health, including a greater likelihood of having intercourse before the age of 16, foregoing contraception during first intercourse, becoming teenage parents, and contracting sexually transmitted infection; girls manifest an object hunger for males, and in experiencing the emotional loss of their fathers egocentrically as a rejection of them, become susceptible to exploitation by adult men)
6. Drug and alcohol abuse (fatherless children are more likely to smoke, drink alcohol, and abuse drugs in childhood and adulthood)
7. Homelessness (90 percent of runaway children have an absent father)
8. Exploitation and abuse (fatherless children are at greater risk of suffering physical, emotional, and sexual abuse, being five times more likely to have experienced physical
9. Abuse and emotional maltreatment, with a one hundred times higher risk of fatal abuse; a recent study reported that preschoolers not living with both of their biological parents are 40 times more likely to be sexually abused)
10. Physical health problems (fatherless children report significantly more psychosomatic health symptoms and illness such as acute and chronic pain, asthma, headaches, and stomach aches)
11. Mental health disorders (father absent children are consistently overrepresented on a wide range of mental health problems, particularly anxiety, depression and suicide)
12. Life chances (as adults, fatherless children are more likely to experience unemployment, have low incomes, remain on social assistance, and experience homelessness)
13. Future relationships (father absent children tend to enter partnerships earlier, are more likely to divorce or dissolve their cohabiting unions, and are more likely to have children outside marriage or outside any partnership)
14. Mortality (fatherless children are more likely to die as children, and live an average of four years less over the life span)

 WHY WON'T HE MARRY ME AND MAKE A FAMILY AND BE A FATHER?

Men avoid marriage because It's too risky and too costly. Men are not marrying because, for many men, the rewards for getting married are far less than they used to be, while the cost and dangers of it are far higher. Divorce rates are sky-high: 45% of marriages end in divorce, and women initiate 80% of them. Here are a few pointers for the woman who wants to have children within a marriage with a father present. Yes, women, we must take responsibility and accountability for trying to be married before having children.

• Most men who graduate from high school start thinking of marriage as a real possibility when they are 23 or 24.
• Most men who graduate from college don’t start considering marriage as a real possibility until age 26.
• When men go to graduate school, it takes them longer to get into the working world, and they’re not ready to get married until a few years after that.
• Ninety percent of men who have graduated from college are ready for the next step between ages 26 and 33; this is when they are most likely to consider marriage. But this window of opportunity stays open only for four to five years, and then the chances a man will marry start to decline.
• A majority of college graduates between 28 and 33 are in their high-commitment years and likely to propose.
• This period for well-educated men lasts just a bit over five years. The chances men will commit are sightly less when they are thirty-one or thirty-two than when they were between 28 and 30, but they’re still in a high-commitment phase.
• Once men reach 33 or 34, the chances they’ll commit start to diminish, but only slightly. Until men reach 37, they remain very good prospects.
• After age 38, the chances they will ever marry drop dramatically.
• The chances that a man will marry for the first time diminish even more once he reaches 42 or 43. At this point, many men become confirmed bachelors.
• Once men reach age 47 to 50 without marrying, the chances they will marry do not disappear, but they drop dramatically.
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According to author John Molly, men were far more likely to marry when they got tired of the singles scene. there is a point at which men are likely to be ready for the next step, but the specific age depends on the man’s maturity, education, and profession. If a woman wants to know whether a man is ready to get married, she should ask him how much he enjoys the single's scene. If he says it isn’t as much fun as it used to be, he’s a very good prospect, because he’s ready to move on to the next step, but there’s more to it than that: The woman should also ask the man a number of questions, including his age.

If you’re dating a man who has had one or more long-term relationships with other women and didn’t marry them, there’s a real possibility he’s a stringer. A stringer is a man who strings women along. He likes having a woman, sleeping with a woman, eating with a woman, possibly sharing his life with a woman without ever making a real commitment. If you think you may be involved with a stringer, establish a deadline. If he doesn’t commit to you within six months, get rid of him. Pay no attention to his excuses.

Many older men are eager to marry because their biological clock was running. Yes, men have a biological clock too. They want to be young enough when their sons come along to teach them all the things fathers traditionally teach their sons-to ride a bicycle, to fish, to play ball, and so forth. The most important reason older men have for marrying is that if they wait much longer, they wouldn’t be able to be active fathers.

The Huffington Post gives reasons why men don't get married.

