It has been said many times marriage is just having a piece of paper. You don't need a piece of paper to prove your love or committment to a person. Well marriage happens to be more than a piece of paper and cohabitating or shacking up with someone is not equal to being married.
At one point in history, I'll use Europe as an example, a family name held importance. Europe was a land of royalty with Kings, Earls, and other Nobelmen. There were family crests attached to family names, a symbol of recognition. As history progressed, people of wealth became known as bluebloods and protected their family lineage/name by marrying only other bluebloods (of equal standing in the community). People maintained the honor of their family name. The family name could open or close doors for a person or a person could cause scandle hard for the family to recover from. Blueblooded men would go on to be called gentlemen.
The gentleman in English history was a man entitled to bear arms but was not included in the definition of nobility. The essence and strict definition of the word gentleman meant a man from a good family. The word gentleman derives from the Latin word, gentilis, and became translated in English-Latin documents as generous, but strictly speaking in its Latin translation means of noble origins or high social standing, “of one’s clan.” And here is where the importance of marriage comes to the forefront.
When a man asks a woman to be his wife he is asking her to join his "clan." She will be afforded the status, protection, honor, and benefits the same as everyone else of that clan. The children she will have will receive the same status, protection, honor, and benefits of the clan. Marriage is an open declaration in your community that you belong legally, by name, to a particular group (family line, heritage, origin) and so will any children born to the pairing. It bestows honor and acceptance.
Cohabitating or shacking does not bestow honor or acceptance of a person to a family line. The family knows you are not considered a "part" of their family name. You will not be recognized by name as one of theirs nor children born from the relationship that is why the children are classified as illegitamate. They do not belong to the "clan" of the father's and are not entitled by birth to status, protection, honor, or benifits of that family line, heritage, or origin.
Families welcomes girlfriends and baby mommas while things are going well with the couple but when things go bad the girlfriend or baby momma finds herself in a battle trying to keep the legitimacy of the child born out of wedlock. Modern times have made it easier for illegitimate children to receive benefits from their father, but it must be proved through legal means that the child does indeed belong to his "clan." As more and more children were born out of wedlock and divorce became more prevalent, the reputation of family names began to mean less and less in societies. As family names became devalued so did individuals living lives with no regard as to whether they brought honor or shame to their family. Children were born without a sense of belonging to a family's heritage or family's tradition. Family support and inclusion was lost for many children born out of wedlock along with monetary stability.
Many people cohabitate or shack to have a trial run of compatability. They want to "see" if they can live with each other and how each behave in a living together situation. Neither of the two who are shacking are offering a promise of permanace or the security or honor of joining a clan. It is clear that a desolution of the arrangement could happen at any point. A cohabitating couple without "clan" ties do not offer anything.that's why it is not a legal beneficial agreement. It's a girlfriend doing wife duties and a boyfriend doing husband duties, but without honor, integrety, security, or benifit. It is an unstable arrangement and children will be born into instability. Women, do not do wife duties with girfriend recognition/benefits. Enjoy being a girlfriend. You will have plenty time to cook and wash his clothes once you're married, I promise.
One may argue marriages end in divorce. True. But there is a certain dignity and honor in a man offering you to become part of his bloodline. It is the highest compliment of love he can give even if it does not work out. People have cohabitated for years til death did them part and could care less if they were married. It did not matter to them to be associated with a family heritage or tradition or origin. We have lost that in our modern age. It has become the norm to be for self, look out for self, make it on your own, not need anyone. Family has become unimportant and unneccesary and now dysfuctional in every aspect.
As men are on a mission to reclaim head of household status there has to be a return of the good family name "clan." Care, consideration, respect, and integrety should be taken in how he represents his name and chooses a wife and have legitimate children. Manhood must reach back and embrace the Gentleman man who had a name that opened doors and garnered respect when mentioned for his children and grandchildren. The gentleman should have a legacy of honor and tradition for his family line which cohabiting and shacking does not bestow on the mother of his children or his children. A family name should mean something in a community. Man must reestablish what has been lost and give social dignity to the woman he loves and chooses to have his children and to his children.
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