Manhood defined

 

    Nowadays the word "manhood" is being thrown about on social media with an emphasis of regaining it. Men are posting and tweeting daily the need for men to be masculine. When guidelines are given how to accomplish being "manly", the tips are often directed at how to interact/attract women.

    Traditional manhood of the past was defined by three words. The words provider, protector, and procreator encompassed what it meant to be a man. A man was suppose to provide food and shelter. He was to protect from enemies (whether human or animal), and protect from starvation or the enviromental elements. And man was also suppose to have sex in order to carry on the human race.

    In my upcoming book, Manhood Interrupted An Answer For The Red Pill Man, I put forth men cannot demonstrate the characteristics of manhood without being in a relationship, MARRIAGE. There is a difference between being a man and reaching manhood.

    When you are born you are either male or female. As years pass you will become an adult male or an adult female. After reaching a certain age people will begin to address you as a man or a woman. You don't have to do anything in particular to be called a man or a woman, time gives you the title.

    Reaching manhood or womanhood is different. Not every man can provide, protect, or procreate. The Christian Bible states in the book of Genesis 2:18, 2:20-22, and 2:24 for the man to leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and become one flesh. This statement tells the man to leave one way of life to begin another way of life. Here is a first glance of the term manhood being defined as the man no longer being dependent on his parents but independent joining together with a woman. Man tended the Garden of Eden and became one with a woman no longer being a son in his parent’s house but building his own home with a wife and future children. If the Genesis account of manhood was to remain viable throughout the years, then the criteria of leaving one’s childhood home and establishing another home had to be maintained.

    Man must be in a relationship with another person to have someone to provide for, protect from, and procreate with and the ideal state would be in a marriage with children. If a man does not marry he still must provide for and protect himself, but not to procreate, thus one of the stablizing legs of manhood is not present leaving him incomplete. Procreation outside of the marriage deminishes two stablizing legs of manhood because he will not be providing or protecting his own children and mother of his children. He will not be present to protect them from danger, starvation, enviromental hazards, etc.

    A part time or absent provider or protector cannot perform or fulfil the requirements needed to demonstrate manhood. A man can be labled a man without any effort on his part but becoming a part of the MAN-HOOD takes planning and effort.

    Many women establish their own homes and move a boyfriend or significant other into their home. Men are a little slower about establishing their own homes and finances before marriage and are content to shack up. Women do aid in deminishing manhood by moving a man into the home while not married. He will not be head of that household at any time. Many are familiar with the term men are afraid to commit. But that is exactly what MANHOOD calls for, a commitment.

    So what if a man chooses not to get married? As I said manhood is demonstrated through relationships. A man may choose to adopt or mentor children or care for his aging parents all viable vehicles to demonstrate manhood, but fathering children and not caring for them will drag down his manhood in personally. One may believe long term dating is a relationship where a man provides, protects, and procreates and to some degree it is. But long term dating and shacking do not have the same investment, security, and stability value as marriage. I will address long term dating and shacking in an upcoming post to clarify the difference.

    Once procreation with no commitment become the norm and given a green light by society, the other two foundational legs of manhood, provider and protector became nul and void over time. Abandoned mothers had to become provider and protector of a home and as a result we are seeing women less and less inclined to have children, making procreation a lesser prioroty.

    To regain a working definition of manhood, men must leave the comfort and safety net of their childhood home, choose a financially sound career/job, secure themselves a living space, and become the head of his household which encompasses a spouse and possibly children where he demonstrates daily his ability to provide, protect, and procreate. Women ask and worry about a man's finances, what material possessions he has acquired, etc. in the fulfillment of his manhood which causes hostility in the man. Women do expect a potential husband to have crossed from being a man into manhood.

I am going to end this post here even though there is more to say on this topic. Look for future posts related to this topic. 

    To return to a time when manhood was respected and valued, men must return to being a responsible provider, protector, and procreater. He must be sound in each of the foundational legs of manhood and get serious about the woman he chooses to give his manhood to.

Don't forget to purchase my book "When Will Eve Be Forgiven?" available on amazon.com and be on the lookout for my upcoming book "Manhood Interrupted An Answer For The Red Pill Man" soon to be released.