Discussing my books: "The Politics Of Prayer," "When Will Eve Be Forgiven?" "Diary of a Wannabe Gardener," "Manhood Interrupted An Answer For The Red Pill Man," and future books. INTERVIEWS (womanhood, women in ministry, women authors, dreadlock wearers, and anti-Red Pill Man). Also, current events impacting society. Contact me at: rizerfall@yahoo.com
Wednesday, January 24, 2024
Monday, January 15, 2024
Men Want Women - Badly
In online communities, there is a large amount of chatter among men saying women are destroying manhood. Men are voicing their distress and proclaiming the tides have turned and women have more rights than men in the jucicial system and work arena. Many men see women as feminizing America. When saying America is becoming feminized, they mean women are insisting men be more compassionate, be more in touch with their feelings, and stop demonstrating toxic masculinity. There are critics of these men and their ideas of manhood being under attack by women, who outright dismiss their feelings of being emasculated by women and society at large. I say, NOT SO FAST.
Just because a person does not agree completely with another person does not mean there isn't some modicum of truth being said. If there is a large group of people saying the same thing, 'men are facing a manhood crisis', then maybe we should take time to see if there is any validity to the outcry. I will circle back to women writing about manhood in a minute. Bare with me for a moment as I give some context to why men may be feeling marginalized in society.
According to a 2017 Pew Research Center survey, 53% of American people say they look up to men who are manly or masculine. So,we do understand the feeling of being manly and masculine is important to men and by others. But suprisingly, only 31% of men view themselves as masculine, 54% view themselves as somewhat masculine, and 15% of men view themselves as not masculine. These are some eye-opening statistics about men by men. Men feeling less than masculine is present in men before women are even brought into the equation.The well-known men's magazine GQ conducted a 2019 survey of 1,005 American men about masculinity. The survey found 59% of the men considered themselves completely masculine, 40% considered themselves masculine with at least some feminine traits, and 44% of the men have gotten into a physical fight in their lifetime. If these results, let alone the possible questions asked, have you scratching your head, you're not alone. The questions asked, it seems, would definitely cause some problems for the respondent on a core level if gotten wrong. The structure of the questions asked, put men on the defensive to protect himself from being labeled as womanly. This is evident by the answer, "Have you been in a fight?" Agressiveness has long been one of the traits which makes a man manly. This is why there is a rise in toxic masculinity. Men are pressured to be agressive.This brings me to my next point and statistics.
One third of American men (36%) feel under pressure to behave in a masculine way. Over half (58%) feel society expects them to be "emotionally strong and to show no weakness." More than half (53%) of American men aged 18-34 feel pressure to be manly compared to only 15% of men over the age of 55. Sixty percent of American men agree society puts pressure on men in a way that is unhealthy or bad. The two areas in which men are pressured to show their masculinity and manliness is in the area of their weight (physical fitness) and finances. This brings us to the biggest area of complaint men are having - relationships with the opposite sex - or the lack thereof. Men are deeply upset with what they desire the most, women. On the online communities offering support and understanding to men facing disappointment, frustration, and anger at being rejected by women based on their appearance and income, misogynistic dating advice is offered to get them in the 'game'. Setting the dating advice aside, men are struggling in being in a relationship with women they desire.Nearly half of U.S. adults (47%) say dating is harder today for most people compared with 10 years ago, while a third say it is about the same, and 19% say it’s easier today. Sevent-five percent of men ages 50 and older say it is harder for men to know how to behave on dates compared with 63% of men younger than 50. Another reason dating has become harder is that people are not looking for the same type of relationship according to 53% of respondents. Surprisingly, this same study found 61% of men say they are currently looking for a relationship or dates compared to 38% of single women. Ouch! That's surprising because women declare men are not interested in relationships; only sex. Sevent-five percent of daters say it has been very/somewhat difficult in the last year to find people to date and only 5% said it has been easy. There is a lot of rejection going on in the dating world. Men are going through it on many levels. No wonder there is an outcry. There is pain.
Saturday, January 13, 2024
I Have A Dream
What is a dream? Some people may have an idea leading
to their success come to them in a dream while sleeping. John Lennon wrote a best-selling song -- one of his most iconic
solo works -- based on a dream he had. The chorus of "#9 Dream" repeats a nonsensical phrase he heard in the dream,
"Ah! böwakawa poussé, poussé," and the lyrics refer to the feeling of
a dream being real: "So long ago/ Was it in a dream, was it just a
dream?/Seemed so very real, it seemed so real to me." Beatles legend has
it that Paul McCartney composed the melody for "Yesterday" -- the most-covered song in music history -- in a dream one night in 1964.
Director
Christopher Nolan took the inspiration for his 2010 psychological thriller Inception from
his own lucid dreams. The psychological thriller follows a dream thief (played
by Leonardo DiCaprio), a corporate spy, who steals dreams from the minds of CEOs
and business tycoons.
A
field of cows inspired Albert Einstein’s theory of relativity, which, according
to a calm.com survey, is one of the most important
ideas that ever came out of sleep. In his dream, Einstein was telling a farmer
about cows being surrounded by an electric fence, but the farmer saw something
different. Einstein awakened with the realization that the same event could
vary from different perspectives, and the theory of relativity began to take
shape.
“I saw the pale student of unhallowed arts kneeling beside the thing he had put together. I saw the hideous phantasm of a man stretched out, and then, on the working of some powerful engine, show signs of life, and stir with an uneasy, half vital motion. Frightful must it be for supremely frightful would be the effect of any human endeavor to mock the stupendous mechanism of the Creator of the world.” This is how author Mary Shelley described the lucid dream that led to her classic novel, Frankenstein.
