Women Want To Get Married Today?

  

It is almost Valentine's Day and many women are waiting and hoping for the PROPOSAL. Candy, flowers, and jewelry are fine, but women prefer to become the MRS. At Valentine's Day time, women seem to be in love more so than any other month. Do woman really want a husband or do they just want others to know someone wants them?

    If you follow Facebook, all you will read is a woman wanting to get married. Women dream of a man asking them to be his. They may just be caught up in the fantasy of a man loving them enough to marry them because research is showing women are NOT in a rush to say ‘I do’ anymore. When they do finally find that special someone they are willing to marry, you may be surprised to know the science or lack thereof on how he becomes the lucky little fellow. Below are some statistics on the marital condition of the U.S. and a few looks at how women select their mates. Get ready to be SHOCKED.

    The percentage of adults living with a spouse decreased from 52% to 50% over the past decade according to U.S. Census Bureau's annual America's Family and Living Arrangement report as of November 29, 2021.We heard many GROANS when the pandemic made us stay at home for an extended period of time with our special someone. The good news was women seemed more able to tolerate their spouse than their children for long periods of time. A win for men, but only slightly.

    Among those ages 25 to 54, 59% of all Black adults were unpartnered in 2019. What's up with that Black people? We are beautiful, have gorgeous bodies, and run urban culture and fashion but can't fall in love and marry? I need a word with yall later in another blog post. 

     Unmarried Hispanics were 38%, Whites 33%, and Asians 29%. Millennials, with the oldest being 40 now (I thought I was a Millennial. NOT) are slower to start their own households and are cohabitating more than Gen Zers. Members of the Gen Z years were born between 1997 and 2012. So as of 2023, the Gen Z age range is anywhere from 11 to 26. I have told yall NOT to shack up over and over again.

    There is NO such thing as a trial marriage to get to know each other better or to see if you get along. In MARRIAGE you will get to know each other as the years go by. Hopefully, your spouse will change and grow every decade. Each spouse has to change and grow, adapting to each others growth, or DECLINE. If you are trying to find whether your intended has faults, guess what, EVERYONE has faults. Marriages are not smooth sailing, but married people commit to OVERCOMING problems. Don't be a trial for anyone! You will always FAIL a trial. Be the person someone says, "They may not be perfect but they are perfect for me and my love for them covers anything that may annoy me or we have to work through." Cohabitating or shacking is a 'get out of jail free' card when playing married gets a little rocky. Don't live with anyone who can't determine if you are the one they want to marry. You will be doing wife/husband duty with someone who doesn't love you enough to marry. You are gambling hoping if you hang around long enough they MAY choose you. 

    Women are choosing to get higher education and to focus on their careers. Pew reported Millennials with a bachelor's degree, or more, are marrying at a higher rate than those with less education, but they are living without children. Women are earning 60% of college degrees and hitting the workplace in all areas hard. Women are preparing for a future with or without a spouse. 

    In the last 30 years, marriage rates have gone down by almost 40% and divorce rates saw a decrease to 3 out of every 1,000 of the population. DUH. If you're not marrying, you're not divorcing.

    It is predicted there will be 2.5 million weddings in 2022, the most since 1984 according to the Wedding Report, a trade group that gathered its data through a survey of vendors and consumers. Median age to marry for first time marrying adults was 38.4 for men and 28.6 for women in early 2021. WOMEN, dont waste your time on men under the age of 35 if you are serious about marriage. There are 37 million one-person households in 2021 or 21% of all U.S. households. In 2021, 34% of adults 15 and over had never been married, up from 23% in 1950.

    As much as we love our independence, we are still a flawed and socially linked, if not dependent, in matters of the heart. Women pay even more attention than men to what others THINK about their choice in a partner, according to an Indiana University study described on Jezebel.com. Women want other women to LOOK but not touch their man. If no one else wants him then women may begin to think "Why do I want him?" So, he has to be desirable to others also.