1. You'll lose respect. A couple of generations ago, a man wasn't considered fully adult until he was married with kids. But today, fathers are figures of fun more than figures of respect. 

2. You'll lose out on sex. Married men have more sex than single men, on average - but much less than men who are cohabiting with their partners outside of marriage, especially as time goes on. Research even suggests that married women are more likely to gain weight than women who are cohabiting without marriage.

3. You'll lose friends. "Those wedding bells are breaking up that old gang of mine." That's an old song, but it's true. When married, men's ties with friends from school and work tend to fade. Although both men and women lose friends after marriage, it tends to affect men's self-esteem more, perhaps because men tend to be less social in general.

4. You'll lose space. We hear a lot about men retreating to their "man caves," but why do they retreat? Because they've lost the battle for the rest of the house.

5. Single life is better than ever. While the value of marriage to men has declined, the quality of single life has improved. Single men were once looked on with suspicion, passed over for promotion for important jobs, which usually valued "stable family men," and often subjected to social opprobrium. It was hard to have a love life that wasn't aimed at marriage, and premarital sex was risky and frowned upon. Now, no one looks askance at the single lifestyle, dating is easy, and employers probably prefer employees with no conflicting family responsibilities. 

BEFORE BEING A MOTHER CAN YOU BE A WIFE?

The nursery rhyme says "First comes loves then comes marriage then come mommy with a baby carriage." Or something like that. Both sexes need to prioritized the order of their lives and their children's lives. No matter how children come they are a blessing. But each child should have an opportunity to have the love of both mother and father in a stable loving family unit. While we bash men for not being fathers, we women should also take time to think are we WIFE MATERIAL? Here is what men say they want in a wife in a count down. These traits also make for good mothers.

No. 10: Ambition and Industriousness: It is clear that men find a woman's drive, determination and energy attractive qualities in a life partner.

 No. 9: Desire for Home and Children

No. 8: Good looks: Perhaps because modern marriages are more likely based on love and attraction rather than practicalities (like wealth or status), physical attractiveness is more desirable.

No. 7: Good Health: Both sexes are living well into their 70s, and often older, making good health a predictor of a long-lasting marriage.

No. 6: Sociability: Because today's married couples are more likely to be friends and have mutual circles of friends, it makes sense that this has become a more attractive characteristic.

No 5: Pleasing Disposition

No. 4: Education and Intelligence: A woman's education and intelligence are more attractive to men than ever before.

No. 3: Emotional Stability and Maturity: They want a woman who is grounded and secure in herself. 

No. 2: Dependable Character: They want a wife who will stand by their side 

No. 1: Mutual Attraction and Love: Above all, men want to marry a woman they love and are attracted to. Now, both men and women are marrying for love first and foremost, and marriages have become unions of passion, friendship, support and mutual attraction. 

This Father's Day let's think how we can contribute to giving our potential children the gift of a FATHER. Fatherhood has been happening to often by accident and they are leaving the scene of the crime.

Boys to Men, the Rite of Passage.

 

    America is a melting pot of ancestral diversity. People traveled from distant lands to come here to chase the American dream of becoming wealthy. They brought with them their culture influencing language and the food we eat. In an effort to become part of the American experience many immigrants let go of what tied them to their homeland. They stopped using their native language and traditions. The experience for the black American was different because they were brought to America against their will and were forced to relinquish their ancestral language, culture, and traditions. In this effort of the immigrants trying to become "American" one major pracitce was lost that has had a negative impact on men.

    The rite of passage, when a boy becomes a man has been lost. It was clear in many cultures that to become a man, a boy needed a period of instruction. He was not left to figure it out through trial and error. The adult males in his community would pour the knowledge they knew into the young men when they  reached a certain age. This was an important time in the life of these young men. You may ask, why was this so important then and now?

    When you are a child you are suppose to behave like a child which includes playing and having fun without the burden of responsibility. The community should not and does not look to children to behave as adults. One flaw parents are guilty of nowadays is making children adults before their time. They are lavished with adult ammenities such as designer clothes, cars when they are teenagers, spa treatments, expensive toys, and the latest tech gadgets. It is difficult to distinguish adult from child when it comes to material possessions. But when the rite of passage was part of society, there was a clear distiction between child and adult.

    A boy knew he behaved a certain way before he went through the rite of passage and he knew he would behave and be treated differently after going through his rite of passage. The rite consisted of three distinct components: leaving his childhood community, period of instruction/training, and returning to community. He would leave a boy and return a man. For a while, entering the military served as a sort of rite of passage for young men. They left their home, went off for military training, and returned a different man the community recognized as changed and he was treated as a man who had changed.