Unlike many of the other world-changing ideas mentioned here, the story of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde didn’t originate after a night of sweet slumber; the tale of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde came to Robert Louis Stevenson during a drug-induced nightmare. His dream-induced screams disturbed his wife, Fanny, who angrily woke him up. Startled, he said to her, “Why did you wake me? I was dreaming a fine bogey tale.” The nightmare took a terrible turn when Fanny thought the first draft of the story was nonsense—and she burned it. Stevenson feverishly rewrote the 30,000-word story over a three-day period. Sure enough, it ended up selling so well that the book lifted the Stevensons out of debt.
According to psychoanalyst Carl Jung, our dreams can function on many different levels, from telling us which parts of our psyche are out of balance to anticipating our future needs. He also believed that most dreams operated on the level of stories, myths, and archetypes -- making them a wonderful source of ideas and inspiration. All human beings are also dream beings. Jack Kerouac, who composed a book entirely of his own dreams, once said. "Dreaming ties all mankind together."
Dreaming is a natural brain function, and all human beings do it. But some people never remember their dreams, according to experts. Your dreams have meanings as well. Psychologists say that both men and women become sexually aroused while dreaming (even if the dream has no sexual content). Average amount of time spent dreaming per night: 1 1⁄2 to 2 hours. Some people dream during the day as well. There is another type of dreaming and dream. People have come to believe in the "Ameican Dream?" Over time, the phrase “American dream” has come to be associated with upward mobility and enough economic success to lead a comfortable life. Historically, however, the phrase represented the idealism of the great American experiment. If you ask most people around the world what they mean by the “American dream,” nearly all will respond with some version of upward social mobility, the American success story, or the self-made man (rarely the self-made woman).
No less an authority than the Oxford
English Dictionary defines the American dream as “the ideal that
every citizen of the United States should have an equal opportunity to achieve
success and prosperity through hard work, determination, and initiative.”
Martin
Luther King Jr.'s “Dream” speech was a call for equality. It identified the
faults of America and what measures were needed to make it a better place. A
central theme throughout the speech was the importance of
everyone being treated equally. His dream was a vision he believed was accomplishable if
the effort and hard was put towards the goal.
Successful people may have other
things going for them as well. But they certainly have a vision. A clear dream,
along with the courage to act and follow through, dramatically increases your
chances of success. It has been said that if you aim for nothing, you will hit
it every time! I couldn’t agree more. The Good Book says that without a vision,
people perish. They run amuck. They live without restraint, giving their time
and attention to whatever screams the loudest instead of what will get them
ahead in life (Proverbs 29:18).
Altruism or having altruistic dreams is the selfless act of helping others without expecting anything in return. It is often considered one of the defining characteristics of what it means to be human. The list of people in history who had dreams of helping others and the world at large is a short list. Their journey of following their dreams gives real meaning to they can’t go where you are going.
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. dreamed of an America which embraced all of its people regardless of color and economic status and treated each fairly. Even though there were many people supporting his dream, there were many in opposition to his dream.
Some of the major political leaders of the day spoke out in
opposition to Martin Luther King Jr's dream and the demands of civil rights
activists. Many prominent Democrats made the argument that African Americans
should be happy with what they had, rather than asking for more.
The majority of White Americans living
in the South opposed King, but that reaction was not
confined to the South. By 1966, a nationwide Gallup poll found only 33% of
Americans had positive feelings about Dr. King. Seventy-five
percent of Americans disapproved of the civil rights leader as he spoke out
against the Vietnam War and economic disparity.
White racial resentment was still a
critical factor at that point. But Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s unfavorable
numbers were at least 25 points higher in 1968 than in 1963, and his faltering
appeal over the final years of his life was also a consequence of appearing to
fall behind his times in some respects even as he was leaping well ahead of
them in others.
Martin Luther King Jr., born
January 15, 1929, was an American Baptist minister, activist, and political
philosopher who was one of the most prominent leaders in the civil rights
movement from 1955 until his
assassination in 1968. A Black church leader and a son
of early civil rights activist and minister Martin Luther
King Sr., King advanced civil rights for people of color in the United States
through nonviolent
resistance and civil disobedience against Jim Crow laws and other forms of discrimination
in the United States.
Dr. King met
and lost friends and supporters while working to achieve his dream. In 1968,
King was planning a national occupation of Washington, D.C., to be called
the Poor People's
Campaign, when he was assassinated on April 4 in Memphis, Tennessee. His death was followed
by national mourning, as well as anger leading to riots in many U.S.
cities. King was posthumously awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 1977 and
the Congressional Gold
Medal in 2003. Martin Luther King
Jr. Day was established as a holiday in cities and states
throughout the United States beginning in 1971; the federal holiday was first
observed in 1986. Hundreds of streets in the U.S. have
been renamed in his honor, and King County in Washington was rededicated
for him. The Martin
Luther King Jr. Memorial on the National Mall in Washington,
D.C., was dedicated in 2011.
Dr. King
understood the dangers of him fighting for social change and equality. He knew
many people wouldn’t embrace his vision for a different America. He also knew there
would be people who were not going to be able to be a part of his dream and
that he may not live to see his own dream come about. The knowledge of where
his dreams may take him did not stop him from dreaming and working towards that
dream.
Reach for as many personal dreams you can acheive. Hopefully, while acheiving personal dreams, you will reach for altruistic dreams which benifits humanity. HAVE A DREAM.
***THIS IS AN EXCERPT FROM A WORK IN PTOGRESS: " They Can't Go With You Where You Are Going"
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Tuesday, January 9, 2024
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