Why if your attractiveness is a 3, you are chasing and wanting a person who is a 10? When it comes to love or anything else we all feel entitled to the best. When it comes to material things, you can have whatever you want if you are willing to work for it and pay for it, but not when it comes to finding and being in relationship with a "beautiful" person. A 10 wants to be in relationship with a 10 fair or not.
Let's face it, beautiful people lead a different life. Good looking people make 12% more than less attractive people according to studies. They are considered more sociable, dominant, sexually warm, mentally healthy, intelligent, and socially skilled. By the time "cute" kids become attractive adults they've benefitted from this bias for years giving them higher levels of confidence like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Men can be a negative 10 and still want to have a trophy beauty to increase his status among other men and in his community. A beautiful woman makes him feel more like a man. Like when men had to hunt for survival the bigger the game he killed, the more manly and skilled he was viewed by other women and men. Men still trophy game hunt, now it's women that symbolize/represent their skill. That is why there is so much dating advice given to men on how to get a hard-to-get woman.
Men place great value on beauty, whereas women are more interested in having a supportive husband and she WILL marry a 2 to have security and a caring attentive partner. Scientist have proposed physical attractiveness for men to a beautiful face is a sign of a woman's fertility and it's about the survival instinct that draws them to a woman who can carry on their gene line.
Unattractive men still want top quality in a woman. He wants a feminine woman. He wants her to have that "something" that makes him stop and stare and other men to stop and stare when they are together. He wants a woman who triggers his hero instinct. she needs to have a sense of humor, confidence, be adventurous, beautiful smile, caring, playful and fun, listens to him, and be intelligent.
Men want it all and will pout, become angry, and start demeaning women in general if they cannot attain this woman he believes he is entitled to have just because he has a penis. Men in the dating world are like the child who can't play football or win a race, but he gets a trophy just like the MVP, so his feelings won't be hurt. DOESN'T WORK LIKE THAT IN REAL LIFE.
An unattractive person can be blissfully happy with an unattractive person. Isn't the end goal to having a relationship to be happy? We seem to have forgotten that in this consumer (get get get the best best best) world. A man's success/manhood also includes if he has a top shelf beautiful woman. Nothing else may be top shelf in his life, but he won't settle for nothing less than a 10 woman.
Stop the self-torture. Look for quality and compatibility. Have a real relationship that has nothing to do with ego and status. You will be happier in the long run.
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