    Boys had a period of instruction by other men teaching them what manhood meant. Boys knew there was a difference in behavior for a boy and a man and they looked forward to becoming a man and being treated as such in his community. He was expected to live as he had been taught. The rite of passage was a time a boy said goodbye to being a child and returned changed into a man able to handle the responsibilities that came with being a man. He earned the rite of manhood.

With so many children living in homes without fathers, the transition from boy to man, has all but disappeared. Communities have suffered because grown men have been left in the "boy" stage of life. Communities suffer because boys are given the toys of men making them believe they are mature enough to possess them. The distinction of boy and man has been lost. 

    Modern society began telling young men to "sow your wild oats" before settling down and getting married. This period of sowing wild oats was seen as the young man's time of experimenting and learning life through experiences. This wild oats time has left  men with a string of illegitimate children and without financial stability. Sowing wild oats was no more than an extended time of play that was supposed to be enjoyed during childhood and relinquished when entering manhood. Men demand respect from family, friends, peers, community, and the world and have not transitioned into a phase in their lives where they have earned respect and recognition.

    The rite of passage, when a boy leaves childhood, and becomes a man through instruction can be recovered within a family dynamic. Fathers and male mentors can help boys become men. A wonderful modern way for young men to have the rite of passage experience is going away to college. The boy leaves his childhood home, goes off for instruction, and returns to his community changed. But young men prefer quick money and fun after high school graduation instead of learning that will enrich his life and increase his financial stability for years to come.

    The rite of passage is vital to manhood. The lack of such a rite has left a vacuum in the pool of men women can choose to marry. The Rite of passage man, a mentally, emotionally mature man ready to face the trials of manhood is difficult to find. The Genesis man who is instructed to leave his parents home and make his own home for his family is difficult to find. Our communities and nation as a whole suffer from this lack of the rite of passage and Genesis man. 

    To demonstrate manhood, one MUST be in a relationship so the man can have someone to provide for, protect, and procreate with. This balance is off and men are procreating without providing and protecting. Masculinity can be demonstrated outside of relationships but has nothing to do with the TRADITIONAL definition of manhood as provider, protector, and procreator. Masculinity is something for personal ego, but manhood goes beyond masculinity. Many men want women to admire their masculinity and women do. But masculinity is not a sought after trait for relationships because it is a solo endeavor of praise. Their is no stability for a woman from a man offering masculinity. A man must offer manhood and its pillars of security; provider, protector, and procreator. 

    Young women, when marriage is not on their mind, go for the masculine man and more often than not find herself having a child by the masculine man. Once she is a mother and knows she needs more than masculinity, she searches for a man demonstrating manhood traits of security. Men don't care too much for the single mother. This is the downfall of men offering procreation only and women accepting it in their youth. The man who is no longer offering masculinity, but manhood, usually are step fathers and now they are getting a bad rep by masculine men. 

    We all need to be taught, men and women, what manhood is and what womanhood is and it is not SEX before marriage. Men want to go back to the biblical woman. There is also a biblical man and no sex before marriage is MAJOR for traditional men and women. I believe we should ALL start there when returning to traditional sex roles. 

    There is nothing more wonderful than a man living out manhood. He is a prize and an asset to family and community. He is mature and balanced in relationships and in marriage he values his wife and children. He understands that his wife and children carry his NAME and his name is respected. They BELONG TO HIM AND HIS FAMILY BLOOD LINE. They are secure and protected by his family clan. When people see his wife and children, they know they have been grafted into his family bloodline.

    Too many women and children do not belong to their family bloodline. They are not secure and protected and we have children doing disrepectful thing in society. They do not belong and we no longer use the label of BASTARD, but that is what many children are. Their fathers have left them unprotected and unprovided for. This cycle is repeating rapidly.

    Lifting up masculinity if fine. But, manhood is not addressed. Men need to understand and teach healthy manhood to our young boys so they will not grow up in a time where they believe people don't respect manhood. Manhood is a lifestyle demonstrated in relationships. All relationships. It is taught and learned. Our society lost that along the way.  

Don't forget to purchase "When Will Eve Be Forgiven?" available on amazon.com and keep an eye out for my upcoming book release "Manhood Interrupted, But Not destroyed, An Answer For The Red Pill Man" from which this blog originated.