    Not only do they take notice of what their friends think, but they want to know how complete strangers assess their potential partner. It's called "mate choice copying," and it's documented in many other species, especially fish and birds. I am always amazed how women are quick to wear or purchase in mass the same thing, COPY other women's fashion. Take makeup for instance. You can distinctly see women are doing the exact same thing with makeup (contouring to drag queen status) and baby hair (the black women know what I mean by baby hair) on each and every head. Women are wearing eyelashes so big and thick they could take flight when they bat their eyelids. So, mate copying is not a far stretch to believe.

    EYE CANDY prevails for surprising reasons. New research suggests that women measure a man's potential as a mate based on the masculinity of his features. The man who has a square jaw and a very well-defined brow ridge is considered a great short-term partner because he will be adventurous, fun and exciting. He is not considered a long-term partner because he will likely be too busy with his competitive challenges than he would be on being a good partner. This may come as a shock to the Red Pill movement encouraging MASCULINITY on a nuclear scale. Science says he will be a short-term fling.

    The woman who is looking for a long-term mate will be seeking the man with gentler features, more rounded in the face and with fuller lips. This is a man who would be less likely to CHEAT on his spouse or abandon them for his adventures or more. Participants in the study overwhelmingly defined the men with the most masculine features as the men with the greatest risk.

    Romantically and statistically, when you look at the rebellious male figure in a story - his chiseled, square jaw and his emphasized brow ridges define him. He is extremely masculine, and he is extremely difficult to entreat into a long-term relationship. According to other studies in psychology, women tend to view men with very masculine features as great flings, but hardly long-term potential. These are the types of men more likely to abandon them or die young - so while their contribution to producing OFFSPRINGS is great, their potential as a mate for life is not.

    There are other explanations to be offered to mate selection and part of the answer seems to be how much your prospective partner looks like your dad. This is according to researchers at Durham University led by Lynda Boothroyd, who have shown that women who have good childhood relationships with their fathers are more likely to select partners whose faces resemble those of their dads. 

    The researchers were looking for evidence of parental sexual imprinting, a sexual preference for individuals that have some of the characteristics of one's parent.  There is no doubt my daughters want a husband just like dad in character and I won't be surprised if he has features like their father too. Creepy for me to have replicas of my husband hanging around as a son-in-law.

    A group of women were shown photographs of men's faces and asked to rate their attractiveness. The faces were measured (using calipers) and compared to the women's fathers. The women were also asked to rate their relationships with their fathers, in terms of how much time he spent with them and how emotionally involved he was in their upbringing. The results proved they ranked men with features resembling their fathers as attractive.
    
    The study follows on from an earlier effort by another researcher, Tamas Bereczkei, showing that men's wives bore a stronger resemblance to the men's mothers if they had had a good relationship with them as children. The phenomenon of parental sexual imprinting has also been heavily studied in many animal species, for example zebra finches.

    Men complain women confuse and frustrate them to no end. There is so much scientific information regarding attraction and how our minds work in that area. Nothing is exact because most of us are so DYSFUNCTIONAL and UNHEALTHY in many areas of our being, but you can get a clue or red flags. I find so much helpful information when I just look into what my goals are. I do believe once we become our best selves' things fall into place. But we rarely want to do any work on ourselves. We will change or cut our hair, get a new look fashion-wise, and use the right buzz words, but rarely do we change our character and how we show up in life. My YouTube channel deals with a return to health; mentally, spiritually/religiously, financially, sexually, relationally, and physically before we invite a romantic partner into our lives.

    In the Bible, marriage and family ranks very high. We are beginning to find no relevance in marriage anymore due to various reasons. With all the information above it is evident there must first be the ‘DESIRE’ to marry. I hope we women have not given up on this institutionof marriage because of a long laundry list of everything that must be perfect for us to marry, because *****NEWS FLASH****** marriage isn’t perfect. For more wonderful marriage statistics:

http://www.prb.org/Articles/2010/usmarriagedecline.aspx.

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